I will having my first threesome soon. My ATF currently does duos with another very attractive provider, who has several great duo reviews with other women. So I am really looking forward to this specific combination. However, my ATF is sometimes late, like 30 to 45 minutes late.
So what is the proper etiquette when one of the two providers in a duo is going to be really late? Should we wait? Should we start early and then I'm just seriously overpaying for a normal appointment during that first half hour or so? What if the provider who is on time (and is playing host) has another appointment right after? I realize that this would be less of a problem is I could book these women for 3 or 4 hours, but at the present time, a 90-minute appointment is all that I can afford. Losing half or a third of that time would be disappointing and possibly somewhat of a ripoff.Then at least they'd be late together!
That's a great suggestion, but my live-in gf with an unpredictable work schedule would react badly if she caught us. Based on past conversations, my gf is only slightly bi-curious. My ATF has seen pictures of my gf and has a nice plan for seducing her into a threeway, but it would take a few hours and still possibly not work. And the cost would be comparable to this upcoming duo which is likely to be a much better experience.
A better possibility would be to get a hotel room near both providers and ask them to carpool there. It would add to my cost, but not a lot compared to the overall cost.
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what should happen if one of them is late? It involves them, so talk with THEM about it.
And since the other provider has done duos with your ATF before, maybe this other provider is already aware of the lateness issue and has ideas on how to handle it in a duo situation.
If I'm reading your post correctly, you plan a threesome at the incall of the on-time gal who is not your ATF and you've never met.
Pick up your AFT at her place or some location nearby. Keep the host informed of progress (I'm going to pick up ATF, still on time; I'm waiting for ATF, she's 5 minutes late; etc..) If she's more than 10 minutes late, cancel the threesome, inform the host of the situation, but ask her if she's interested in a 1-hour session so she's not completely left in the cold.
IF they won't be carpooling to your location, and one of them is late, the 90-min will not start until they are both there, and any ensuing financial responsibility to the first arrival would be between the providers and doesn't involve you. If the late girl thinks she will have to hand over part of her share for being late, I'd be willing to bet that she makes it to the session on time.
30-45 minutes of tardiness often probably means the provider knows she can be late with you and doesn't put forth the effort to be on time. Since this is a duo, I would stress the issue of promptness. Life does happen so sometimes it's ok to be late. But 30+ minutes all the time is usually considered "unprofessional" but to each its own. As you stated , she is your ATF so she's comfortable.
If one is running late, either party should call to disclose to the other that he is running late. This happened to me recently where the provider texted me but I didn't get it because I was driving. That is why I say call first because the hobbyist or provider could be enroute to the rendezvous point but because he was unable to respond then the next thing you know one of the parties is under the assumption that it is a no call no show.
As I work a duo partner we always ride together. No matter any of the situations we come together. Now, showing up 30 to 45min is totally unacceptable to me. I mean yes things do come up but if this is happening consistently there is a real problem on her end. I always try to make sure I am always on time. That is just normal etiquette.
I'm surprised someone would even have an ATF who was always 30-45 minutes late and rip you off for that amount of time.
Usually she is right on time, or maybe needs five more minutes to get ready. Only twice was she 30+ minutes late, and both times she made it up to me with OTC time after our appointment was over. We start late, I still get the full time I paid for, and then we spend another half hour or so hanging out afterwards. So she hasn't ripped me off at all, but I'm worried because this other provider in the duo has a strict policy about lateness: 10 minutes late = NCNS.
Chronic tardiness is a sign of disrespect. I would never continue to see a provider without mutual respect for each other's schedules.
Good points. Lateness was never an issue until recently. I've read all her reviews, and for a long time, nobody said anything about her being late. Looking back through recent reviews, I see complaints about her being late starting in a few months ago, even when she is hosting. So it's not necessarily lack of respect for me, since it's happening to other guys, too. I understand that some people aren't good at time management, but this wasn't a problem before.
Anyway, the threesome may not be happening. I was hoping for this weekend and she said that she would set it up with the other provider, but I haven't heard anything for two days. No time, no place, not even a price. Yeah, I'm going to contact her today and ask again, but I'm not going to beg or nag. I would rather go shop for a new ATF.
If she is currently doing duo's with the other gal, just let her arrange them both showing up at the same time. Maybe if you are at a hotel, you can wait at the bar and enjoy a drink if one shows up earlier.
My atf is always late.... And brings a friend along with her.... I always do outcall with her, and I always plan for her to be late...
I try to rest up and not get upset, although I really hate tardiness... She eventually shows up and it is always worth the wait.... (There is good and bad when you play with a "non-clockwatcher")
She has never been a no show, but one night I had to cancel, cause I got too drunk and needed to pass out.....lol... The next night was great tho!!
I will mention that this all happens while I am on vacation and not on any schedule whatsoever....
(Except for golf...lol)
Good luck!!
I have had it happen before once or twice. The guy is informed she is running behind and I hang out with him until she arrives. We always make up for the lateness. If he is short on time then we could get started and just have her join us but most can wait 20 or 30 min if running behind due to an accident/traffic. We have actually both been ready before and the guy is severely late. As long as there is communication everything ends up going smoothly.
all of my 3-some experience has been that both providers were at the hosting provider's incall when I arrived on time. Granted, I only indulge in a 3-some about once a year but that has been my experience.
I really appreciate the advice that I got in this thread. Unfortunately, my ATF is problematic and this may not work out. She and I have been discussing this particular duo for months, but when I mentioned it again at the end of our latest appointment , her previous enthusiasm was absent. They only have one duo review here, but have done "many" duos that weren't reviewed. When I finally requested the duo last week, she said that she would handle scheduling it since I hadn't met the other provider yet.
Two days went by without an update, so I texted my ATF to ask if we were on for the day I requested, and if so, when and where. She said it wasn't going to happen, but offered to do a regular call with me. I asked if she meant it was wasn't happening on the day I requested, or if she had stopped working with the partner. I also asked if I needed to screen with the other girl, and assured her that I was still going to keep seeing her.
My ATF flipped out and sent me seven consecutive text messages, berating me for making assumptions and also telling me that it was fine if I wanted to stop seeing her. She also clarified that the unavailability was just for that day, but mistakenly claimed that she had already told me that.
Obviously, it seems like I need to forget the ATF and move on. She got her first bad review a few days ago, and that guy was mainly unhappy that they started really late. Her most recent review was very positive, except for another comment about extreme lateness. Between the chronic lateness and this booking issue, she is becoming a hassle. Then again, the sex keeps getting better, and the conversations have always been enjoyable. She claims that she loves her job, but maybe I'm seeing warning signs that she is burning out.
So I'm going to wait a while and then try again at booking the duo. If it's a hassle again, then I'm going to see the other provider instead for some 1-on-1, and then try to book the duo through that provider. The other provider is highly-rated, reliable and punctual. However, she needs two current references and I just have the ATF. Might need to see another provider from last year again so I have two current references. I would rather not go this route, as it will cost extra money and delay the duo.
A lot of red flags here. I'd move on.