get you down.
No other girl is available in the area at a cheaper rate when you are feeling the urge.
This pisses me off to no end.
I would rather not have the session, not make the money, then be dehumanized this way.
News flash:
I am FAT, I am not barbie, and I charge less, not because I am FAT. Not because I offer less of a service, but because I know that money doesnt grow on trees and not everyone can afford to spend 600 bucks to spend 1hr with a girl.
I am ranting big time because I was reviewed recently that I was settled for because I was cheaper, and the guy couldnt find a petite girl( which he prefers) in the area at a rate he could afford.
Then states I am not GFE. Could you be GFe with someone that wont even touch your tits or even try to kiss or hug? Sorta tells me he wants a standard unattached hooker experience.
He showed no interest in me and maked no effort to even try to touch my body again, that kinda tells me he wants out, and fast! (which, btw, he did say he was tired and had to go.
I know I told Miki not too long ago to not take reviews to heart, but this one pissed me off on a whole other level.
Not because I claim it to be false,I did meet this person, but because I feel it was a session that never should have happened in the first place,
Believe me though, I know this review will not be engraved on my headstone when I die, but this one hurt me most because this man hired me even though he clearly knew he didnt like fat girls, and he wanted a lower price, then says I charge less because of my size and I suck at my service.
Anyone that has screwed me, or had my lips wrapped around their manhood knows I am worth every cheap penny.
I have contacted the reviewer privately, via email, advising him that he should have stuck with a skinnier girl who charges more, because I dont like to be settled for simple because he couldnt find anything better, or cheaper!
I felt the need to bring this to the attention of future men out there, that if a girl isnt your type, and you cant find anyone else, dont settle, and worse yet, dont bitch about it because you did.
Now I am going back to bed!
Lovingly and pissedly,
NYV
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 4:46:53 AM
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 4:53:40 AM
get you down.
the single most funny post EVER on this board! ROTFLMAO. If it were a picture, I'd frame it. Too F_CKING FUNNY ! "I'm Fat and not Barbie, and I'm cheap"-- You just can't make this kinda stuff up. I don't know whether to "shit or go blind" I'm laughing so hard!!!
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 6:24:46 AM
I read that review. He seemed reasonable and he admitted that you weren't his favorite type but he thought he'd give you a try. It wasn't your appearance he was complaining about, he simply didn't think you were that great. The review wasn't that bad. Are you sure you were at your best for his session? Being a heavyset Hispanic woman, perhaps there was no chemistry, some men get turned off by such characteristics as course hair, lip hair and such. Also being a big girl, you might have to pay more attention as you wash. Just some things to consider for better times with clients.
funny as Vanessa!
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 6:51:03 AM
our tolerance for racist and mean-spirited posts is what makes the new york board special.....
how did this post stay up all weekend?
http://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion_boards/viewmsg.asp?MessageID=67694&boardID=2&page=1
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 10:44:42 AM
... you'll note that it was modified to remove the offensive phrase... I asked Thirsty to please change it, maybe others did as well...
is hardly inoffensive.. providers here should be able to post here without people taking stupid racist cheapshots at them... like that or the one above.
From what I can tell from your pics, you look like a shapely, slightly full figured woman. Please dont let that review get you down. From what I can see you have a voluptuos figure with a gorgeous face. The gentleman should not have booked if you werent his type. Please dont let that get you down. You are a beautiful woman.
Sincerely, Alyssa
For one thing, Vanessa, I applaud you for standing up for yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Don't listen to hick who has some nerve to post under an alias, and doesn't even have the nerve to post under his true name: dumbhick.
As for the man who you had the session with, he sounds like a jerk, for he had let his little pee do all of talking for him, rather than using the brain on top of his shoulders. It makes me wonder how some people function at all, if they are not using the brain cells that god clearly gave them.
Don't let a jerk who has no class get you upset.
You know the truth.
The guy was just a jerk.
Also, don't let the a'holes who responded to your post get you down either.
They are just as bad and are not worth your time.
Just remember, there are always going to be a'holes on these boards trying to put you down because it makes them feel big.
Well, we all know who they are and we also know what pitful jerks they are.
You had a good point in your post though.
If some guys would have some respect for the ladies, maybe they would get respect, and a GFE in return.
Just my opinion...
B
Illegetti non corrundum. (Don't let the bastards wear you down.)
This kind of comments towards her persona, here at the board, really HURTS her deeply.
