for me, i wouldn't have an issue with it at all. nobody is perfect and *everyone* has some kind of flaw that makes them self conscious about something....its totally normal to feel self conscious and not want to take your shirt off and nobody, providers or civies should judge you for that.

Don't be embarrassed!

We are not here to judge just like how we wouldn't want people judging us providers for what we choose to do with our lives. You don't have to explain; whatever makes you feel comfortable in you're own skin. I think no matter what, there's something beautiful in everyone

naive, but most probably won't. I know women who refuse to see anyone who is overweight just as I know women who won't see anyone who is not circumsized. You can join p411 and fill the profile out as it covers all of this. If the women you contact respond positively after knowing these things, well there ya go. Good luck to you.

A regular lady I see, once told me.  Early on, I learned to have sex with a person, not a body.  It was a difficult lesson, but one I am sooooo glad I learned.  Would more men would learn that lesson.

As to those who are putting you down because you are not an expert on navigating TER.  Disregard them.  Your question has been asked many times, because it is one of the most common questions of someone first trying out this hobby.  In short, you are really quite normal, but once you try it, you will be normal with a grin on your face.

Not if you have cash!

Couple of different thoughts on this issue:

1) My pet saying on these boards is "Always remember, it's a "date," not a date!  If you are freshly showered and respectful, most of the girls I know really don't care what you look like. I am no prize physically either and I have never felt that this in anyway affected my somewhat vast experiences here.  I keep my shirt on a lot of the time for the exact same reason: it makes me feel more relaxed. Again, I don't think the girls really care one way or another!

2) They are women, therefore, wired differently than we are.  I'm not saying that looks and physicality don't' matter to women but I don't think such things have quite the same priority with them as it does with us.  Again, I'm no prize to look at, especially from the neck down and don't have a boat load of dough but have had at least three real relationships with women I've met doing this, a couple of whom whose identity would probably cause serious questions about my credibility!    

Relax & have fun!

It's a tough question to ask...so thanks for asking!  Me, personally, I am never offended or judging of someone's comfort level. As someone previously said, everyone is self conscious about something. The truth is not everyone admits it. I can look past a hobbyists age, weight, height, hair, likes, and dislikes so long as he is respectful.  I think it's sexy when a guy is comfortable in his own skin, no matter what skin that is.

Also, you should know you are not alone. I've seen a couple people that prefer to keep their shirts on.  

Again, everyone is different and "to each is own" or "the beauty is in the eye of the beholder"

Best thought is to mention it to the provider via PM or, as someone else suggested, to fill it out for screening.

No....

No, Physical looks are not important. Hygene is whats important..