As Betty and Bunny say, there are times when a bond develops between a client and a provider.  In doing a review, one should be hesitant about revealing things that are personal.   I try my best to do that, while giving the reader the impression of what it was like.   Of course, the review should be honest (I fear that many are not, especially when the client is proclaiming his own prowess), but sometimes a little should be left to the imagination

-- Modified on 10/31/2005 6:33:04 PM

It certainly makes sense that if you are offered something special by a provider because the chemistry was right it is something private and should be kept that way.  The problem is how to distinguish between the AMP situation and the one described by Betty_SNJ.  On one end of the spectrum is the situation where none of the other reviews suggest the particular service offered to you under these special circumstances.  But in other cases, it might not be so clear cut, maybe only a few reviews include a particular type of service.  I would think that a provider might develop that special chemistry with more than on reviewer.  Then you have a dilema because you want to write an honest review.

I have read many profiles that include the services offered to the first reviewer.  A trip to Greece is a good example.  Either the profile says yes or no.  You see it listed as an offered service but then you read the reviews and only one reviewer said he took a trip to Greece but none of the others do.  Then it goes the other way.  So you now have to decide what to include and that is not always so easy.

I will usually let the provider know that I intend to write a review and look for a reaction.  That would allow the provider to object entirely or ask that it not be explicit in certain respects.  That way there is no misunderstanding.  Of course if the provider says not to include a certain service in a review or indicates it was a special circumstance and all of the other reviews do not mention this service, I would not include it.

Keep in mind though that when you use TER you cannot just rely on the profile, you must read the reviews.  If you are looking for something in particular see if the reviews are consistent in that regard.  I would hate to show up expecting a BBBJ and later learn that it was not available and 90% of the reviews for a provider made it clear that BBBJ was not available.

There are providers where we have hit it off.  I'm talking a close friendship and relationship that has developed.  To the point we talk on a regular bases.  And I know there are things that I will not put into a review.  Out of respect to the lady and the friendship.