Hey guys,
A few years ago, my wife told me she had had an affair. Furthermore, she said she did it because she suspected me of having an affair. Long conversation... lots of emotions... but long story short, I told her about my hobbying and we arrived at a deal, where we would have an "open marriage", with both of us allowed to date and sleep with others, as long as we tell each other about it, in as much detail as our partner wants.
Does she have a TER profile yet?
Haven't done that in a marriage. Both my marriages ended because of changing needs and we couldn't adjust to those changes together. I was monogamous in both marriages, not because of some moral dictates but because I wanted to be at the time. Different things are appropriate at different times. Don't know if i would be again, I can't tell the future.
I had been in a relationship with a P4P lady for a while and we agreed to have everything on the table. Which I did. I continued to see P4P ladies and a couple of civies and she continued to work. I wasn't looking for anything else other than sex with them. It was so cool to be practicing real honesty with a woman that I really loved. There was a trust between us that was deep. That relationship ended, but not because of a lack of trust or communication.
Jealousy is only a reaction to the fear of losing something. And if you don't fear losing something, there is no reason for it.
Good on you John, for being a conscious human and finding what works .
I immediately wanted to say YES, I would take this deal in heartbeat. Then I started thinking "what if she brought something home?" What if, in the heat of passion, she fucks some guy BB and the next thing you know I am at the doctor with some dreadful condition? And with the FC2 the only cover I will use, and the cost of these is fixing to skyrocket, what to do? Just not sure either way.......
...but I'd like to think that if the shape of the relationship I was in changed we could talk honestly and openly about non-traditional approaches to getting the best out of the relationship for both of us rather than throwing away what we have for the sake of convention or tradition.
I've never been a black/white right/wrong person - I've always seen shades of grey and unconventional pathways (that's probably why I ended up here) and have had some pretty unorthodox relationships as a result - some not so good and some off the charts outstanding. Life isn't conventional anymore so why should we force the relationships we have to be so?
Good for you and your wife John - you seem happy with the solution you have found and that is what it's all about
Xx
The more the Merrier..if it works for you great!! As long as. everyone's Happy...Wink
but as soon as I found out he was doing other girls I cut that shit right quick. Nope, definitely not for me. I definitely want the focus to be on me and vice versa. I can't and don't share. Major kudos to those that can, it's just not in the cards for me. I just can't feel comfortable doing all the freaky things i want to do with my S.O. knowing that he's doing things with others.
Kind of reminds me of "Supermodel" by SZA.
I think if guys are looking for that sort of arrangement and aren't already in a relationship, a good place to start would be with gals already in the p4p biz. I think civie gals who would be up for that are rather rare and finding them would make looking for a needle in a haystack seem like a walk in the park (if I can mix metaphors.)
I'd love a relationship where we both want each other to be happy and fulfilled wrt intimacy. And if that means one or both of us would need to go to others, fine.
But... I'd like to have an understanding that if one of us were unhappy in the intimacy department, we'd talk about it first and see if there was something we could do together to address the issue. And if not, then getting outside help would be OK.
I had to chuckle though about what you said about your wife liking tall, muscular guys with big cocks. My wife prefers skinny guys or teddy bear types, not muscular types, and thinks my cock is too big/hard (it's average sized). And if my wife weighed the same as when we were married, I'd be ecstatic. She had a really cute figure back then.
After she twice caught me red-handed hobbying, she allowed me to continue if she could see boyfriends, which was fine by me. I enjoyed a few years of. bliss that way
But then she went and divorced me anyway.
... followed by many years of greater bliss. Not bad. 
(OK, my personal take on things might be showing a *little* here.)
I could go without my wife telling me details of her love life but I would totally be down for an open marriage. I think it's foolish that society expects the woman I marry to be the solution for all my sexual needs forever, and vice versa.
taken to be sure nothing unwanted (i.e. disease) gets brought home.
...is playing with others together.
It is a big reason we enjoy what we do so much and why we started doing it in the first place. It is hot to see other couples being pleasured in the same room by others...as they steal glances at each other.
If more people hobbied together, there is no doubt their relationships would improve...including the sex when it is just the two of them.
If you are thinking about it...go for it!
With the right facilitators it is an incredible experience to parallel and group play.
T&N
That sounds amazing and so much fun. If I was married and our marriage maybe going south, I may suggest something such as that. The issue is so many people in this world think it is so wrong to have a open marriage. What your both doing especially if you both agree to it there is nothing wrong with it. It actually sounds pretty hot and your both being satisfied and it's bringing more excitement into your marriage. Enjoy.