Its real common with bp type or newer girls but not so common with the established, quality ladies. If I get there and have to play the waiting game I know right away that theres a 50/50 chance its going to be a no go. If its more than a few extra minutes to get ready I figure something is up. Either they are having second thoughts, shes not even at the location yet, another client ran late, youre about to get bumped for a better paying deal, she decided shes tired for the day, the girl is getting a weird vibe or she needs to blaze up before her next apt(just had this happen recently, I left
. If I made the drive I will wait for a bit if she is communicating but I have been left in a parking lot, ghosted on more times than I can count.
My worst was being on a wild goose chase from a pretty well established provider, driving halfway across town before she decides because its a burner phone # she won't see me, then texting/calling from my real # and she apologizes and says ok, drive the rest of the way, get there, she says I just need about 20 minutes to shower and get ready and then she sends me to a motel room, I knock and no one is there..totally ghosted without a callback or text. Shady bi****. I'll get that one back somehow
The flip side of this whole situation is when you do bail what happens to your standing? You leave because you are tired of waiting or think you're getting stood up and the provider then puts it out that you no showed her... Now you are the bad guy.
It is trivial. Waaah!
Hhhhmmmm, I don't seem to have this problem. Must be the quality ladies that I see. The most I've had to wait in the last year was 5 minutes and was told a few minutes before that she was about 5 minutes behind.
Was told to call the phone assistant when I arrived for further instructions and if that person doesn't answer (because of the time difference between Phx and NY, to email the email assistant). That person didn't respond, so I emailed the email assistant and I believe since the hotel was next to a mountain I never received the email until I got home 26 minutes later. E mail servers dont refresh instantly, which in my opinion is a horrible way to communicate with someone who is waiting in his truck in the hotel parking lot looking for a room number.
I agree that you're more likely to have issues with providers that are new, young and not established, than established well reviewed providers over 26 yo, but sometimes it happens with them too. I agree with the reasons laid out already as why some women flake, but the multiple assistant issue and using e mail like text was the dumbest reason I ever missed an appointment and left.
Happened to me three times in a row by three different providers. First one, we set up the appointment without a hitch, I get there, then radio silence, finally left after 40 minutes and was very irritated about it. She texts me 5 hours later apologizing, saying her crazy boyfriend randomly showed up and started problems. Same day a few hours later, set up an appointment with an alternate provider, I finally get to the provider's home after struggling to understand her directions, she is home but doesn't answer the door. Then texts me to accuse me of being a cop, because of the way I was asking her for directions to her home. I was only asking for clarification because her directions were so ambiguous that I couldn't understand what she was talking about, following her directions to go to the "3rd house on the left" actually took me to some other woman's house, who happened to be standing outside, I almost greeted this random woman by mistake which could have ended up being an odd encounter. Next one, I get to the 2nd call location, I call her, she answers, then in mid sentence it sounds like she said "oh no!" and I heard her phone drop and hit something. Then we were disconnected. I call and text, no reply. Apparently she broke her phone right as she was about to give me the final address, of all things. All three of these providers were well reviewed too. I gave up on seeing indies for a while after that, and just went with agency girls, there was never any nonsense like this to deal with when seeing agency girls. Although my favorite agency that I used to use all the time no longer exists.
You waited 40 minutes, much more patient than me. If its radio silence I last about 15, has never seemed to matter. Once they're gone, they're gone. Yea the crazy boyfriend one sounds bogus and gets thrown out a lot.
I have found that when I get "blown up" or "blown off" on one appt and start playing the chase game (get on the phone in a parking lot, scour bp or other sites and try and get a substitute appt in the near future) usually ends up just as bad for some reason. Like it just wasn't meant to be that day.
After getting burned playing the chase game the last time I had issues I just headed home and called it good. Best choice I had made in a long time..Was liberating.
I don't know about other providers, but I always schedule appointments two to three hours apart and have everything ready and taken care of 20 minutes before the client arrives. Just in case he arrives early. I think its important to make the client comfortable and greet them like its their second home. Making someone wait outside because I'm with another client or I didn't properly prepare before hand makes it feel so rushed and transnational. I couldn't stand it! You men spend a lot of money! You deserve to be comfortable and not hesitant or have to wait twirling your thumbs outside. Sorry you've had that experience so often
We all want to feel special, like we are the only person our fantasy lady will see that day. When we think with our bigger head, this is a business arrangement. Hobbyist make comments about clock watching. As a hobbyist, I have been totally under the radar but I am getting older. So I think this is totally about respect? We work hard to earn our money and frankly we expect to get the right value for our money. How many clients should someone see in a day? It is about economics and who their target demographic is. I feel too old fashion, if I make a deal with someone I hold up my end of the bargain. I am happy to report that EmilyPaige has agreed to meet me but LexiLee is next on my list. FYI...nothing wrong with finding a bargain but I can tell you shopping at Walmart is different than Nordstroms.
Mutual respect!!!
I just wanted to say thanks for not making me wait when I've seen you. I can only imagine the thoughts and concerns I would have if I had to wait when showing up on time.
When I schedule an appointment 24 hrs in advance with a reviewed and respected provider, pre text 1 hour before the appointment and arrived on time. They have 10 mins before I'm on the way home.
If I don't get the reply from the 1 hour text then i never even leave home.
I figure with the donation I'm paying that more than a normal person's day's wage before tax, I have a feeling they could be on time.
Who cares about how to text 1hr or what not. I think LexiLee may have read my post!!! I made a deal with EmilyPaige but if I had seen this first...I might be looking for her water jets on Saturday. Hell...I am so excited I might spring for that meet and greet. I love EmilyPaige's mind but my little head is doing all the thinking now!!!
ok...I stand firmly behind this is a business transaction and we as the hobbyist can vote wth our $$'s.
