This question is for GFE ladies who mention that they are fetish friendly or enjoy BDSM activities as well.
When is it a good time to ask about them? For example, maybe a specific toy like Strap-on, or a fetish activity like GS or foot fetish. I've been OK'd by a provider's screening process (checked references), and am at the point of communicating with her via text (her preference). She had to cancel today's appointment but we re-scheduled for tomorrow. I was thinking of asking if a specific fetish is available for our 1st meeting. Are there fetishes/kinks you provide where you prefer to wait and have a more vanilla session first, or don't want to discuss before meeting a client? Thanks!And this applies to ANY request for a specific service, not just fetish. It should be OK at this point to ask her if she's comfortable receiving a request that relates to the statement on her site that she's "fetish friendly." If she says "yes," just ask.
I prefer not to be asked in advance. Have to say it happens far more frequently than I would like.
providers don't always have their toys with them, the case on a recent first time visit with someone who advertises (and has reviews) as a very fetishy GFE/Switch.
Maybe first visits are more for the GFE experience?
I like to have a basic idea of your fetish preferences after screening but prior to meeting. I'm personally a switch so I like to go between dominant and submissive depending on my chemistry with my play partner. Knowing the basics not only prepares me to enter the appropriate headspace that you'll be joining me in, but also allows me to take care of any requests regarding wardrobe and implements. I have a pretty vast collection of kinky toys and some are appropriate for certain scenes and make no sense in others.
I don't get too into detail over email so I take a few minutes before our first time playing to get to know each other and what we want to achieve in depth before the fun begins. I understand other ladies may have other preferences and that's totally valid and respected by me, but this is what feels most natural and safe to me for us both.
I actually have it listed as a question on the contact form that's on my site:
Any specific interests, fetishes, or session type desired? What's your biggest turn on/off? Who do you prefer to take lead/control? Would you prefer that dynamic throughout the session, just in the beginning, or alternating?
I only see providers that will be okay with my particular fetish, so I mention my fetish in my intro email along with my references. Sometimes I don't get a response back, so I just move on. TER is a great resource, so sometime asking in the search of or the local board can help you find a provider that will cater to your fetish.
First yes get verified. Read her website and reviews. In email ask first if you can tell her more about what you fantasize the session to be and if given the okay. be vague about what you want, specifics can get messy and misinterpreted. It's much easier to get all that out of the way after the dfk and shower . And it can be demonstrated 😁😉
How else will you find out? Wait until after screening and politely ask if you could ask about a specific fetish. Usually that will be fine. I definetly like to know before hand so i can be prepared and of course make sure i offer what they may be looking for.
Good luck!