She might come out as a hard bitch sometimes...is her outside crust, her defense.
Inside, she's one of the sweetest and caring people I ever met, reason I love her to pieces.
And yes, she struggles with her weight, like I do...but I take these kind of jabs with a laugh, when she takes them with sadness.
Is a shame that some board posters are making fun of a posting that she made probably with tears in her eyes.
You guys have no idea how much these kind of unnecessary comments affects her.
Shame on you all...
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 8:56:51 AM
Screw all those ASSHOLES who have to run their mouths like they are god's gifts to the world. Like one of the other replies...the only way they can feel good about themselves is to post or say hateful stuff to someone they don't even know. Why that makes them feel better I'll never know - I don't have those kind of problems.
I have a couple of reviews like the one you received and personally I have to laugh. They are the ones you just have to say 'duuuhhhhhhhh' ...when someone looks at your pictures...reads reviews and goes to see you anyway knowing good full and gawddamned well you are not 'normally their type' who is the idiot? Certainly not you or I my dear.
Chin up and f*&k the dumbshits!!!!
Much love, hugs and kisses,
Cookie
I am not upset about a BAD review.
I have many reviews on TER with men commenting on my weight and have not said a word, and it honestly didnt bother me, Read through some and you will see for yourself.
I even had a few horrible reviews last January thatI owned up to,and apologized to the reviewers for not giving my all and took all the blame for going through things in my personal life that I unprofessionally brought to my work life and promised to try harder! ( I even gave discounts if they decided to return)
What upset me about this review is that this reviewer admited he preferes thinner girls, and settled for a fatty who is cheaper ( and therefore he feels I gave him less service because I am so cheap) This is highly insulting to me.
Maybe if you are not a big girl you wont understand the hurt, but imagine being an older woman and he says well I really wanted a 20 yr old, but settled for a 50 yr old and boy did she suck.
If you hire girl you are not generally attracted to, you will not want to spend much time with her, you will be extrememly uncomfortable around her, and therefore she will sense this and feel uncomfortable as well.
I dont take any of the rude comments here to heart because they come from small minded people, and small minded people I tend to not listen to because thier minds are the hardest to open.
They can go on and on about my weight or how they ASSUME I am hispanic and smelly ( sorry babycakes, I was born on a British island to a black mother and Portuguese father) and I wont defend my lack of body odor here at TER as I did last week on Utopiguide.
I appreciate your comments betty, and only you would know how I feel, and where I am coming from.
Dont worry I was too pissed to cry when I made that post. I am passed tears and at the point of rage.
When a man that generally doesnt like big girls comes into a room and takes a look at you, you know that look,we see it, and we know right away, damn this is isnt going to be easy.
I am not here to convince men that they should not like thin girls and to start to like us big girls, I am here to say, before you spend your hard earned cash, make the right choice, and not waste it on someone you are not attracted to simply because shes there and cheaper.
When I meet a client I enjoy him looking at me and smiling and telling me how pretty I am.
I enjoy him not being able to keep his hands off of me. I saviour how he goes right to my large breast because he loves them, and spanks my ample ass because he appreciates an ass thats made to be touched, squeezed and spanked, hard.
Oh and my rates being lower then what most TER men consider CL rates or SW rates, it in no way reflects who I am or the service I provide.
A thank you shout out to cookiebbw.
Lovingly
NYV
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 10:28:46 AM
It is just unfair for someone to criticize you in a review because you are what you advertise you are and he does not like that type of provider. If a provider has implants, which one can tell on TER or from her ad, it is unfair to say that I like girls with real boobs. And so on. The whole point of TER and the internet, with its photos, is that you get what you want. To criticize that what you asked for is not really what you wanted is simply unfair (and ungentlemanly)
like the guy who gave me a "5" and said he showered when he most definitely did not. and said he was "a few minutes late" when in fact he called me more like 30 min after a confirmation call was to be made. after reading his reviews i understood why girls ask for review names.
people just flat out LIE in reviews. but, at the end of the day i don't see why any provider would worry all that much about what one person has to say. either ter is good free advertsing or it's not (in which case a person needs to delist herself and save herself the grief).
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 1:26:11 PM
there are assholes everywhere.
First, as Betty has stated, once you get to know Vanessa, she is one of the sweetest ladies you'll ever meet. And for those she gets to know, she actually cares.
