A handful of providers over the past year or so have struck me as being 'different'.
They wouldn't kiss, just on the lips, absolutely no tongue.
But they do not have an issue with giving a BBBJ.
Do not understand the reasoning behind it. Before someone makes a smart@ss comment - no it is not hygiene but a general policy of these providers. I could understand no kisses along with CBJ.
Any thoughts?
........ in my life as a bouncer in a brothel, The ladies would share their thoughts with me. Sometimes, they would share their bodies too, lol.
What some would say was that DFK was more intimate to them than sucking a cock and that they always saved something intimate for their SO. Some would say that they just don't like trading tongues. Some would say that most of the guys were shitty kissers.
The discussion about what is more intimate was discussed also. Most of the ladies would say that if you have body shame, then sucking a cock is thought as more intimate. Interesting thought.
Some would not have a real orgasm and saved that for their SO. Who would have thought.
Now, that was a very long time ago. I'm sure there are more reasons than there are people to give them.
It's a shame, I so enjoy tenderly exploring all a young lady's body parts with my tongue.
So, some providers think tongue on dick not as intimate as tongue on tongue . So freaking weird...
Well, you would think that if you've been conditioned to have to hide your dick from the world. Body shaming culture will do that . Even most of these heauxs will cock shame us.
All that tender tissue in the mouth is far more vulnerable and intimate.
In my opinion, your point further validates my question. Body shaming culture and hiding dicks would imply that providing BBBJ is as intimate (if not more) than kissing.
....... to me kissing is far more intimate because I'm sharing the same thing that she is sharing.
Intimacy =into me see.
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(Not that I'd have any personal experience with that, wise guys 8o)
...with a stripper she said she would fuck me before she would kiss me. She said kissing is very personal as it's truly in your face. There are all kinds of ways to fuck that are not in your face.
Several other ladies civie and otherwise have expressed the same sentiment.
prefer K9 over mish, or CG.
perhaps.. yet to be with one who prefers K9 because of those reasons and hope that remains the case
That I understand - fucking before kissing, assuming fucking is covered (as it should be).
But not kissing and still providing a BBBJ does not make much sense
...so the idea of the face to face acts being very personal can apply in both cases. Face to face is most intimate of all. It's that intimacy they save for boyfriend, etc. or simply don't want to share with clients.
It may not make sense to you but makes plenty of sense to me. There really is no point to argue what someone consents to doing. Some people like dildos up their culo, what is the point of dissecting people's boundaries or interests. You can't smell a dick while talking to someone....I've been able to smell bad breath a mile away and there is nothing enjoyable about being in someone's slimy mouth cavity. Blame my many years in the dental field and massge field (having to take in someone's horrible breath in my work space) for not wanting to jump down throats. As for a bbbj being as intimate..it's not. If you think so...clearly you have never had a kiss that literally will make you melt or knock your socks off or that you'll never forget as long as you live. It's totally ok to not understand something but what is your need to compare and reason why someone does things the way they want? If you aren't going to see a provider who doesn't kiss....why does it even matter? Everyone has preferences and thankfully we are on a forum where apl the ladies offer something...whether you like/understand it or not.
If they're using the "it's too personal" bs on a stick, then believe what you will. I'm from a generation where a "kiss" is truly everything and at my rates yes, I share that...intensely, enjoyably and willingly. Can't imagine meeting someone without that part. If you're mostly meeting millenials, well then, not so much LOL, especially if the guy is double her age (come on really).
It differentiates a service from an experience IMO. It really depends on the woman and isn't that the part of the "review" system here to figure that out for yourself "before" booking her? lol
I prefer not to kiss because to me it is more intimate. I am not with a provider for the gfe..... however I do want a bbbj.... so those girls that don't want to kiss but want to suck my dick raw are perfect for me.
See! Guys like you love me. Lol.
A good french kiss is to die for. Sure, a good blow job feels great and I can cum from a well done BBBJ, but to have a girl that close to your face, to feel her breath on you, to listen to her whimpers so close to your ears, with her soft lips on yours, I mean, oh my God, I practically fall in love.
I can see why a provider wouldn't want to offer it. I appreciate the ones that do.
All the ladies i know feel the same way. Mr door man is telling the truth about the way we feel. Honestly kissing or holding hands these are very personal and heart felt only for one.
weird i know, we could suck your cock but tongue kissing up close is a to real. fuck that. lol that is my guys.
I dont have a guy 'but im just saying i understand why no french kissing
and provider better be a good and passionate kisser like I am or I won`t return. Love kissing a beautiful girls mouth, that`s just appetizer to enhance the affection, intimacy and then then the oral and sex entree'. It`s the complete experience, not any one without the other. The DFK stuff isn`t the same, doesn`t really get it for moi, too gonzo over the top.
