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Just a question
trekman98 1307 reads
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Hello Ladies,

Have you had any sessions that do not involve sex?  I am seeing a lady in fall and I would like to know how strange I am for not wanting the session to be about sex.  

Thank you,

~Trekman98

There were two times I met up with someone where we didn't have sex that I can recall.

I did not pay for either, however, so I guess they were not strictly sessions.

In one case the gal very very grief stricken over just learning that her dad died.   In the other, the gal showed up just a minute after my (now) ex showed up at the hotel room.

Your desire to have a non-sexual session may well be strange, but that doesn't mean it's wrong.   We all have our things.

.... Just a great massage and that's it. I had bad jet lag and was nervous and tired so I chickened out. My provider was awesome. She completely understood and I hope to one day rebook with her and show her what I'm really capable of! :D

Tippecanoe37 reads

Do you mean no intercourse? No oral?  Does a hand job count as sex?

BDSM (Bondage Discipline/Sado Masochism) often does not end in intercourse sex.

Same with private viewing.

Most girls will give you social rates, so no, it's not 'weird' for them.

 
I would hazard to say, you're probably better off finding a sugar baby on NameYourPrice or SeekingArrangement if you're not looking to have sex. It's way, way cheaper.

It can be cheaper FINANCIALLY, but those types of arrangements usually come with a much higher "price" especially if you're needing your time with a lady to be very discreet: that price usually ends up being your PRIVACY in the very least, by involving drama to the point that your privacy and maybe even your emotions become compromised. Someone once said something brilliant to me about the escort/hobbyist relationship: "You wanna know what I'm REALLY paying you for? I'm paying you to LEAVE!" Think about it. When you pay for someone's time, the expectations are CLEAR and only in rare instances does anyone inappropriately cross the boundaries. When you go off into "dating/arrangement" world where boundaries are NEVER clear, you're just asking for a whole lot of trouble that no amount of money can get you out of, lol.

Depends on the situation and how open you are. I've personally never had an issue, though I have met SBs that I was certain were crazy and probably would steal a kidney from me if they had the chance.

 
The key is discretion, like you said. None of my SBs have known where I live, or what I drive, where I work, my full name, my real phone number, and I don't bring them to the places I frequent where I might bump into people I know. That keeps things pretty insulated. If anything, it's possible to be more insulated with a SB because she doesn't screen you, or want employment information, or to check your ID or anything of the sort. That's all common fair to give to a provider, and I don't believe for a second that information is secure, or even deleted after use.  

Realistically, the worst thing that she can do is make a scene in public, and if you've been careful, you walk away and nothing comes of it.

 

Also, I don't like the notion that I'm paying someone to leave. I like women, I like spending time with them, sometimes that time is clothing optional. If I wanted to use some poor girl like a fleshlight and shoo her to the door, I'd just buy a fleshlight; It'd be easier in practice and conscience.

I'm sure there were times when I thought I was having sex and it was probably just a snooze fest for her. But I'll leave that joke aside for now.  
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I can talk a lot during a session. So I have never had a complete zero-sex session, it wouldn't be inconceivable. It partially depends on the fee; when the fee is lower, I wouldn't mind cuddling and talking and no actual sexing for the duration. With a higher fee, I tell myself that if I don't shut my mouth and get things going that I will be kicking myself later.  
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If I had more time on my schedule (and the funds to support it), I would not mind "wasting" my time in the pleasurable company of beautiful hostess even if we never even approached breaking a law.  I would not consider it a "waste" at all.

I had one kink-centric playdate that ended - to my surprise - without any sexual contact.  Our time was running out and I could tell he was trying to hint at something, but - because I assumed he wanted something else - there were a series of miscommunication fumbles before we sorted out that he wanted me to go.  (He explained as I was dressing that he preferred to keep his kink and sex separate, and that he had booked a second lady to come over after I left.)

I had no judgement about his playtime preferences, but I would have preferred to know in advance so we could have avoided that awkward interlude!  I'm not one to give advice, but I do recommend that you clearly communicate your desires and expectations ahead of your rendezvous...then you can enjoy the hell out of whatever it is you are there for.  :)

xo!  - M.

One of them even wanted to introduce her to his family.  Most of them just wanted a dining companion but paid the full rate for sex.  I'm guessing it's not that unusual.  Personally, I don't get it but I try not to judge.

I do dominatrix sessions as well as massage and escort sessions.  Some of my dominatrix clients request no sex,  as in they just want to be teased for hours.  Massage clients sometimes just want a hand job.  I do also have regular clients that want to just meet for lunch or dinner and for us to catch up and no sex is involved. Not odd, I would just say to make sure you indicate what you are looking for and what you want so there is no confusion.  

Xoxo
Scarlet

And just hang out and talk, shopping.  💋💋  I Prefer all that And SeXXX.   👿

I met one gentleman who made it clear from the very beginning in our correspondence and setting up the date that he was seeking the true "escort" experience in that all he wanted was a woman to be his "escort" for the evening as company with no physical intimacy, even a massage, but that he intended to pay my rate regardless. He was married and struggling with the idea of "cheating" but he was lonely so that was his way of dealing with it at that point in time. He had read my reviews and knew that for those who understand how intellectual stimulation can make the physical experience exponentially better, he could tell that I am the type who can show a guy a good time and make him feel special.... even if it DOESN'T involve sex, and he was not disappointed because he was a very decent gentleman. :) Granted my rates are pretty low compared to most in my area, especially for longer dates and if they were as high as most I would offer a different rate for such occasions, but I still actually let him have much more time than what my rate usually covers as my way of "making that up" to him anyway, lol. I admit I was surprised because those occasions are extremely rare, but I also don't think it's "weird." I didn't get any creepy vibes from him and I had a really wonderful time with him so I definitely don't think you should feel "weird" about your specific requirement and if your chosen lady is smart, she will not make  you feel awkward about that in ANY way either. :)

ROGM38 reads

Sure. I've seen a provider without playing with her. We do play when the need hits. But on a few occasions she invited me to her house just to spend time with me. We just sat snuggled on her couch watching Netflix Movies. We did feel each other up. My hands were in her shirt. She had her hands between my legs.  I have to admit doing that was more fun than playing. She even made dinner for me. It was an Awesome time. She wants to invite me over again. This time she wants to play.

I had booked an hour session with a fellow who just wanted to talk. He went into great detail of his life, his sexless marriage, etc (I won't go into specific details) but we spent the time talking with me giving my honest opinion of everything. I was candid and let him know what my thoughts were. Some time after we did a session where there was intimacy and I truly could not understand why his wife no longer interacted with him. He is an incredible lover sending me over the edge and his kisses and touches lit my fire! We saw each other many times after and I still see him. We also still talk after our playtime. I don't see it as an affront to any provider if you do not want play time. Just let her know in advanced so that she will be aware of it. :)

...just cuddling (sometimes naked lol), kissing, talking and nothing more.
A little bit rare that sexless (date's choice) meetups happen but...they do.

Posted By: trekman98

Hello Ladies,  
   
 Have you had any sessions that do not involve sex?  I am seeing a lady in fall and I would like to know how strange I am for not wanting the session to be about sex.    
   
 Thank you,  
   
 ~Trekman98

Spend your time how you want!

XOXO
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