I have nothing to lose, I am happily divorced, own my own business and already 100% "out" virtually everybody who knows me, knows I am a whore mongering pig and proud of it. IOW I am "blackmail proof"
Most other guys are not in my position, just how many guys lives have been totally ruined once it got out they were seeing hookers. it's the very reason many hookers want a guys personal information, so they have something to hold over his head if "things go wrong" and yes, some very highly reviewed and well known "full time" providers have gone off the rails and started blackmailing their clients over the most trivial of perceived transgressions, anything from giving out an 8-8 review when she demanded 10-10s to a completely BSC hooker who threatened to sue a client for cancelling on her a good two weeks in advance of their date. It does happen, and how rarely it happens is no consolation to any of the guys it has happened to. I personally know several guys who have been outed by "well reviewed TER providers" a couple of them right here in NYC.
Why are guys so afraid of screening? I mean I have had good times without but I've been a lucky girl and don't take it lightly. Since I've moved into my own incall I'm more vigilante with screening but the majority of potential clients are reluctant to screen, also newbies unwillingness to provide info to book a session. Advice?
Especially if you have a permanent incall. You can ask for whatever details you need, but I can refuse to give them, or offer an alternative. A definite hard stop for me is a picture of a DL, but it rarely even gets that far. This is where P411 has helped me with screening. If you are not on there, then you need to get a provider reference, and if the guy refuses, move on.
In regard to Newbies, some of the Tinder generation believes it's enough to send a text saying 'let's fuck.' Decent references are built over time and they may not be willing to put in the effort. If you have decent references, you don't have to be afraid of screening.
So for me my fears are around exposure ... sending Info that could be forwarded or worse yet posted to social media ... I have seen exchanges between provider and client posted to Twitter foe example
Frankly it's something I am wrestling with right now...
We are just doing it for our safety. I delete that stuff as soon as I get the info I need to feel confident.
If you really want to see the girl, you'll do as she asks... We are worth it.
You know I think of it as a business so I would never want to put a client in danger of exposure because I want to maintain clientele. There's a lot of apprehension between client and provider and I feel like if the gap is mended screening won't be an issue.
whenever clients prefer not to email me their LinkedIn Profile (or other social media acct),
I will ask to see some ID in person upon arrival
It usually works!
Arden: you can Contact TER Admin and request that they link your handle (ArdenBabe) to your Profile (Arden) and also request Free Limited VIP so you can have free PM (Private Message) and a few other privs.
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Click on any "Contact Us" link (bottom of most pages) or go to your profile page and click "Report a Problem" (hot link of left hand side of Profile).