Hi.
I came across a provider that I'm interested in seeing. However, I've looked everywhere I can think of, via phone, name, image search, and cannot find any reviews whatsoever. She's got an ad on two other sites, one of which had its adult section shut down, and that's about it. Are there any other routes to finding out whether a provider is legit? Thank you.Good idea!
Thank you.
Anyone can simply give post a reply to your thread on a board that she is legit, but would that make it so? You don't want to risk a bust if someone decides to troll your post.
Listen to perfectstorm here. See well reviewed, and oft reviewed girls whose reviewers have many reviews themselves.
The best advice we give newbies is to stick with reputable well reviewed providers. Newbies should not TOFTT.
This one has no reviews, so move on. If you really have your mind set on her, you could keep your eyes on her ads and do your same searches later. If she is legit, eventually she probably will get reviews somewhere. (TER is not the only review site.) You can decide again then if you want to see her. What did your searches result in? phone and image searches can turn up lots of red flags. If it turned up absolutely nothing, that can also be considered a red flag, or at the least it is definitely not a green flag!
You could ask on your local board like fish said but I would put money down that you either get crickets, (no replies to your post) or you get people ridiculing you for going after a BP girl with no reviews. We won't ridicule you here on the newbie board. We just try to give advice and help keep people safe and enjoying the hobby.
Mr fisher is usually very helpful on this board, but in this case, I would not follow his advice.
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I hear what you're saying. And you're right so far about the crickets.
Thank you much!
I can understand why everyone would suggest you stick with well reviewed providers. It is obviously the safest choice, but I'm going to play devil's advocate. What if she is new to the industry? Couldn't that explain her lack of reviews?
I myself am brand new to the industry, and thus have no reviews under my belt. I have seen so many comments suggesting people stick with highly reviewed providers, which I'm not disputing makes perfect sense, but how is a new girl to acquire reviews if so few are willing to take the chance when no reviews are seen as a red flag? It seems to be a catch 22. Of course I'm sure someone will take the gamble at some point but how are new girls supposed to make a name for themselves if they aren't given the chance?
It would be the same thing as if you were to ask as a new provider if you should see a guy without references or other screening information, our answer to you would be a resounding NO. The very same argument of course could be made by the guys, "How are we supposed to get references if no one will see us?"
Here is the deal. Experienced guys are more able to read between the lines and determine which ladies are a good TOFTT risk and which ones are not. Newbies aren't equipped yet to do that and shouldn't be seeing women without reviews until they are answering questions here, not asking them. The same thing applies to you, at this stage of your career you shouldn't be seeing any new clients that can't sail through screening and you should never say to yourself, "he sounds nice, I think I will take a chance". At some point with enough experience you may want to see guys in that "gray area" but until then neither you or the OP should be taking ANY chances where it comes to seeing only guys/girls who are verifiable.
so that you build up credibility, as well as market yourself that way. I've met many gals on TER that way, including some who had very few reviews.
Would you want to be the first patient for a brand new doctor? Probably not, right? lol
Well then you can understand the hesitancy to see newer girls like yourself. But your issue is one that virtually every new girl encounters. They stress over the first few reviews and how long they can take.
The funny thing is, when a girl does get a few, early great reviews, she will get swamped with session requests. This is a process you cant rush but you can ask your guys to write you a review so don't be bashful about that.
Timing, whom you ask and the way you ask is important, however.
Usually there is a post date "thank you" by someone later that day or the next day and that would be the perfect time to hit them up in a soft, sweet manner.
a practice. I agree, I don't want them practicing on me.
Same goes for lawyers.
As for providers, I have TOFTT a few times and always have had good experiences. But it takes years of P4P to be able to read between the lines.
I agree with everything GaG said. There are a lot of guys out there who will TOFTT or take the chance to see new providers. I have done it myself many times. The thing is, I have been doing this for many years. I have other ways of vetting a lady besides looking at reviews. Also sometimes it is just a gut feeling, or I am just willing to take the risk or gamble occasionally. A newbie does not have that experience, or the "spidey sense" to verify a new girl. Seeing only well reviewed providers is good advice for newbies, so we always give that advice on the newbie board. As GaG said the same is true for newbie providers. They should only see clients they can screen easily.
The big difference between a veteran TOFTT or a newbie TOFTT is someone knowing the risk and knowing how to minimize it, or knowing the risks but willing to gamble anyway, vs being clueless, not realizing the risk and jumping in with two feet anyway.
For new providers, mrfisher's advice is good too. You can get yourself known by posting on the boards, then some TER guys are more willing to take a chance.
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If you are committed to your craft, eventually over time you will gain reviews from clients, and provided your service is outstanding, those reviews will be exemplary. Yes, it is difficult to start this career, and you undoubtedly will be forced to endure some lonely nights with no phone calls, and my heart goes out to you and the ladies who deal with that. But if this is a career choice your committed to, at least for a definite period of team, eventually phone calls will come, and eventually one of them turns into a date with a client, and eventually one of those dates turns into a review. Then you get a little more, etc...
i am new here myself too. And I think it depends on where you post and donation range too, if you post here in TER there are more gentlemen who will want to see your reviews, while some other ad malls aren't. also if your donation is set at a reasonable range(not too high or low) maybe more people will give you a try? lol I myself see some clients recently and like what everyone said here, none of the gentlemen are newbies, most have years experiences of hobbying. i guess they feel they can read/screen girls with no reviews better.