It just said on your site that you don't kiss.  I don't have a problem with that because I am advocating not kissing due to strep throat, cold virus, etc.  But your site does not mention anything about bbbj or cim.  These are services needed by elite hobbyists.  But at $350 per hour, it could appear that people would expect this.  You should disclose the bj policy on the site at least so people can check it out prior to the meeting.  

1) NCNS - Agreed, everyone's time is valuable and should not be taken for granted.  I had a duo set up with a PHX Lady and her visiting friend.  Early in the day, the Lady called me as I was lounging by the pool, telling me that her friend would not be available, and if I wanted to see her solo.  I told her Yes, that I definitely wanted to see her even without her friend.  I drove to the area as instructed, and then heard absolutely nothing from the Lady, no response to either text or phone calls.  I understand that life happens, but please let us know so we don't drive x miles for nothing.  I also understand that confirmed appointments don't always happen for various reasons.  Communication is key.

2) Ladies using old photos.  I saw a Lady who was using photos at least 10 years old.  I was a newbie at the time, but still, please update photos on a regular basis.  I do like Ladies who post both recent pictures as well as classics from the past.

3) No rates posted on websites.  Call for rates.  WTF!  Some things aren't supposed to be discussed, so list that info on your website.

I do plenty of research before my dates, so I really know what to expect and there should be no surprises.

I am really looking forward to returning to PHX in November!!!!

Rocketman

Cheyenne, thank you for your post.  It's been said on this board but I don't think as straightforward as yours.  

It's interesting, I've looked at your ads many, many times over the years.  I've seen your pictures and found you quite beautiful.  As much as I'd like to see you, I can't.  You've laid it out pretty clear, out call only.  When I lived in phoenix that wouldn't work for me. Now it could when I visit the valley.  

Secondly , I'm into a BBBJ with CIM finisher.  I know from your reviews that's not happening.  I also want kissing, another thing which is off your list.   For the price your require, I find I can get that with other providers.  I respect your limits and wouldn't schedule with you for a session that isn't what I'd want.  So I'm not going to put you in that awkward position.  

Old pictures of the providers are a pet peeve of mine.  So a question for the community, how recent are your pics??  

Again I will respect your rules of engagement but I'll vote with my dollars and shop elsewhere.  

Of course we all hate no call/no shows so I won't count that as one. But one that always gets me is when you arrive at a ladies incall and then having to wait 10, 20, 30 minutes more. That is a huge mood killer for me. Yes I know, things come up. But I would rather be told before I have left that you are running late then to have to sit in my car or drive around extra time.  

My second is girls that advertise themselves in a way that is not what you are going to get. IT could be using old, or even fake pics. Or saying that they are a wild, crazy sexual women and then they are the exact opposite. Or saying how awesome they are at something, normally oral, and then they are literally the worst at it.  

My third pet peeve is that paying a beautiful women to give you sexual pleasure is illegal. Hopefully someday soon the religious nut jobs and whoever else wants to impose their bullshit on everyone else goes away. Land of the free, unless you are doing something we don't like!

The ladies I see are mentally mature, beautiful, professional and just freaking great at what they do for me.  
I sound like a WK, but I'm telling it the way I see it.

I have not had a NCNS in the last 2 and a half years. I have not come across a menu item that I want, not being available. If an appointment time needs to be changed by the ladies, they give me advance notice (shit happens) and at sometime , very kindly, make it up to me in some wonderful way.

 
I am very selective and do my research in who I choose. And when I find the great ones, I keep going back.

Actually,  I do have one peeve. It's that I don't earn enough lately to play as often as I would really like to.
Because I'm a serial repeater, it  makes the opportunities for things to go wrong  much fewer .   The mongers who continuously see new providers have far greater odds of challenges occurring.  There are many great ways of playing here.  

Have fun !

#3, Text or email communications only. If you can't communicate like a human being to another in speech form and have to hide behind the keyboard or the tablet and have to go back and forth endless times because it's too much damn difficult to pick up the phone and talk for a few minutes.  Leaving too much room for questions by cryptic replies?  Misunderstandings? Because tone and inflection can't be conveyed by damn emoticons when you're driving at 80mph, downright detached and retarded IMHO. Wastes so much damn time. I really prefer a 2-5 minute conversation and get all the particulars worked out. No room for misunderstanding and disagreements later, but text and email back and forth is such a PITA. If a provider needs such a watertight contract that there has to be a paper trail to all the communications between her and client and insist on written communications via text and email only? Get a notary!!!  
And if you're a gal sounding like a guy because you've been partying too much, or have Strep throat, or a cold, do you honestly think that an email or text would reveal any of that?  
Sorry, have better things or better providers to do. Moving along.

