2 hours before considering a 4-hr. dinner date or longer time period, i.e. overnight. This builds chemistry and trust.
I would not give a deposit to someone I don't know.I am considering requesting longer appointments with providers I have never seen. Many ask for a deposit. One specifically mentioned an Ecard from an online service. I have no idea what that is, and further I can not use a credit card. Is there a way to provide a deposit without a credit card?
Paypal, Bitcoin, gift cards that can be mailed or transferred online.
How long of an appointment are you planning and have you considered what you're going to do if the provider you see isn't what you expected?
2 hours before considering a 4-hr. dinner date or longer time period, i.e. overnight. This builds chemistry and trust.
I would not give a deposit to someone I don't know.
I'm talking about 3 hour or 4 hour dinner dates. If the 4 hour dinner date is 1500 , for example, then I have no problem with paying 50% up front because the lady I would choose for a dinner date is someone that is highly reviewed with top marks. I'm not making a dinner date with a non-reviewed lady with sketchy bona fides. I completely OK with the lady asking for a deposit for holding a 4 hour timeframe open for me. If the stiletto was on the other foot, I would want to protect my valuable time as well.
I was asking how to do it without using a credit card.
Thanks everyone
I have done many overnight sessions with people I've never met before. As long as they have references and I have good reviews, what's the problem? I am able to get along with all kinds of people. I did have one very long night with somebody who was not that easy to get along with, but all the rest of my overnight appointments were great successes.
Since I do check references carefully, I'm not afraid of giving somebody my real name so they can send me a money order or send me a Western Union payment. I also let people pay for my bills with their credit cards. If it's my first time to see somebody I ask for them to sign a note saying that they authorize me to use that credit card for that payment and I take a picture of them holding that note. I've been doing these things for years and no problems.
PayPal has a very strict no adult policy! I've been banned from PayPal twice and for life. And I didn't get the money they owed me either! I recommend staying far away from PayPal unless you have some kind of legitimate business (Which I did, but stilll they banned me).
I understand that this is a newbies board and the advice they are giving is to help newbies not get ripped off. I appreciate that. Err on the side of caution. But I think that it's important to mention that reputable providers are definitely doing extended appointments and requiring deposits and that's OK.
I suspect you will have a hard time getting a deposit back from many providers even if their policy says they will return it if you cancel. Be prepared to lose it if you cancel your appointment.
Since I do check references carefully, I'm not afraid of giving somebody my real name so they can send me a money order or send me a Western Union payment. I also let people pay for my bills with their credit cards. If it's my first time to see somebody I ask for them to sign a note saying that they authorize me to use that credit card for that payment and I take a picture of them holding that note. I've been doing these things for years and no problems.
PayPal has a very strict no adult policy! I've been banned from PayPal twice and for life. And I didn't get the money they owed me either! I recommend staying far away from PayPal unless you have some kind of legitimate business (Which I did, but stilll they banned me).
I understand that this is a newbies board and the advice they are giving is to help newbies not get ripped off. I appreciate that. Err on the side of caution. But I think that it's important to mention that reputable providers are definitely doing extended appointments and requiring deposits and that's OK.
I suspect you will have a hard time getting a deposit back from many providers even if their policy says they will return it if you cancel. Be prepared to lose it if you cancel your appointment.
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I you don't know them then it's pretty risky.
See a few gals, and discuss the next possible date.
At least you will know the ones that you actually want to spend more time with.
Don't set yourself up for 3 hrs. with someone you don't "click" with.
Get a reloadable prepaid or gift card. Your info isn't tied to it, you can check your balance and do anything else that you would with a major credit card. You can electronically pay her deposit if she is using an electronic service (or app) to collect deposits.
The question was how he can do that without using a credit card.
Voyager, here are a few options:
-prepaid credit cards such as Vanilla or GreenDot Visa
-Visa/MasterCard gift cards
-money orders (I'm personally a fan of the USPS ones) paid for in cash and delivered to her via her preferred method (some of us have PO boxes just for this purpose)
-simple cash handoff prior to the actual date
Of course, you can always ask the lady what alternatives she offers, if any. Hope this helps!