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GFE extra charge
4oureyes 2 Reviews 3504 reads
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I've seen some ads recently that confuse me a bit.  They list GFE as an extra charge.

What does that mean?  I've been away from the hobby for a few years, but I've always thought of GFE as an attitude rather than a specific service.  Has something changed?  What are these providers getting at?

It's a natural state of being or feeling. I would have a hard time separating say a 200 non GFE and a 300 GFE.

GFE is an emotion or feeling that goes hand and hand with the way you present yourself. It is a part of your personality so to speak, at least it is for me.

Now a provider who offers a 1/2 hour special, blowpop or quickie would not be considered in anyway GFE. Many good providers do this when things are slow to keep things going and to encourage new friends. They may be a GFE most of the time and still offer their regular sessions to those who are interested.

They are offering a special but the GFE is their normal rate not an extra charge.

Kisses Haley

Your point is not really made by those three small words.

Thanks, Haley, that was how I thought of it, which is why I was perplexed when I saw the listing of the extra charge.

I guess crossing that provider off the list when I see such an entry seems like the most appropriate thing to do.

"skip this ad and move on to the next one for a real provider."

Good luck

Coming on this board, under an alias and call these woman names. You are like a spoiled little child.
Grow up.
If you don't appreciate the Ladies here, go piss someone else off else where. Not everyone in this business is GFE. Some are and some are not. That does not make them any less of a person, its just not how they prefer to run their business. If you are looking for GFE don't see the other ladies. She still may be just as nice and treat you just as well, even though she is not what you personally are looking for, someone else may be interested. Don't see her and move on.  Insulting her choices is no way to make friends.
Another troll.

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southern*man2544 reads

the fee is for the time, right?

yes it is for my time actually. There is a great deal that goes into the time spent with the Gentlemen I see.  With such a low opinion of these woman, why do you bother. I won't see anyone who I have a low opinion of, its a waste of both our time.
I feel you really don't understand what this is all about.  To come on here and insult these woman, whats your point? I can't believe I am even answering this, you are a waste of time...I'm done. Have a nice life...

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this board is for those in need of help in one form or another, not for any angry man or woman to impose their opinion,which by the way is very negative and not in line with how most feel who come here. Its out of line.

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southern*man2047 reads

Do you feel that it is angry to point out that the fee is supposed to cover the time?

So, maybe because of this thread, and another post of yours that I had to lift earlier today, you are now moderated.

BTW - before you kick-off an argument and call someone a whore, you may want to first determine that person's gender.

"BTW - before you kick-off an argument and call someone a whore, you may want to first determine that person's gender"


 All kidding aside,  a provider recently called me a slut..Since I am a man would it have been inappropriate for her to call me a whore?? Or is it just slutty to kiss her after she didn't swallow??

I think you are right Dixie, he just called you a whore.  You are no whore Dixie, just a bit slutty, a really good one though!!!

xoxox
Nicole



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You may be a southern man, but you certainly aren't a Southern Gentleman.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rveKcXKDRPg&feature=related

I'm a guy you idiot.  Look by my handle and you will see that I have GIVEN reviews, not that I've BEEN reviewed.

A Southern Man will usually be a gentleman, but it seems as though you missed that little bit of upbringing in the troll cave in which you were whelped.

This is a board for Newbies to get help, not for little trolls like you to come get your nut off by showing your ass.

I guess GFE is a different attitude. One would have to see the same provider at least twice to tell the difference. Perhaps it requires more skill to offer GFE which could account for the difference in price.

woman charge for their time what they think it is worth, and not for what they are doing during that time.

Yes it is a different addutude, its all about Passion, Sensuality and the experience shared together.

Assuming the GFE attitude is actually doing something that might not normally be done is it not? It is possible to have a GFE attitude and provide that attitude to a client and nothing else, yes? Think of the possibilities.

It stands for "girlfriend experience". An experience you would share with your Girlfriend. Passion, sensuality and intimacy. Not machanical or clock watching. Now I guess your definition would all depend on what your normal experience has been for you. By stating what might not normally be done, I don't believe so. Its all in the def. you can find here on Ter. It is mostly an experience, and an additude. Its a mindset for sure.
Now my SO well he gets the GFE/PSE experience for sure...lucky Guy!!! So I say in this case, all is normally done. Here your def would not hold true. He has special privledges though...

Nitie nite all...

Nicole

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Cheers for you. 100% GFE/PSE 24/7

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I don't know where you're located 4oureyes but I was reading on a ladies board that some girls had been offering BBFS as GFE.

Of course, the girls that posted this were pisssssed!
Maybe this is the case?
I'm still new to all these terms too but I think I'm GFE...if your girlfriend was a Porn Star, lol!

Ta!
BB

This is just my opinion of course, so take it for what it is, but if a woman charges one rate, seemingly for FS only, and a different rate for GFE, then my interpretation is that she is basically saying "I'll F ya for this much, but if you pay me a little more, I will pretend to like you" Maybe that's harsh, but that is how I interpret.

GFE should be natural, an attitude, a perspective. If she's charging more money for it, that pretty much lets you know what she really thinks of her job. I will at least give this credit though - charging a different rate for GFE is little better than upselling, but at least the woman is upfront about the upsell rather than reeling you in and waiting to spring it on you after you've got your motor running.

EroticLicker1805 reads

Interesting point, and I can identify with that to some degree.  MALE  here in case you didn't know.  However, consider this please.  What if your parents told you as a child, so and so was going to be your gf.  What if you had NO attraction to her at all, or had any way to find that deeper connection or just get along but becasue you were told so....

Sure a provider can just decline as can the patron in this case.  However, you cannot just say or assume a certain feeling or attitude or mental state..whatever you want to term it, can just be turned off and on like a light switch.  My opinion is somewhat like yours and that I think if you say you offer GFE or FS, and you charge for it, then you have an obligation if from the get go, you think you cannot do so, to terminate the project then and there.  

Whatever you are charging for whatever service is listed, then it should be accurate.  From all the reviews I've seen and general accepted practice, negotiations, which I'd have to say $ more if you want this or that, conducted on site is an upsale.  Unless I am wrong, I thought these things were supposed to be already settled upon before getting there.

of service at different rates.

They may charge $200 for FBSM, $300 for GFE which is usually assumed to include FS, BBBJ and DFK, among other things, and even another upcharge of $100 or so for Greek.

I don't see anything wrong with this approach as long as it is all well spelled out in advance so that there are no surprises when the client arrives.

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