WOW nettie, candie and Caira you all make me feel good that I am 55, and that's a first. Cause performance wise this old grey stallion just ain't what he used too be.....gets out of the gate  too quick (if you know what i mean) these days.
but the gentle, warm, caring, cuddling, and hopfully intelligent, part is still there. And that can be great also when with a lady who sincerely gives and returns the same.

Thank You

Are we going to out every single provider who wants older or younger? Then that would probably eliminate 90% of those providers of TER lol Again, if it is her preference not to see someone older, then it's her loss: MORE for me

LOL Who are you?

He was only stating his opinion (which I feel is a great one, btw), just like everyone else. Just beause his view is different from the majority, does not make his opinion any less. The question you should ask your ownself (rather than worrying about others who may be getting nookie) is: who is going to do you..tonight?

Kornlover I do agree and then I don't (respectfully)

In a fantasy world, there would be no such thing as preferences (or some may say, discrimination), but in reality: sadly (to some cases/points) there is. We all have preferences, within his/her boundaries.

There is nothing written in my clause (or any other provider's that I know of. I forgot, we don't have one lol) where I am obligated to see everyone ( which my only concerns for me, includes those men who don't bathe, have rotten teeth, are just plain mean/rude to people. For some other ladies, it could be other issues not listed here), for my activity in this lifestyle would have been over years ago.

I feel preferences goes both ways. Whether we like them or not. They just exist. Whether they (men/women) are professionals in their field or not. I may moan, gripe, and be pissed off, because I was passed over for someone else, but nor can I change how that other person's feeling, either. I have learned to just suck it up, and say the word: NEXT! lol

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some can fake being comfortable with certain things. some can't.  those who can't fake it shold opt out rather than being greedy and taking money for a situation that they know they're not going to enjoy...

and the client probably won't enjoy either.  part of being a professional is knowing your limits.  what you're comfortable and not comfortable with, what you can do for someone and what you can't and taking care of yourself so you stay emotionally healthy.

Just look at what many of the providers replying to this thread
have to say.  They have a minimum age.  I see no difference when
a provider puts an upper age limit.

I would be thankful for her candor.  If she wasn't, the session
quality could suffer.  It's all about a comfort zone in which
the provider feels she can perform well in.

That this is my first foray onto the NYC board, having noticed Anneke previously and thought to myself, "What an absolutely fabulous woman!"

And here is this subject, one I have cautiously avoided until this point, for reasons that to some (who know me) are clear, and to others who don't, are not.

I will, without hesitation, agree that age and maturity are inextricably linked - that no matter how wise the youth, there is still experience they've never had, and so, some knowledge that is still denied them.  I have always been a fan of the saying that the truly wise man is aware of what he does not know..

And I suppose I should define maturity.  Anneke touched on that briefly when she said, "I have been a provider two years now and one of the greatest suprises when I began was that MOST of my gents wanted to please me FIRST."  This is a sign not only of sexual maturity, but of emotional maturity; I can say from experience that the young most often think of themselves when intimate.  Not always, but they've not yet learned that the greatest pleasure comes from giving it, because that's the only way to share it.

Not a very good definition, is it?

To those who limit their clientele based on age - be it a lower age limit or an upper age limit - I say, kudos to you for knowing what you want, for knowing your limits and caring enough for your clients to not want to provide them a less than stellar session. They, and you, deserve the best you can give, and you should feel no guilt for having your preference.

In some places I have read the following words: "Do not try to convince me of your maturity."  I cock my eyebrows at those words: By merely attempting to do so, the young man who attempts to convince you of his maturity has already failed, because he has already failed to understand your limits; And the young man who does not try, because he does have the wisdom to understand, is one you will never meet, but might love to - what strange irony is this?

I will only say that there are a few wonderful ladies whom I would be honored to meet, but alas will never have the opportunity to do so because I am 23.  

I will never say I am wise, because I don't know what that means; and I will never try to convince you I am mature, because the effort itself is childish.  I am who I am, and whatever I am to you, is up to you to judge.  I just want to understand the world, it's all I've ever wanted; I want to love life and understand why I love it, and then I want to share it.  I love who I am.  In many ways I will always be a child, because I'm audacious enough to believe in the beauty of my dreams; and young or old, hobbyist or provider, whether you'll see me or you won't, I just want you to know -

In the past month or so that I have visited this board, I have found myself overjoyed at the wealth of experience and knowledge contained here; I had begun to think it didn't exist, surrounded by a world that seems so shallow, so vapid, so hollow, a world where I care so deeply and everyone else seems to care so little..

Strange I should find what I was looking for in a place most of society would tell me I should never look.

For those providers who will see me, respect is but the beginning of what I promise you: all I can ever hope is to leave a little of me with you, as you will always leave a little of you, with me.