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Julian7 3269 reads
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Other than a few brave souls out there, almost all girls blur or simply hide their faces in pictures for whatever reason. Granted that the reviews will give some vague idea about the attractiveness of the face, an 8 for one might be someone else's 5. So, if I find the girl unattractive or meh upon seeing her, what would be the etiquette of disengaging so as not to get blacklisted?

impposter115 reads

This Q isn't really about faces. It's simply about how to get out of a situation you would rather not be in. There are a couple of other details that your hypothesis doesn't address.

Posted By: Julian7

Other than a few brave souls out there, almost all girls blur or simply hide their faces in pictures for whatever reason. Granted that the reviews will give some vague idea about the attractiveness of the face, an 8 for one might be someone else's 5. So, if I find the girl unattractive or meh upon seeing her, what would be the etiquette of disengaging so as not to get blacklisted?
Hypothesis 1: You arrive, YOU PRESENT THE ENVELOPE, and, soon after, decide that you don't want to stay. That's your prerogative. I suggest you be polite about it or even lie about it, depending on your interaction with your hostess. I recommend against saying, "You are too ugly for me. I must leave." or "Ugh. You smell like a mangy goat. I must leave."  If it is the first minute and you are still in your coat, but you know you can't be with her, try, "Something horrible happened at home (or work) today and I'm not able to stay. I didn't want to NCNS you, so I am here to give you the envelope and dash. Maybe some other time. ..."  
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If you couldn't decide in the first 30 seconds and are already part way into things, you might try, "Oh man! I've got another migraine coming on. I gotta go." "I'm really sorry but the cigarette smoke odor is killing me. I gotta go." Etc.  You go. The envelope stays.  
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There are some providers who will be offended when someone leaves for any reason. I don't think it's a blacklistable offense for anyone else, but maybe she will refuse to see you ever again (as you hoped, anyway).
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Hypothesis 2: You have not yet and do not want to leave the envelope. A perfectly justifiable reason to bale out and leave is Bait and Switch. Outdated pictures, pictures of someone else, a description that says "25 yo" and you want to say to the person who answered the door, "Hi, I'm here to see your daughter." Etc. That should be easy: "I'm sorry, you're not the girl in the pics or ad. I'm leaving."  
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For an outcall, some guys say, "I gave her $50 and told the B&Ser to leave." Some guys say, "DO NOT REWARD B&S THAT WAY!"
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Hypothesis 3: You have not yet and do not want to leave the envelope. It is NOT B&S. You simply don't like the real face that you couldn't really tell from the blurred pics. You were baited with a blur but YOU created an image in your mind from that blur.  Her real face matches the blur but not your fantasy. That is not her B&S. You owe her the envelope.
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Suck it up and have some fun. She might be a blast! Just keep her in 69 or doggie so you don't have to see her face. Win win! If you can't do that, fall back on some polite excuse to leave. "My medication wears off soon and I have to hurry back to the lab to whip up another batch." Whatever.
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Yes, you are the client - payer and she is the service Provider, but she might not think too much of your face, either.  After all, beauty is in the

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davincib176 reads

If you were to schedule with a provider who blurred her face in her photos on her website/ads and found her to be less attractive when you showed up, the proper etiquette for "disengaging" would more than likely be to pay her for wasting her time.  I'd say at least half her fee, after all if you did all your research either via her reviews, or reaching out to a reviewer then it falls back on you.  Either go through with the session or pay her for lost wages.  Bait and switch aside, it's the least you could do.  

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macdaddy194488 reads

you could always hypothetically collect coins as a hobby..

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Hpygolky91 reads

You could tip her for wasting her time as someone has so eloquently mentioned...me? I'd find a way to have some fun with her. I mean I'm there, she's there...so fuck it...Never had a situation like that come up.

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Ali.Is.Yours102 reads

If she is a nice provider and you do it right away upon entering and getting comfortable, i would politely excuse myself for a phone call, (which happens often) and say you had to go. I would not leave the whole envelope, but at least half and say sorry for inconvenience. There are a lot of girls who dont blur their faces as well, so maybe just stick to that lol. Or, since I'm not one that blurs my face, for multiple reasons, after verification is complete, maybe ask for a selfie?....

Good luck!

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AHappyCamper90 reads

Regardless of whether it's before or after verification will result in her canceling.  If she's blurred her face, she did so specifically because she's wanting to maintain her privacy.  

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coeur-de-lion79 reads

Many times with a provider's looks, but have gone through with the session anyway.  In many instances, it turned out to be a great time, and I have even ended up repeating with girls that I would have passed on had their face not been blurred in the ad photos.