Fortunately my two ATFs are great kissers and thankful for that.
Think "pussy power" but don`t omit the "pucker power"
I'd honestly rather hire a provider that only offered DFK and nothing else, over a provider that offered everything but DFK. It is absolutely essential in order for me to enjoy the experience. Sex without DFK feels really weird, straight up unnatural in my opinion.
That being said, I think the trope or stereotype that most providers don't offer it is untrue. Gaga mentioned in another thread similar to this that he did a search and 75% of the providers offered DFK. So that does mean there's a decent number who won't, but most do.
Not only does your profile disagree with your post, but so do most of your reviews which state specifically that you not only DFK, but that you do so passionately.
So who is lying, you or your reviewers?
Hookers are people too lol, we all have lives separate from the hobby. I think it's weird that many people don't get it or understand why. I am a freak...I love many naughty things and kissing strangers isn't one of them. For me kissing is intimate and special not to be shared with anyone but the man I married. There are very few things that we only share between each other and kissing is on that list. Also, even if that wasn't the case it would be a ymmv basis since I just really don't find kissing that fun if I don't know the person. I am not gonna pretend to enjoy something that I don't for the sake of a dollar. My sessions are 100% real and I only offer things that I truly love and enjoy. I reallllly like bbj and not kissing lol. Hey that's just me.
I had many people tell me in the beginning I wouldn't be successful if I don't kiss or offer greek. Well, that hasn't been the case and so far everyone has understood and really enjoyed their time with me. If you're looking for kissing...I'm not your girl. If you're looking for a sensual woman who doesn't need your lips to make you feel good, than I'm your girl and am totally ok with that lol.
Ps-only exception to the rule is if you are a female or a cuck. (I have a special place in my heart for a cucks and ladies)
Maddy
I think it just strikes a lot of people as inconsistent to think that kissing is something intimate and special that should only be shared with someone you're married too but are okay with fucking a stranger. In pretty much all cases, you kiss somebody first. Therefore, you know them less than when you fuck them. At parties and nightclubs, lots of girls will kiss a guy but not have sex with them. Its very rare for it to go the other way around though.
Especially when you consider it from a basic ideology perspective. If you are okay with fucking a stranger and don't see it as something intimate and special that should be reserved for marriage, then clearly you are able to separate the physical pleasure of sex, as a separate entity from love. Or, in other words, love is unnecessary to wanna have sex. Therefore, you agree that having another person give you bodily pleasure is not something you need to be in love with someone to enjoy. Seeing kissing as something reserved for marriage seems completely opposed to this view though, that you think an act in which another person gives you bodily pleasure cannot be separated from love.
To a lot of people, its pretty much the equivalent of saying, "I'm fine with strangers fucking me or making out with me, but I won't let any of them massage me, only my husband should be allowed to do that."
Because some men are not good kissers and it's easier to deal with a dick than a wandering tongue that's trying to lick your face/ be shoved down your throat. Also good oral hygiene is sometimes overlooked.
A kiss is just a kiss,
a sigh is just a sigh.
The fundamental things apply
that said no kissing...NONE, but she would gobble that goob in about 2 seconds...lol. I did, out of total habit, after I came in the mish position leaned down and gave her a quick peck on the lips....and she said "you got your kiss anyway".
I love both DFK and BBBJ, have no problems accepting that. I've gotten BBBJ most of time even from providers whose profile state CBJ (but have been pleased with my hygiene). However, my love of DFK is what causes me angst when I don't get it.
For providers who mention in their profile, I agree I go in knowing this and cannot complain but can definitely wonder why that is because rarely have I gotten a plausible response. It is the ones that mention full GFE in profile and then won't do DFK but do BBBJ that kinda bugs me (and darn it, I have the right to be even if you disagree)
Just a couple of days back, encountered one who initially didn't do DFK but again hygiene played a part and within 15 minutes or so our lips were locked and tongues were exploring each other.
Hence, was wondering what are the reasons for no DFK policy and if as someone mentioned earlier, a prelim research showed that 75% providers allow DFK then those are the ones I'll need to concentrate on (and BBBJ of course )
Different strokes for different folks. Xoxo
Afraid that is out of question. BBFS is not something I'd like to even think about.
But you go ahead and do what you feel is right.
I'm GFE and I DO kiss. DFK as well.
But it IS more intimate. Sometimes it can be a bit uncomfortable, depending on the chemistry.
But I'm probably a bit odd in that I find something to like about almost everyone.
If the guy is not the most attractive, but he's sweet, and I can feel his loneliness....then "c'mere honey. Kiss me."
But going down it EASY. First of all, I love it. And it is not intimate in the same way that DFK is.
It might seem strange to you guys....but it's natural to me.
Also....I do actually cum.... when I'm in the right space, and all is good. I love letting go.