I would not expect many guys (at least the ones on this site) would pay for a non-sexual encounter; but do you have a favorite that you see not because of having dynamite looks, or being fantastic in the sack, but because you enjoy their company so much that you will come back to see them over and over?
I know I do, several, in fact.
I have one ATF. In fact, she's the only one I do repeat with. She has both "dynamite looks" and is "fantastic in the sack". However, I've seen several other ladies I could say that about, yet I don't keep running back to see them. It's all about her personality, class, poise and how good she makes me feel about myself ... even if it is all bullshit.
By the way I have paid for dates I had no plans of getting laid. See post link to below. The woman's mind and personality is the most sexy part of a woman that I want to repeat with. I have only repeated once for looks (regretted it), a few times for skill (regretted it), but I repeat a lot based on who the lady is personality wise (haven't regretted it yet).I have paid more than once just for time/company of a lady.
... in a non sexual way and would love to spend time with her but I will not pay for it. In fact I stopped seeing her as a provider because ultimately I was more interested in talking with her.
No, I would NEVER pay for a non-sexual encounter with ANY provider.
I suppose it's because I'm good-natured, normal, and good-looking enough to have great non-sexual experiences with lots of women without paying for it. I helps to have a personality and be both engaging, articulate, and somewhat mysterious at the same time.
Yes, it sucks to be me.
I know I do, several, in fact.
I am still a newbie, but I am thinking about getting an appointment once in a while just for dinner and talk. I don't think it has to be sexual in order to have a good time.
I see my ATF and another gal on a fairly regular basis for non sexual, non paid encounters. That being said, both ladies are very attractive and great in the sack. If they were not I wouldn't have seen them more than once and never would have developed a friendship beyond the envelope with either of them. Now, I enjoy my time with both of these ladies immensely and wouldn't miss an opportunity to spend time with them so I guess the nicest thing I can say is that I don't NEED the sexual component to enjoy spending time with them.
I have several ladies whom I see, and on occasion it has been non-sexual. I must admit, my favorite part of a woman's body is her brain.
Having an imtimate incounter is important for ones well being. They're a lot of beautiful souls out there. Just keep looking til you find them.
Sending lots of sweet, luving energy out there to all the TER readers.
Big OXOX's
Jewels Bresson
I see providers for one reason and one reason only ,
sex , sex, and more sex .
If I live to be much older , I might look at things in
a different light .
I know I do, several, in fact.
I have plenty of platonic female friends I enjoy having dinner with and enjoy their company. It doesn't cost me anything, other than offering to pay for dinner.
I see providers because I want SEX. That's what I expect. If I enjoy their conversation and company, that's a plus, and will consider a repeat if the sex is so-so but the company is exceptional. But sex is the primary reason for me to see providers.
Maybe my situation is different because I'm single? Maybe most of the guys that enjoy the non-sexual encounters are married?
a single (or married) woman of his own rank and age?
I wonder.
I had such a relationship with a woman, and enjoyed it very much. Then she came on to me and wanted sex, so what the hell, we went off to the bedroom. A few months later the whole thing imploded, and pissed me off.
Never again.
road of they are friends.
I have a hobby that has me around several men on a regular basis. They see me as a friend, but I have never lead them to believe or acted in a way that would indicate I was anything more then a friend to any of them. Most of them knew me when I was married, and new cheating was not my thing. Once divorced, some asked me out, but I wasnt stupid enough to say yes, mainly because I wanted their respect as a driver and not just a female.
I have several male friends that see me as a female "buddy"...I like it that way and we enjoy eachothers company to the fulliest extent.
I never answered the thread below as to "clients with no sex" . Yes I have one particular client who requires going out in public to different events and such that requires comapanionship and stimulating conversation as opposed to anything in the bedroom. I later learned that anything sexual for him was not an opinion as there was a problem in that department. No I never asked, just something he brought up once. I didnt pry. It didnt phase me one way or another because he always acted romantic during our "time" together, just sex was something he wasnt "physically" able to do.
So, answer to your question, yes a man can be friends with a woman. we all know once you go from friends to "fuck buddies" its all down hill after that..
Especially when you had a nice platonic relationship? I think I now understand why you see providers.
The only platonic relationships I've had with single women I find attractive is when they won't have sex with me.
In this particular case, the gal decided that if I'm going to run around and see escorts, then she can't be my friend or lover.
Now she knew about that before we turned sexual, but for some reason it was after she initiated sex (And believe me, she was completely pushy about it.) then a few weeks after that she starts on her high horse routine.
I wasn't getting this sex for free either.
She was not well off so I was helping her with all kinds of bills, plus taking her out for all kinds of outings, etc.
I should have known better.
Match.com: you can listen her crap all day long and it's ( almost) free!
A new kind of providers, Mindbanger-hookers charging to listen to their crap!
You girls are good, I did underestimate the pussy power!
I have been very lucky to have found a few ladies that I really enjoy spending time with outside the bedroom and some of them have turned into my personal friends where we will occassionally meet for lunch or dinner even when we don't have playdate scheduled.
With my current ATF I only schedule extended trips with her because we get along so well and when we finally manage to leave the hotel we like to go exploring, shopping etc. I find that the personal connection that I have with my friends to be at least as important as the sexual connection and it makes the time together much more enjoyable and it is a major reason that I see her on a regular basis.