In my view, the two main general goals of therapy are: first, to reduce human suffering, and second, to help clients learn how to get what they want out of life. More specific goals are set by the individual patient, and both the client and the therapist work together on those goals as a team.
If you feel that at any time in the course of therapy, the therapist is being judgemental, I suggest that you not just drop out of therapy suddenly, but instead, tell the therapist directly that you feel that he/she is judging you, and that you feel uncomfortable, and listen carefully to their response. If, after that, you still feel uncomfortable, find another therapist, one who does not judge you and who you can build a rapport with.
I'm just curious, but I'm sure there are people on this board who see therapists for one reason or another. Do you tell your therapist about your hobbying and if so, how'd it go the first time you brought it up?
She gives great head too.
Ah hell no, nobody here needs a therapist. No way, no how!!
Well......maybe 1 or 2???
did you ever notice the people who see therapists DONT hobby..kinda tells you something..
In my view, the two main general goals of therapy are: first, to reduce human suffering, and second, to help clients learn how to get what they want out of life. More specific goals are set by the individual patient, and both the client and the therapist work together on those goals as a team.
If you feel that at any time in the course of therapy, the therapist is being judgemental, I suggest that you not just drop out of therapy suddenly, but instead, tell the therapist directly that you feel that he/she is judging you, and that you feel uncomfortable, and listen carefully to their response. If, after that, you still feel uncomfortable, find another therapist, one who does not judge you and who you can build a rapport with.
about the major stuff going on with you?
If the shrink cops an attitude about your hobbying, dump them and find another.
I saw a shrink when I went through my divorce, and that's about all we talked about. He thought it was cool.
The other doctor you should always tell is your MD. That guy/gal can keep you alive.
I saw a therapist when I was married for couples counseling. Needless to say we got divorced. The individual sessions with the counselor was ok. I was able to vent but it never seemed to go anywhere. My ex felt the same. I think if I want to vent now I'll just talk about it with my civie friends or friends here.
It may take less time than you think. One of the goals of therapy is to teach you to become your own therapist, as London mentions above. You can learn to catch distorted thinking as it happens, and to challenge it and replace it with more accurate and helpful thinking.
As far as couples counseling goes, my view is that some marriages simply need to end, and the goal is not to save the marriage so much as it is to help the couple end it in a way that is best for both people and for any children they may have.
No. Most guys don't tell therapists. At least until they are out of 'the hobby' or have been caught by an SO and forced to see one about hobbying...and other marital issues.
Some advice:
1) Don't see trafficked/pimped women (yes, you will get guilty-conscience issues about it).
2) Don't fall in love with a provider...unless she initiates it... and even then, it seems slightly complicated to be in a relationship with someone who is employed doing something you can't tell your friends about. Read "The Unbearable Lightness of Being - take Tomas's 'erotic friendship' view of relationships with your ATFs... and unless she becomes your GF, keep it at that.
3) If you're married, rationalize hobbying as 'filling erotic/adrenaline-rush/bored-on-business-trip needs in the safest way possible.' Hey, it's better than nagging for noogie or running off with your nanny/cleaning lady.
4) If you're single, rationalize hobbying as 'sowing seeds/having fun/learning about intimacy' while you're not looking for a serious relationship. Hey - it's more ethical & less time consuming than being a pick-up-artist.
So -wala - if you follow this advice, pretty sure you won't need therapy for hobbying.