I had an amusing experience where a hobbyist attempted to start a flame war with me after I left a positive review for a friend on the rate I paid. I did not take the bait, but it made me wonder why one would expect a meaningful experience for anything less than $250.00 / hr. Your definition of meaningful will vary of course but consider the following - assume a potential friend requests this consideration (250K / Hr. – in the spirit of full disclosure this figure is a screening method of mine, anything less will not even be considered). She (or he, must be fair!) will gross 130K. Year assuming (h)she averages 10 hours of "stage" time per week. Wow you may say, this is one hell of an income. But take into consideration overhead in terms of the following.
(1) This assumes 10 hours, per week - no vacations, holidays, sick time, etc....
(2) Those 10 hours of "stage” time require at least 3x in terms of prep., exercise, proper diet, physicals, shopping for the things that you like, keeping up appearances, etc..
(4) Speaking of keeping up appearances, remember the overhead, clothing, in-call maint if their place, hotel expenses, T&E, hair, makeup, the list can go on in order to meet your expectations of a GFE
(5) I expect my friends to have lives, perhaps children, insurance, perhaps the odd vacation or two.
(6) The average time of career will be short for many of our friends - it cannot be helped this is a somewhat superficial hobby, regardless of how kind, generous, and overall good eggs we hobbyists say (and I expect are) we are. Regardless, some may wish to raise a family, perhaps enter into a LTR – this is far from an open-minded society we live in, and careers will be abbreviated.
(7) The percentage of time wasted dealing with morons (NC/NS, the random perv, screening, etc...)
(8) Website, staffing is using an assistant, advertising (I would prefer not to meet a friend only listed on BP) etc…
So to place this in perspective, assume you gross 130K / Year in your typical civy gig. You're lucky if benefits, retirement, etc.. run you 35% or less per year. You do not have the additional overhead to consider, the random adjustments you make to your personal life to accommodate schedules, thinking what happens when looks fade, on it goes.... Doing a quick napkin business plan I expect expenses to run 60% of that figure, 42K / year is not something I would crow about, indeed based on the risk our friends take into consideration.
I would expect any friend I choose to spend time with sits down and is honest with what I outlined, assuming she (and I am not being gender neutral as it relates to me – I’m such a nerd) has, provides her considerations accordingly, I am more than happy to spend time with someone that is that serious about their life. I do not consider this crass, it is simply reasonable economics.