#2, NCNS,  flakey, unprofessional, unreliable and inconsistent providers or clients who can't be bothered to show up or even answer a legitimate appointment. Yet will bug you when the biz is slow and beg you to come see her. Pester you repeatedly for an appointment then disappears into thin air when it's time to shit or get off the pot. Aggravating to say the least. An emergency? Sure. Shit happens. But the reasonable expectation of having your time being respected enough to get at least an explanation, if not an apology, does not seem to register with some people. Making what should have been a pleasurable encounter into one of disappointment and irritation.

#1, Being unprepared for the appointment.  Tops the list in my book. Showing up for an appointment without covers, then having the nerve to ask the client to go get some. You'd really have to have some audacity to pull a stunt like that after getting the client all worked up, and RTG, and then OOOPS? Yeah right? I will kick someone out of bed if they even think that offering a bj as consolation will be enough to satisfy. It would be like ordering Duck a l'Orange, then be served a taco and be told "it's just as good" and you're lucky you're even getting any. F@#k that!!!GTFO!!!  

Each Pet Peeve has an incident that actually happened before and it got ugly each time.

Re. 3 Pet Peeves

1. Pics/photos. Old, blurred/out of focus, can't tell who is in the pic. Ladies, get some new and Profesional photos done.

2.  Not enough info on your site. No rates. Have to sign up/regester. Make your site easy to navigate. and, give me good, brief info.

3. if you have a calendar page, Update it often!

Good topic.

1. When they don't read my ads and ask things like "are you available now", when I clearly stated "Please allow 24-48 hours for screening).  
2. When I get questions that implies illegal activities.  
3. When I have a NCNS / Cancelation at last minute.

1) NCNS.  Once: odds are you are on my blacklist.  Twice: You are DEFINITELY there.
 
2) Last moment saying "I need an extra half hour or hour before you can show up". You have a schedule, and so do I.  I understand things can happen, but twice in a row shows me you do not respect MY time.  

3) IF you are having a shitty day, please call or text me and let me know what's going on so I can make the decision to cancel.  I'd appreciate honesty than to show up and, waste my money and both of our time when it's not going to go well.  

All those things have happened, and I've learned not to let the little head decide things.  I keep to a select few mature ladies that have their shit together, and don't review anymore considering the environment in town.  

1) Old photos and/or innacurate photos. When a providers gets older, her hair changes, her weight changes the photos should reflect those changes. Nothing worse than thinking you are going to meet the person in the photos and it turns out they look nothing like them.  

2) Poor communication. Waiting until 60 minutes before the scheduled date to text me an address. I need to know at least what the cross streets are a few hours before the date, so I can plan for the length of the drive and traffic. I don't need the address hours before, just an idea where I have to go. Also using e mail as text. Had one traveling woman use e mail to communicate leading up to the date and it never happened because the hotel was behind South mountain and I didn't have internet service in the parking lot. My Google app didn't refresh the e mails and I got the room number when I pulled into my driveway 30 minutes past the hour.  

3) Not fulfilling clothing requests. I am as vanilla as it gets. I like lfk, bbbj, mish and doggy. I'm not into anything weird, I like all the basic GFE activities. I've been told numerous times I'm very gentle. However, I love how woman look in their clothes. All I ever request is an outfit. A garder belt and stockings, thigh high boots if possible etc. I usually go off of the outfits the women wear in their photographs and request something similar to what I saw. Sometimes they say sure! And I arrive and they don't even have stockings much less a garder belt. Or they borrowed the clothes for the photos and don't even dress that way in their sessions.  

4) I had to add this one because it is relevant. Inaccurate pricing between ads. P411 says $400 an hour, the personal website says $500. If you have links on TER to multiple ad sites, they should all be updated so they are accurate, or removed if they are old and no longer relevant. I hate having to contact the person to verify which is the correct donation amount.  

5) Last but not least, not knowing a providers availability. This falls under category number 4. (Maintaining ads). If you are out of town, taking a break, or only available between certain hours or you don't work weekends, that should be mentioned in the ads.  Contacting a provider multiple times just to get that information to set an appointment (if you even get in touch with her at all) because she's taking time off and her ads are still active does happen more often than I would like.

1)  NCNS.  Enough said on this topic.  This probably happens about 10-20% of the time to me.
2)  Not responding to calls, texts, PM's or emails.  It's very frustrating going through the selection process and narrowing down the choices to a select few ladies that match my criteria only to not receive a response from them.  This surprises me a bit since I try to contact providers that have recent ads on here and/or on other boards.  This happens quite often when I am contacting a provider for the first time.
3)  Insufficient info on website or ad.

