do you have a big crush on her? i mean would you put a ring on her finger?
do you just want her to be exclusive to you..for awhile? whats your ideal crush like?
I'm just curious if it's so bad to be a little bit smitten. I understand the reality and want nothing more . . . or less. But to the providers out there--is it so bad to have a crush?
never, ever tease her while she is on the school playground during recess! Sorry, could not resist.
beyond that, it can get tricky.
Be very careful to remember there are boundrys and where the line is as well as reality.
Its not totally unheard of for a client/provider relationship to happen but few and far between actually work out well. Its very complicated.
My SO and I have been together for 2yrs and before that client/friends for 6yrs.
Its like no other relationship with this involved.
good luck try and remember theres a line...
but like Nicole said there is a line, Pretty Woman was just a movie after all. Did I connect with my last provider,I'd like to think so, but I'd rather see her as a friend that I can vent my frustrations onto. I guess what I'm trying to say is be realistic. If you have a small crush it's fine just make sure it doesn't explode into anything beyond that.
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Useful and comforting when under control, but if you let it get out of hand....
that the LG, who used to moderate the EH board had, "help I've fallen for a provider and can't get up" Remember this isn't match.com I'd recommend that you not repeat with a provider at this stage. You'll probably get smitten with the next one, and the next one, and the next one. When you can compartmentalize your feelings, then maybe circle back and see a fav.
and then I "fall for" the next one. I Fall For my Favs over & over, in turn. I don't repeat date with my Favs anymore. You must not cross boundaries. Keep your heart on a short leash. But it's ok to have feelings. Welcome to being human.
Most ofthe "Falling For" is hormonal... useful for protecting offspring in the age of dino's! As long as you can control it, you're good. If you cross boundaries, expect her to refuse future appointments. A provider can not permit a clingy client to become a stalker.
we meet a great provider..we are temporarily smitten..we think she really likes me..i really like her..then reality bites..it always does..bottom line this is a business..crushes are good for high school kids..certainly not for hobbyists..the feeling always eventually passes..it has to..for your sake and hers..
Thanks for all the responses. Totally understand the boundaries.
I was just curious to see reactions to the question. Everybody on here is always so helpful!
you get a feeling of "I want to rescue this lady and treat her like the queen she is" but then reality sets in and you realize it is a business for the provider and a playtime for you. It is sometimes said we pay providers to leave when the time is up.
do you have a big crush on her? i mean would you put a ring on her finger?
do you just want her to be exclusive to you..for awhile? whats your ideal crush like?
It probably didn't completely come across this way now that I think about it, but I was speaking more hypothetically--considering contigencies--planning for the possible.
Being a new newbie and all, I'm just making this up as I go.