I just broke up with my boyfriend. The whole time we were together I was a provider he was fine with it. But now he's trying to fight with me about things he's reading in my reviews. A friend of mine told me he reads my reviews after every session I have. It's super annoying.. Is there a way I can block him from reading my reviews?
You can't fix a relationship problem with technology.
He can cuck himself until the cows come home by reading your reviews, ultimately if he can't contact you about it, there's no problem.
What you should do is ghost his sorry ass and if he doesn't take the hint, get a restraining order. There's no reason you should be communicating with him at all, and you can easily block his number/email/twitter/snapchat/facebook out of your life.
If your friends don't have the wherewithall to know that you don't want to hear anything about him then you need better friends, because the ones you've got are likely not very good.
The rest of it you have pretty much right.
The only thing we know about her friends is that one of them told her that her ex was obsessing over her reviews, if her friend was worried her ex might be a stalker in the making and did so out of concern for her, her friend might be a better friend than you are giving credit for. If her ex is obsessing over her and contemplating something stupid she is a lot better off knowing about it than being kept in the dark "for her own good"
As for blocking any one individual from reading her reviews, that is simply not possible, not even close to being possible.
I'm not saying her friends are terrible at all, but I get how you could read it that way.
I'm more getting at the idea that her friends should be on board with keeping this guy out of her life, and if they're not then axe them too.
This is a completely different scenario from "hey your ex has been saying some things that make me think you're in danger", which in that case it'd be time to get LE involved and a restraining order filed.
I'm trying to stop someone from stalking me.
to ask TER to take down your reviews.
Maybe in time, when he's out of the picture, you can ask TER to put them back up.
Mr F has a great point. You can ask, for cause, to have your reviews removed. No more will be allowed. When things settle down, you can have them reinstated. Your old reviews will not be gone but the blocked ones were blocked. (You might want to explain that to your dates when you request no reviews.) Reviewers can go back 90 days, to submitt a review.
to ask TER to take down your reviews.
Maybe in time, when he's out of the picture, you can ask TER to put them back up.
You can't stop him from reading your reviews, but you should get more careful with your screening methods. For one, he might already know about your current screening methods if you told him. More importantly, he might try to trick you into a confrontational situation by pretending to be a client. Starting over with a new provider identity might be hard given that Portland is a relatively small market, and moving might be a big hassle. In principle, a restraining order seems like a good idea, but if things turn violent, it's just a piece of paper.
I've been on both ends of a breakup before. You need to cut off all contact completely, and if you have any friends in common or an overlapping social circle, stick to the ones that you know are on your side. Block his number and set your email account to dump his emails in the junk folder as they arrive.
Thank you for the advice!!
He almost certainly has read every word on this thread.
Good luck with your situation, I know this is every provider's worst nightmare, having a stalker who knows everything about you. Hopefully he will grow up and move on, but that's probably too much to ask for.
potential stalker. Screen all your calls. Create a private line number given out aftrer screening. Block him any way you can. Move your incall to a location he doesn't know about. Be careful with your vehicle which he might try to locate to find you. Check your phone & computer for spyware & change passwords. Be extra vigilant. It will impact your business.
Maybe go on a tour or a vacation to put some distance between you.
From new reviews for a while. Just ask your clients to not do a review. Or maybe wait 60 days untill posting one.
It looks like you already have some great reviews.
Stay safe, and don't fuck around with this guy if he is causing trouble or excess drama.
One more reason to stay single. (Just my opinion)
It's has to be scary having an ex that knows private things about you and could possibly use such info against you.
Good luck and do what you gotta do to protect yourself.
Yeah it's pretty scary.. Thank you for the good advice though, I will probably talk to my clients about it