1.  If it was an agency, perhaps she is a massage girl.  In other words, she gives you an erotic massage, you give yourself the happy ending.  In Chicago, there are a number of "massage spas" that have misleading advertisements claiming "full service" and what they mean is a massage.

2.  Asking bluntly for sex is something that may set off red flags.  She may have felt you were LE.

You could have used the acronym, "@ould you like us to get more comfortable?"  or "Can we go into the other room?"

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#1.  Always tell the lady when you first contact her that you are a newbie. This allows her the knowledge upfront and I am sure she will coach you along.

#2. Most important..Never discuss graphic details of any sorts in an email or on the phone, especially in person.. Sadly if you asked for sex or full service you would more than likely get the lady to say I dont know what you are talking about and she will depart leaving you stranded.  

#3.  Me personally, I always require to see the id.  It is soo much more respectful if you have your id out on the counter by the "green".  Then once the first contact of hello's and hugs are done she can go check out your id, without any verbal mention of it. However, it is much wiser after the initial hugs etc. to excuse yourself to the restroom to wash your hands.  Then without you being in the room she can check the id, etc. and then it's time to proceed and get "comfortable".

Most importantly is to enjoy her company and read her site thoroughly.  You will gain lots of knowledge on her site about her and some do's and don'ts.

Now sit back and relax and enjoy your time together and your escape from the world...

You should have asked the agency if the gal has any reviews, and then checked them out.

That is your best protection that you won't be let down when she comes over.

Then, just be cool and let nature take it's course.

Asking for a massage or giving a massage is a particularly good lead in.

Sounds like your unforchanate experiance was one that no matter what you said it would have never been or was never meant to be GFE, so don't be too critical of yourself on that one. Write up a review on the company/girl though so others won't be a victim.

Best thing to do is have the donation in a envelope and lay it in plain site and make no more mention of it. She may request ID and you should be prepared to produce it. Some even require a check stub to prove employment and these are safety precautions.

If you get with a legit provider then there is really nothing to be too concerned about. I hope I never have an experiance where I have to bring up the purpose of the meeting as that would give me the sinking feeling that it wasn't going to happen the way I envisioned.

My most recent GFE date, the girl just plainly said "take off your cloths" after no more than 2 minutes into the room, so small talk will only need to go on for a few minutes or longer only if you desire.

I usually try to have a few lines ready for those ice breaking moments at the beginning just so not to be aukward and silent. But more than anything just relax. Before things really go into gear I usually ask if she has any rules so that I know what would not be a good thing to try. You won't have to ask a legit provider to start things, things will just start on their own.

Hope you have a good experiance next time around.

Re: Newbie: what to say when the provider comes

THANK YOU ALL!
i did  post her review on TER
iam in NYC now and wam going to try again tonite...
wish me luck