Are you asking too many questions on the phone? Being TOO explicit? Asking what specifically they will do to you? If so, they will view you as LE, and blow you off. If they are well reviewed, cool your jets, and be cool--- shit will fall into place. Trust me. Good luck.
Why can't I get in to see an escort or an erotic massage? I used to use CL and had totally bad experiences. I found this site, signed for VIP and began lots of research. Found a few girls I was interested in that had great reviews and started making calls. Most didn't call back after several attemps and one answered and we set up date at her motel. She jacked me around with several phone calls and then when I finally got there she didn't answer the door. Am I spooking them somehow? Please help. I read all these great reviews but can't seem to get an appt. myself. HELP!!!!!
You will have much better luck (and much better experiences) if you join date-check or preferred411. (Date Check is easier) You will have to give them information about your place of work which they can verify, but after this, the ladies you are contacting will at least be somewhat assured that you are not with law enforcement. Then browse the listings of ladies who are members of date check or preferred411, and who live in your area. Don't forget to check their TER reviews! Contact the lady through the site. After you see a lady ask her to give you a verification. As things progress you will find it easier and easier to choose ladies, conclude arrangements and enjoy the hobby.
Thanks for the tips. I will research and try it out.
The problem with calling is that she doesn't want to call a new guy back and interrupt something (SO, business meeting). This is NOT a reason to keep calling her over and over. I wind up blocking those numbers... stalkers 
Why not try emailing? If you email her, write a nice introduction with plenty of info about yourself, tell her you don't have much in the way of references but would like to meet, she is more likely to respond. Good luck!
"if you join date-check or preferred411. (Date Check is easier) You will have to give them information about your place of work which they can verify"
I beg to differ. I have both Date Check and P411. P411 by far is the easiest and accepted 10 times more than Date check. Its easier to access. Its run out of Canada. The owner is the owner of Private Connections. Highly regarded and highly respected. Minimal personal information needed. And being approved by Gina alone is worth it's weight in gold, in ANY provider's opinion.
Once you get approved, all you have to do is contact a provider, give her your P411 account #, she looks it up, you get an appointment. Once you complete the appointment, the provider goes back in to P411 and gives you an "OK". Once you have acquired a few OK's, your good to go any time you want an appointment.
P411 has a fool proof way for providers to verify the hobbyist is in fact the person on the P411 account with the account number you are given has information from your drivers license she can double check once you arrive at your incall.
Example: "Joe Blow"
"1234 Any Street
"May 22, 1956"
P411 account: Joe-M-12-3456
Joe = name
M = any letter of your DOB
12 = any number of your street address
3456 = any number of your street address and/or DOB
Its set up how ever YOU want it set up.
You screw up? You deal with Gina. And I wouldnt want to deal with Gina..lol She treats the providers just the same as she treats the hobbyist. You screw up, your sure to have a really hard time "hobbying" again.
Gina runs a top notch business and is very much on top of everything that goes into her site.
"After you see a lady ask her to give you a verifcation"
A good provider will take it upon herself to give you an "ok" before your back in your car and on the road. She will also offer you to use her as a reference as well.
Date check (for providers) requires you to log in from time to time to keep your "account active". It also requires providers to "refer" others to keep your account active. It gives you access for a few weeks (free) once you "approve" someone. P411 will remain active continuiously until YOU tell them otherwise. No hidden agenda's to deal with like you do with Date check.
There was an incident recently here in Dallas where Date check notified a hobbyist telling them the provider he rquested an OK on (who was a steady regular) and said she declined to approve him, when in fact, Date Check NEVER sent a verification request to the provider in the first place.Which in turn caused the provider alot of grief with the hobbyist. Date Check denied they did it and she is STILL batteling them over it.
Are you asking too many questions on the phone? Being TOO explicit? Asking what specifically they will do to you? If so, they will view you as LE, and blow you off. If they are well reviewed, cool your jets, and be cool--- shit will fall into place. Trust me. Good luck.
Not asking questions. Just leaving name and number and thats it.
because you are a vip doesnt mean someone is going to see you -
Follow their etiquette and go from there-
Even as a newbie myself I can tell you that all the calling would spook me too. I have had just the opposite experience but I did things very differently. First I contacted through their site asking if an appointment was available on a specific day and time weeks in advance. No reference to anything other than a time and date unless they asked for the information. I provided my contact information and any verification info they asked for. Amazingly my first appointment went extremely smoothly and I was able to make my second one yesterday tough a series of email exchanges. I understand the providers need for security and secrecy and abide by their rules. After all I have the same worries as they do.
Most indies don't want to use e-mail. There ads say calls only. I am on backpage should I be searching elsewhere?
How about searching here?
With Backpage you really never know who you are going to actually meet... if someone there catches your eye, it's a good idea to search for her here.
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They probably cant verify you. Check their verification requirements.
Unless it's an agency girl, you'll probably have more luck with email. Also if you do your homework and research the problem doesn't exist. Try it and see.
Thanks all for your input. I am persistant and will keep trying and using your tips.
I can totally relate to your problem.
I just had a horrible experience with a provider then I go to the reviews and find only really positive reviews for her.
How's it possible? Who are these guys that enjoy having sex with robots?
sounds like you're spooking them Bro - lighten up a little on the phone calls, iyam
new to the hobby had my first appt. about a month ago. I would reccomend just calling set the date and time and be pleasant dont ask any questions. If you are VIP you can get enough information from the site without mentioning it on the phone. Good Luck happy hobbying
It depends on the girl and her schedule...but with a new guy, it's unfortunately not unusual for her to jack you around as she get's her schedule together. Once she knows your bank, you won't have a problem.