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JJLLRRKK197194 reads

There is a big difference between a 5 and an 8. The scale that TER has provided us makes is simple, clean and easy. 5 is easy that means the girl is average looking.  

One can look at someone's reviews and look at their scores from looks to performance. Though I must admit you are going to have to grow accustom to many of the girls who blur their face. Many of them have photos where you can make out there looks.  

As far as trying to get out of a date after you have shown up. Then why did you book the date in the first place I would ask. Why? Because after the first five minutes, if one can not display good character then I know it will be just a date and I will not probably seen them again. I am skilled enough to still make it a nice time for the both of us.  

My first provider ever did not look like her photos exactly though she was attractive and her intelligence made her more sexy then I could have imagined. Many of these ladies are intelligent and to me it sounds like your here just for the looks which tells me a bit about you.  

My advice is if you think this situation with a girl might happen save yourself the time, the provider as well by all means, and don't book the date.

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GaGambler127 reads

Thanks to "grade inflation" an 8 is an "average" looking woman and a 5 is somewhere between "homely" and "ugly" leaning a lot more towards ugly than homely.

 
Even a 10 means very little due to the low standards or bad eyesight of the average TER reviewer.

 
Personally, I walk without leaving if I don't find the girl attractive with a couple of notable exceptions. If the girl is the same size, shape and age as advertised, but she is a "butterface" I have been known to stick around and go through with the session, (with the lights down of course. lol) as I don't believe that is a deliberate attempt to scam me. OTOH, if the woman is notably fatter, older or has otherwise altered her pics in order to mislead me into booking a session with her, she gets nothing from me but the door slamming behind me on my way out the door.

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Oldtimemonger110 reads

Posted By: GaGambler

 Personally, I walk without leaving if I don't find the girl attractive with a couple of notable exceptions. If the girl is the same size, shape and age as advertised, but she is a "butterface" I have been known to stick around and go through with the session, (with the lights down of course. lol) as I don't believe that is a deliberate attempt to scam me. OTOH, if the woman is notably fatter, older or has otherwise altered her pics in order to mislead me into booking a session with her, she gets nothing from me but the door slamming behind me on my way out the door.

What do you do if the girl has the lights down low with candlelights and is wearing an outfit that covers up weight or baby damage? You have less than a minute to make up your mind before handing her the money.  

I'd rather have a little extra weight or age than a butterface. How do you judge age and weight without shining a light on their face and taking their clothes off to check.

Sure if the girl is obviously way older than the picture or way heavier you can tell even with the lights down low but it's not always that easy.

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GaGambler75 reads

Just who ever said that I abide by the "hooker rule" that I "hand over the money" within the first minute of having arrived?

 
I don't hand over the money until I am good and ready to do so. and you are speaking for yourself when you say you'd rather have a little "extra weight or age" rather than a "butterface" You can always turn out the lights on a homely face, but you can't turn down the lights on fat or on the bad skin that often comes with old age.

 
Surely a guy like you doesn't hand over the money without being sure about the looks of the woman you are paying. If so, you really need to quit whining about how bad these hookers are because it's your own damn fault if you pay a woman not even having got a good look at her.

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Dr Who revived71 reads

Don't most hookers "require" the use of an envelope?

And I know you follow those rules  LOL

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GaGambler92 reads

for him to claim you have only a minute in which to pay is patently ridiculous.

 
He is never going to win troll of the year against such competition as  BBFS4ever making posts as naive as that one.

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Oldtimemonger100 reads

I don't waste time after I've been hugged and said hello to. If I don't see anything obviously wrong I hand over the money. How do you handle it? How long do you take before handing over the money? Do you do some sort of a "complete inspection" of their body before giving them the money?

You claim you don't care about "butterfaces." That's the one thing I can tell right away even under low lighting conditions. That is when I walk out. It takes me less a minute from discerning a butterface to walk out time.

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GaGambler122 reads

I never said "I don't care" about butterfaces, I said that I would occasionally go through a session with a butterface.

 

I know you are trying to dig out of the hole you dug for yourself, but what must suck for you is that your words are still there for all to see. Weak, weak, weak. lol

 
So unless you plan on taking the cowards way out and deleting your posts, I will let your earlier words contradict your latest post for me.

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Oldtimemonger102 reads

The fact you are willing to "occasionally" go through with a session with a butterface tells me all I need to know. There is no reason to delete anything. I'm not digging out of any hole because I'm not in one.

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mrfisher91 reads

Because it's what's in the inside that counts.

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JJLLRRKK197186 reads

I gave an educational point of view and we all know that 5 is not average. I agree that personally would walk as well.

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keystonekid100 reads

each year. With repeat visits, there is no mystery about appearance. When seeing new ladies for me, I will do additional research such as PMing reviewers I know and trust.  

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