I’ve always wondered this so I figured this is the best place to ask it.
As a hobbyist we have the luxury of reviews and photos so we are able to see whom we are choosing before we meet. Aside from a reference check I don’t think there’s any way for a provider to know who will be knocking at their door. So I ask what do providers do when the gentlemen isn’t physically attractive to them? I ask because I’m a big guy who takes a lot of pride in his appearance and as of yet I haven’t had any bad experiences with a provider who may not be into bigger guys. I guess the easy answer is the providers complete the session and keep it moving. Maybe I am lucky and haven’t had a bad experience with a provider because I’m not in the best shape physically. Very Random question but hey that’s what these boards are for at time lolThat's what they get paid for. Mainly the government is the cause of obesity because it subsidizes the food industry and approves food additives which cause people to gain weight. Also the extreme hot weather keeps people inside which leads to lower calories used.
Once upon a time I used to be one of those "lucky" guys who could eat whatever I wanted and never gain a pound, but at a certain age my metabolism changed and I had to struggle to maintain my weight and not become a lard ass. I work hard to stay in decent enough shape that younger women will be seen in public with me. Government is not the cause of fat asses, overeating and laziness are the main culprits.
BTW I don't mean any disrespect to the OP, I have no idea why he is overweight, and I am not here to "body shame", but I am sick of this victim mentality that blames everything wrong with our lives on something or somebody else.
Back to the OP, in general providers are mainly concerned with your attitude than your waist size, and of course smelling good goes a long ways too. lol
I have seen a few providers who do have "weight restrictions" one of them makes her clients park where she can see them and if they are not "height weight proportionate" she refuses to see them. She flat out told me this when I asked her why she had me park in a certain spot and tell her what kind of car I was driving. I guess I passed. lol That said, she was in a very tiny minority of providers who do anything like this. 99% of the ladies in this business will see a guy no matter how big he is.
That is something we are often asked (whether it is with respect to guys we see (for Tori) or ladies (for Nick)).
The short answer is that there is always something attractive about someone. The key to enjoying the encounter is finding that one thing. Sometimes, it is the overall physical appearance, but often your eyes are closed so it is something that is picked up by other senses--namely touch and feel. It is why being a good kisser is important, having a gentle touch or even a good sense of humor so that there is a connection before all the clothes hit the floor.
For some, finding that attractive thing takes a little longer, but if you look for it, you will find it. That's what makes an encounter with someone new so much fun.
xo
Tori (& Nick)
So Nick is indicating that there are tons of unattractive women out there willing to pay a guy for a session? How does one find these women hobbyists exactly and is there a board to post for heterosexual males offering service to women then and if so where?
Looking for a side job pooner? Lol
LOL - thought the same thing. This question was for the ladies.
Are of far less importance to me personally than hygiene, manners & conduct.
This being said, it makes me very uncomfortable if I have to ask anyone (of any size) to shower once things are underway. It’s safe to assume that I have showered within an hour of meeting you...if the same cant be said for you...please ask to use my shower and freshen up before we get up close and personal.
Thanks for your reply Madison.
I agree with my friend Madison the way a guy treat me and his hygiene is way more important than his looks or his size but truth be told, most heavier guys can handle if I back it up he wont stumble. Lol......
Thanks for asking our opinion
Savannah Michaels
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Absolutely spot on in previous posts...and sweetie...just saw your post as I was perusing the board tonight...you are a genuine and respectful man which comes across in the first seconds of meeting you...who wouldn't want to please you!?? And you are a VERY attractive and sexy man!
xoxo
-AK
Can’t wait to play soon!
I too believe every being is attractive in their own way. Authenticity is key. A good provider doesn't make comparisons and will appreciate the differences. She'll embody compassion, gratitude and honor the essence of each individual. I personal have had some very sexually exciting encounters with large men who know how to use their weight to their advantage and to my delight! 😆
I know this was for the ladies but as an overweight guy, I do think about the attractiveness piece of it.
I consider myself a gentleman, enjoy meeting people, never haggle or be rude in any way and practice good hygiene.
To put it plainly though this isn't match.com and most ladies are not looking for life partners here (it's dating but it's not dating-dating). So...the ladies aren't judging you like they might on a civvie date. You're not "lucky" to have been treated well by the ladies you meet because you're not in tip-top shape. You're a human being and I would like to think a decent one so I believe in you get what you give and also do unto other as you'd have them doing to you.
What you seem to be doing though is being great at picking actual professionals. Any true professional worth her salt will make you feel like the hottest piece of ass on earth even if you don't think you are. You're spending your hard earned money so that shouldn't be abused. Even if my client doesn't look like he stepped fresh out of GQ I like focus on how clean he is, how nice he is, does he have a good personality, how does he treat me and make me feel .... THAT is what matters. Fit or fat you're going to be treated like the king of the world .... as you should be,
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