1. Avoidable late cancellations - a number of the top providers here have cancelled on me under 24 hours with situations that they knew about much earlier then when I was notified.  I'd be thousands richer if they paid me their cancellation rates. Please send a heads up at least so I can plan a backup if you've been nursing a injury or sickness for days or dealing with an ongoing family emergency. Nothing worse then watching porn in a great hotel suite reserved for the occassion and eating room service alone. It costs us too.  
2. Taking advantage of Nice - If someone is being nice by taking you out for a night, on trips, provides gifts, or paid time doing fun activities - at least spend the effort treating them as good as other clients and not like some chump you know you can avoid playtime with because they are being nice. Why does dinner always take much longer when you're paying for someone's time? Hmmmm.
3. Insincere messages. Strange to tell me how much you enjoy spending time with me but you can't answer my messages for a week or just normally ghost me. Also, emails referring to by name, hunny, hun, sweetheart, sweetie pie, and babe (in one short message). Best intentions and a lot of guys probably love it but it is too much for me.  

Fun post - finally!

1) No rates on ad or website other than "contact me". I would never respond to this since probably too expensive and you should never discuss rates by phone or e-mail - should be clear you have a rate for xx minutes for companionship. Of course, never discuss anything sexual for a fee (fee arrangement) since this is illegal in the U.S. unlike most of the world with more adult freedoms with harm reduction models.  

2) text - I don't text can't get big fingers to work on a tiny keyboard to send text of any substance. Also hard to do a reasonable intro if a new client by text vs email or phone.

Old fashion guy - Dave in Phoenix

Ymmv.

Not everyone will get the same treatment because we are all not the same.  Spelling out everything you offer, but then realize the fact that providers reserve the right to decline service.  Obviously, lots of factors to put into play.  I do not have a donation on my site because that is advertising.  If your here on TER, like I am reading reviews you can see my profile & cost of service.  You can do your homework here on TER to see if we maybe compatible.  If your to cheap to pay for VIP to read all the juicy details why complain?  I pay for VIP, so I can read the reviews to see if we may have chemistry.  I am investing my time, and your investing both your time & your money.  

I enjoyed reading all the responses.  I used to live in AZ, born & raised.  I have la familia here & visit, but do not post much because the heat you get for being a higher rate is ridiculous.  Some guys are here to haggle you for a lower tribute with the promise of getting you lots of business & you refer to them as Elite Hobbyists. I feel sorry for all the providers these guys have preyed upon over the years getting girls to open their menus at a smaller donation, than what they offer.

Hope you are all staying cool it's been a hot summer!  Smile 4 me & make it a great day!

Top 3 Pet Peeves and Likes

Hi Cheyenne,

Great subject and it started a good dialogue.  In addition to my top pet peeves, I'll add my top 3 likes to finish off on a positive note:
Pet Peeves
1) Provider late - obviously a NCNS is the worst, but a provider being excessively late is a hassle.  It's pretty uncomfortable sitting in a hotel lobby or parking lot (especially in the PHX summer).  I strive to be early if seeing someone new (and not knowing the parking situation or the suite number) so I'm there and ready at the agreed time.  The lady should be similarly ready.  I'm not talking about 5 minutes here, more like 30, or an hour.  I've only had this problem less than 10% of the time
2) Wardrobe requests - I think it's great when a gal asks, but if you ask me and I tell you, do it.  Just to clarify, I'm not talking about painting your body green like an Orion slave girl (Star Trek shout out to micktoz), I mean simple stuff like matching bra/panties/stockings which any gal in the mid-high price range should have.
3) Excessive chatting - OK obviously for a first timer you are going to want to chat a bit to build some level of comfort and trust.  It would seem to me that ladies in the business should be good at reading people.  When making initial contact, I try to be personable and coherent, maybe put in something funny to give the lady the idea that I'm not an axe murderer (or at least a personable and coherent one).  That, and a few dozen OK's and whitelists should be enough.  But if the clock starts when I walk through the door and I'm still sitting on the couch 20+ minutes into a 1 hr session (and the rate is 400+) then I have a problem with that.  If the clock doesn't start until the action does, no problem.
4) Changing menu - once again, this is pretty rare.  I research the gals I see and what is/is not on the menu and decide accordingly.  I read reviews and while some are BS, most are not particularly if written by established reviewers.  Cheyenne, you clearly are not into uncovered oral.  For some clients that may be a deal-breaker and that is their choice.  But if a gal advertises something, consistently performs it in reviews, or has told the client she's into that and it is suddenly off the menu, that doesn't seem right.

Likes
1) Provider has obviously done her homework.  Frankly I'm flattered that she took the time; it shows she's a pro and looking to maximize the experience for a client.  If I walk through the door and she hands me my favorite beverage, or is in a favored wardrobe, or comments on a review I've written then I'm really impressed.
2) Clock not starting until the action starts - a couple of top providers do this...kudos to them.
3) If a gal is having a bad day, or is rushed, or not into it, or that time of the month suddenly appears, or whatever, then contact me to reschedule but do it at least a couple of hours ahead of time.  We all know stuff happens but it usually isn't sudden.  I've gotten such notice a couple of times and rather than being upset, I am grateful for their honesty.

