Just had a shitty ass client that pretty much ruined my whole day and reminded me why nobody sees newbies. But I have a larger question: I have taken all the accumulated bad clients over the years, and posted them not only on the National Escorts Blacklist, but a private blacklist I circulate with other providers in my area. Should I make this list public on my website? Because it's occurring to me that that there's simply no repercussions for this bullshit. It's simply not fair that my entire night can be ruined by one asshat that doesn't understand common courtesy, and can now remain anonymous. Are there any steps I can take after a bad client? Is this too far? Or do I have no rights whatsoever, and I have to be a doormat to whoever it is that passes rudimentary screening, no matter how much they screw me over?
I'm curious.this means that the bad clients will just change handles/names/numbers. Also you should never tell a client you've blacklisted them for the same reason
true, true... but you're assuming that the same dude that refuses to answer the phone or texts, actually cares what I post on my site. Are you saying I have no recourse? Then what is the point of screening, exactly?
is exactly how you describe what you already do. I'm sorry some jerk ruined your day, please don't let it ruin your week.
not no recourse, add them to all the blacklists you can but don't tell them you are doing it!
If I understood correctly, it sounds like screening was both the problem and the potential solution. Have you considered (or tried) requiring at least one solid reference from a TS the potential client has already seen? xo - M.
Hahaha than that would eliminate almost all of my new clients. The tgirl universe works differently... i have never ever been asked for a referral, and most guys dont want a public "ok" given to them, as most are ashamed of their tgirl fascination and some "regular" providers will refuse to see them.
The tgirl universe works differently. I have never been asked - or provided - a reference to any other provider in my life.
And you wonder why you may have more problems with newbies.
Well if you know nothing about your potential clients before hand, by first hand credible knowledge from providers , they are all new. If you don't try to screen / verify. Your post is bizzare IMO.
but an occasional clunker goes with this territory whether provider or client, sad to say.
Better screening would help cut down the frequency of bad clients.
Ask for references. That'll help screen out at least some of the shitty clients.
Maybe you should not take Newbies, only guys with good reviews/references.
I used to see unreviewed Craigslist girls when I was young(er), stupid, and willing to fight/argue. Not my cup of tea anymore.
If you publish your Blacklist, you will be known as the public Blacklister. This will scare away guys you probably want to attract.
I am seriously considering banning newbies altogether. They are the cause of literally all my client problems.
Im not sure how people would react negatively to a "public blacklister", unless they are the kind of person who would engage in blacklistable behavior in the first place. If i saw a listing on a providers site of dudes that ran out on appointments or stole from the provider... why would i think negatively about her and NOT the dude in question?
Just because they are on the providers site list, that makes it factual? Not necesarilly.
Unless you go and investigate for yourself maybe not best to take sides in their battle. , your two examples are pretty weak and hard to back up . Dude ran out ok, were you in room with them and seen dude run out? Shorted money. How does she back it up. A selfie minus two 20 dollar bills that she sends to other providers. Black market behavior happens by hookers and the johns aplenty.
Think about the side effects of posting this info publicly. No one else does it. If I came to your site to check you out before seeing you, I might be concerned that you might out me even if things went well. That would make me think twice about calling you; your business could suffer. Is it really worth it?
Hello:
I've heard this phrase before regarding clients - but what are a couple of examples of what makes a client "shitty assed?"
As for the OP, she can do as she pleases, but it makes her sound petty and vindictive which is a HUGE turnoff to most clients. Maybe her business is so great she can afford to chase off prospective clients, but if not I think she should seriously rethink her strategy.
Funny that you think it makes me sound "petty and vindictive"... when in reality, ive just been hurt and screwed over by a client i went out on a limb for. Does the client bear no responsibility in this at all? No compassion or sympathy at all?
but you seem to be taking the "shotgun approach" and taking it out on anyone who think ever did you wrong or was just a lousy customer and THAT makes you look petty and vindictive.
Do you honestly think you are the only person that has ever been fucked over, or that this is a one way street where johns fuck over hookers, but hookers never fuck over johns? Give me a break. "petty and vindictive' is EXACTLY how you sound.
A "good client" = kind, polite, clean, and on time.
Anything else can be shitty assed, with varying levels of shitty in-between.
If youre a dentist, whats a good client? One that shows up on time, and has a good demeanor.
Thats all i ask. Its not much.
but you already know that. I think most gals get a certain percentage of guests where the session doesn't turn out as they would like... it goes with the territory.
But that doesn't mean you have to like it or try to figure out a way to not have that happen. Perhaps after initial screening, require a phone call to your "private line" phone (specified time window for such calls) where you get to talk one on one & a sense if they are a good fit. Or something of your own invention. But if you have a lot of this, your screening... which YOU solely control... needs adjusting.
I don't know what happened... but sometimes, in this most personal of interactions, things don't click. A decent person... or both... should recognize this fact & part ways as decent human beings.
Sorry for your bad experience. This community is no different than any other communities. There are decent kind people, and there are pricks, assholes and bitches. I concur with most of the other comments; I.e. Don't take the war public......just move on!
As far as NB going private; from a player who was outed for bogus reasons a few years ago, it had run its course. Most legit providers I have encountered never gave NB much credibility. Despite the fact i was wrongfully blacklisted, it has had zero impact on my hobbying encounterss.