So I made an accnt here few years ago but chickened out.. But lately I've been in the mood for some company. I am an extremely shy person, is this something I should try? I know I should discuss this prior to the arrangement but I would like some input from both perspectives.
ThanksDo your research, and read the boards here to glean the helpful hints, take a shot of booze, and give it a whirl.
It's better to regret something you have done, than something you haven't done.
Nobody can answer that but you.
I will say that being shy, even extremely shy, is not in and of itself a good reason not to. I know because I was and still kind of am.
MrFisher is absolutely right. All my biggest regrets are things I didn't do, days I didn't seize. The things I did and ended up regretting, most seem to fade from memory quickly.
If you're really that shy, you can start with a platonic date with an escort. Many have social time rates much lower than their rates for sex. Another idea for nervous newbies is to find a well reviewed, independent FBSM gal. Someone who you know is going to have naked sexy extras, without you having to cross your fingers and ask; but will start with a therapeutic massage and some conversation.
Why did you chicken out in the first place? Since this hobby isn't risk free, risks will have to be managed. Perhaps you have a really good reason to stay out of it. To make the long story short: It is impossible to answer your question due to lack of information.
independant with extras allowed is a great way to start... You might ask for a massage with happy ending as an ice breaker. That's how I started. I saw her on & off for years...
You, me & everyone is always nervious oon a first meeting... while experienced hobbiests can be happy with an hour... I'd suggest maybe even 2 hours or an hour & a half as a first time. It gives time to chat & get comfortable though... you will need to be sure she doesn't get the idea you don't want to play at all.
You don't need the most stunning gal... reasonably attractive is enough. A good attitude is more important than looks. Figure you might see her once or twice... you'll make mnistakes... Ms good enough alows you to leave your mistakes behind.
Please create a FREE hobby email, not linked to your real identity. Invest in a burner phone... hobby phone... happy phone... around $20, plus a minutes card. Hide them well. If things don't work out, you can throw the phone away & have lost little.
Agree with shopping carefully and booking for two hours. That's a good idea.
Very much agree that attitude is more important than looks. If anything, for a shy and nervous newbie, the hottest gal he can find is probably a bad idea.
I'll check out a FBSM provider. I'm bit confused on me asking for 'extra' thought it was kinda given and from what I read it's a no-no to talk about it with the provider?! But, I'm not going in blind, I'll talk to the provider about my shyness and such.
All the ladies I see on P411 are pretty, like everyone I have my preference of body type.
I'll look more and maybe schedule something for Sunday or Monday.
It is a given, if that's what she does. I didn't say you should ask for extras, I was saying avoid a situation where you might need to ask in order to get them. Not everyone who does massage does the extras. Not everyone who does the extras does them automatically in every session, or uses a flat fee. That's why I said to pick one with several reviews, so you know exactly what is or isn't going to happen and you don't NEED to bring it up. Like I said, you won't need to ask if you already know. Oh, and I didn't mean to ask before you meet or when you first arrive or something. Don't do that. With anybody. I should have said "on the flip."
Where you may end up having to ask and then negotiate would be an MP or a masseuse on bp with little or no reviews. If you've been reading this board, I'm sure you know there are MUCH better reasons to avoid the latter anyway.