On dinner dates do you suggest giving the gift at dinner, or wait until we would get to the room? I have read were dates have skipped out after receiving the gift.
If you stick with well reviewed providers you shouldn't have trouble with them dipping out on a date. That is, unless you're really unpleasant to be around, and even then most will probably stick around; They just won't see you again.
if for no other reason than it looks kind of tacky to be handing over an envelope in public.
Most ladies expect their payment at the start of the date. That includes public dates. There may be exceptions for regular clients and multiple meetings where trust has been gained. Advising a newbie to not pay in advance is a mistake. Most ladies also make it clear on their website. Sure handing someone an envelope full of cash in a public restaurant may look out of place, but a book, a gift bag, a greeting card, are commonly handed to people in public places and work perfectly for handling the donation in this hobby.
We already have Fancy and Mr. Milk and Diapers giving bad advice.
Most every provider will state quite clearly that they expect "the envelope" at the BEGINNING of the date, and while you can most likely get away with this kind of thing with a woman who you've seen before, you certainly don't want to put a girl in the awkward (and mood killing) position of having to ask you for her donation.
BAD BAD BAD advice for newbs who already may be having credibility issues.
Now one thing you "might" do if you feel funny handing over an envelope in public is to tell her at the beginning of the date "I have something for you, would you like it now, or should I give it to you in private?" At least this way she knows you aren't going to try an stiff her and both of you can relax and enjoy yourself without that unasked question hanging over your heads.
but honestly fish, we expect better from you.
the advice I gave was proffered by others some time ago, and it makes sense to me.
I suppose that if you decoy the envelope in a gift bag, it would allay the tackiness concern, but it seems a tad convoluted, unless you also include a genuine gift.
I myself have had first dates at a restaurant, but did not turn over the envelope until we were BCD. I heard no dissension from the party.
But I think the gals should be the ultimate arbiter of this question so l'll abide by that.
...in a card, book, or small gift bag and be presented while at the table when/if meeting at the restaurant for a dinner date. The few times I have done lunch dates I left the donation on the dresser or bedside table as I picked her up, took her to lunch, then we returned to her in call for the fun time.
Quite often this information can be found on her website. You may find it in a review if anyone has reviewed a dinner date session with her. Have you looked there to see?
The only people I know who skip out after receiving "gifts" are inexperienced sugar babies....
However the gift bag or even better a card in a pretty colored envelope is quite standard. That's if your meeting her at the restaurant.
After all is said and done is when I pay her. Not before or in the middle of our meeting.
ROGM: please stop posting in the newbie board.