I've found a escort who will agree to see me without a reference screened me by ID my question is after i meet her how can i get a reference? Should i just email her a few days later introduce myself and ask if she would give me a reference once she does where do i post it so in the future when i try to book another escort and they ask me for references i have it how does it work?
After you have the session with this first gal, ask her if she would be willing to give you a reference for when you want to meet another gal. If she agrees, then contact her right after you have a tentative date set up with the second gal and let her know that this second gal will be in touch with her.
That's all there is to it.
In case you are using the term reference to refer to the White List, that is another option. You can ask the first gals if she will also be willing to put in a white list post for you. This shows up on your review list if and when you write a review. Some gals give this some credence, others, don't.
It fascinates me, the system we have a reference, and we have a whitelist. I'm asking, I'm newbie (sorta).
...be white listed. You know that GaG doesn't write reviews, yet he has a white listing:
http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/searchbyreviewerResults.asp?MemberName=GaGambler
Funny thing is, I'm 99% sure GaG never saw the provider who white listed him. And I believe he had a couple of other providers who white listed him without having seen him. Same thing happened to me - I was white listed by a couple of providers I had never seen. I asked them to remove the white lists because I couldn't vouch for THEM.
I doubt anyone who knows me would believe that I would have traveled all the way to LA to see a "middle aged" provider who charges $900 hr, lol
and yes, I have had several other providers White List me who I have never seen. I have had them removed a couple of different times, but it's not something I try to keep up with, nor do I know why they are giving me WL's. Like in the case of "Ryan" I don't see where she gets the least bit of benefit by giving me a fake WL. She is highly reviewed, I live in another state and it's not like she is going to get more business by giving me a WL. The only thing that makes even the least bit of sense is that "someone" used my handle to book a date, which doesn't really make any sense either. "Stealing" my name to book with a provider is kind of like stealing the identity of a homeless guy in order to apply for a mortgage. lol
Of all the women who have white listed me, only one of them have I ever met and in her case I had never seen her for a session, we met briefly at a M&G at least ten years ago.
Yeah, I figured you did. 
That's probably why many providers don't put any store in white lists; they can be given to anyone at any time for any reason.
That's why I stopped asking providers for white lists years ago. (Occasionally I get white listed without requesting it, but always by someone I've seen). Instead I ask for P411 OKs. I find those are very well accepted by providers; in fact, since I started using them when requesting an initial session with a provider who's on P411, I've had 100% success. In every case, the provider has accepted my OKs without references, although I offer them. However, I don't know if they contact the providers who gave me the OKs.
if they do not have reviews?
For example, when I click on GG's handle, I get a choice of his posts and PM. When I click on other's handles who have written reviews, I get those two choices plus their review list, with the white list at the bottom.
Reviews > more searches > search white list
Then enter their TER handle
Or you could be a real nerd and just substitute the TER handle in the last part of this url...
http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/searchbyreviewerResults.asp?MemberName=GaGambler
Like so
http://www.theeroticreview.com/reviews/searchbyreviewerResults.asp?MemberName=mrfisher
Et voila
I see someone and then later on down the road, he gives my name & email address to another provider he wishes to meet. She then contacts me to ask if I can provide a positive reference.
What this means is that I am telling her he behaved properly, donation was correct, and basically that he is safe to see.
Sometimes gentlemen ask me, usually at the end of a session, if I'll be a reference but most of the time they don't. They just do it. But it's important to note that I state on my website that I'm reference-friendly and happy to do this. Some ladies will only be a reference after multiple dates and/or require a heads-up from you before you give out her name as such.
So it is always a good idea to ask her first; I'm just saying that , in my personal experience, this is not the norm.