All,

 
It obvious that some of the top pet peeves are very common. NCNS or late or not letting people know if you are running behind, simple communication. For sure those are things that top my list. However there ways to minimize those problems.

 
Honest, I am amazed at the issue of communication. For several reasons. The most common thing I see is either a lack of communication or no details in that communication. Like I am sure many other providers, I have a routine for contact, communication and meeting a client. It starts with screening. Fill out the screening appointment form. At a minimum, even if you do not know when, where or for how long, give me enough information to screen you. Once you are screened you will find communication starts to flow much more easily.  

 
So my website I think is very complete. My reviews speak very clearly and show pretty clear my services. My P411 has a list of services as well. But often I get so many extra questions. Consider the following if you would. Most providers who  serious go to extra length and expenses to be safe.  

 
Our website should be hosted off-shore not in US. Our email should be hosted off-shore, not in US. Our fuck phones are separate just like yours for this. And of course the fuck phone should be completely anonymous. I hate to carry two phones, but I do. Many if not most guys do the same. That is great. But consider one step more. In Asia we use message apps that are encrypted end/end. If you have been screened and I tell you you are screened complete then you are ready to go. In my mind unless something is horribly wrong we are going to be fuck if we meet. If you want to ask more detail questions after I screen you, then do so through a secure method. Use the message app. Its hosted off-shore as well and fully encrypted. Personally I use an App called WhatsAPP. Been using it for several years and it is as fast as cell phone texting, has voice calling, and finally if needed even has video chatting, almost like a FaceTime. Follow that method and there should never be a issue of uninformed or lack of detailed communication.  

 
Is session not what you thought it would be? I hate say this. But men you need to be a man, and a adult. First be adult. Show up sober and drug free. Be clean, and that is not just your penis and ass. Finger nails, toe nails and all other body parts need be clean and maintain. If your nails are long or sharp, they are not going to go anywhere with my soft sensitive skin. Brush your teeth. do not kiss me with food stuck between your teeth. Thats nasty. Mouth wash or gum does not get rid food just cleans breath. If you want to shower with me, then let me know. I will scrub and then gently wash every part of you if want, but do not expect to be dirty and hop in my bed. Be a responsible adult, i do all those things for you. Second be a Man. Do not be a child, we cannot read your minds. If you want something tell us. Take charge and be accountable for part of the success of your appointment. Want a change of position, tell us, grab us gently yet firmly put us in that position. We do not know what it is you like best, but many of us want you to be as happy as can be. You never know we may even like that more also.

 
Take a little time to research us as much as we try research you. We do read your reviews, and we do try figure out what things you like and maybe do not. I make very clear on my website, my english a little choppy and broken. English is not my primary language. Its not even my second language. And I have the all screwed up Asian accent. Here simple example. I was out with my girl cousin and her american BF once. And we going into dinner and we will of probably have a glass of wine or drink. And my cousin ask to make sure where is my ID, do I have it. And my reply is simple, "pocket". Her BF look at me like crazy and I wonder omg what is wrong. My cousin say of course it in your pocket, and I understand you, But to her BF he heard with my accent " fuckit". We all laugh but it is stupid Asian accent. Nothing I can do. You should expect to hear me have same issue when we meet sometimes. My english is good, my accent a little fucked up, and that is clear on my website. Do your research, I promise I will be doing mine for your visit to be fun.

 
Photos not accurate. This really a little difficult. If we get professional photos, be assured they have been retouched a little at a minimum. If we use selfi or friend takes photos, they not always look so professional. BUT, if we gain weight, look totally different, shave our head, you should be told in advance. Keep in mind we are woman, we are real life woman. Sometimes we want something a little different. A change in hairstyle, even slight change in color. Nothing drastic often, but cant always be exactly same.

 
Wardrobe should never be problem. My photos range from exotic/erotic underthings to every day what I wear out to store. If you want something you see in the photos and I still have it I will bring it. If I have it no longer, I will say I do not and tell you something similar. Every client should be clear and every provider should be clear. Please note I said I will bring it. Do not expect me to show up looking like a whore in public. Simply wont happen. If you want everyone know you ask a whore to your place, then find girl that is comfortable to do so. Again, simple communication.  

 
Finally I say this. The review system allows for you to make sure you get basics of what you want. Communication allows for you to get exactly what you want. Don't want to be screened first, don't want to use secure method of communication, don't want take time to do research, then don't expect best results. We want your experience to be as good as you want, often better. But its difficult to do without communication, research and responsibility.