Second, hobbyists should see women they WANT to see, not just a hole to do. Seems like that's what happened here, and then, sinbce he "settled" he added insult to injury by writing about it. Real smooth, guy. Not only are you an asshole, now we all know.
Vanessa, those that know you know that your rates say nothing about your abilities and your heart. Don't reward this guy any further by giving him any more of you b/c of he has no big head, just a little one.
Vanessa - It's easy to say don't let this kind of thing get to you, but harder to do if you are sensitive. That you appear to be a caring and sensitive person is part of your inner beauty - this is no less important than a woman's outer beauty. Others are not as sensitive, nor are they concerned with hurting other people's feelings - they just tell it like they personally see it. This is not necessarily right or wrong in an absolute sense. That's just how people are. Not everyone likes everyone else - sometimes for good reason and sometimes for reasons that may not seem to make sense or be fair or justifiable to you or anyone else. You can't change this nor can you figure it out - the only thing you can do is not let it get to you and get on with life. It's just the way things are, like it or not. We've never met, but others on the board have complimentary things to say about you so that should tell you something. By the way, I checked out your website and you look mighty fine to me!
You are BEAUTIFUL!!!!
-- Modified on 11/20/2005 5:47:41 PM
Vanessa, I think you were a little too sensitive about the review. He gave you a 6 for performance, which is pretty close to your average. His point was he put looks aside hoping for an above-average effort and didn't get it. Perhaps he should have been vocal about what he wanted from you but he didn't "dehumanize" you. He provided his opinion of the encounter.
Couldn't agree more.
Westwritere and any other persons out there that dont seem to be able to comprehend my writting,
I have lots of reviews giving me less then 6 and 5's and never once bitched.
He provided an opinion based on his liking of a thin girl, but settled for a fat girl. THAT and only THAT pisses me off!!!
I am going this say this one more time and then we will all gracefully drop this because I have had a loooooooooooong weekend in the city and I need some deep sleep!!
I AM HURT, UPsET, INSULTED, choose your word, that this man could not find what he reallyed like( thin petite) and settle bfor the fatty AND then complained I was not GFE and wouldnt offer a second cup when clearly he was distant from me and left abruptly.
Now does this indicate that this client was into my type and wanted GFE and wanted a second cup??
AND for one more record:
I dont swallow every load that hits my throat, and I dont have to.
OH and FYI!!!!!I do NOT chagre 300 1hr, dont do by TER based review rates, they have never been correct for me EVER.
Mine are 225 1hr New clients... 175 1 hr Repeat.
I have never had a rate of 300 for 1hr, i have been given it as a tip,but 300 is not my fee.
-- Modified on 11/22/2005 9:17:07 AM
Vanessa has stated she could care less about the review itself. It's the fact that this guy saw her, KNOWING that she was not her type, and then had the audacity to complain. WTF - he got what he went for. To complain later that Vanessa's was not his type shows the guy was thinking w/ his little head, got his rocks off, and then - all of a sudden - remembered that Vanessa was not his type. And apparently made it abundantly clear to her.
So, let's recap: guy doesn't find what he's looking for, sees someone he clearly is not attracted to, then insults Vanessa by telling her she's not up to par. Someone else on this board used the perfect word to describe this guy: dipshit.
No, that is the point. You just can't throw out the review and just consider Vanessas feelings. Yeah I prefer blondes but I've reviewed brunettes before. The reviewer didn't bitch all that much about her appearance, he simply hoped for the bbjtc. And no offense Vanessa, but sometimes a client doesn't go for the kissing and hugging much if a provider smells a little less than clean. I'm not saying that was definitely the case with you and this client but that is the reason some clients seem distant. Some clients prefer not to make an issue of it on the boards or reviews but trust me, when the boys talk...... I was trying to mention that comically before but I say seriously now, girls please watch your hygiene.
And Vanessa, did you say 300 is cheap? Maybe here. In the good ol' USA, in NY can an older, heavy woman get 300 an hour, you gals are lucky.
Oh, I have nothing against fat women in general. I know if people have a choice, they wouldn't be fat. It's just that in this hobby, we men are paying mostly for the physical beauty of a provider and fat is not considered very attractive by most. So basically it's a fetish clientele you gals are catering to.
i wish this were true.
A significant other of mine really happens to find you very attractive. He likes your looks very much, as do I. Take it all with a grain of salt, as there are people who DO really like you.
Aimee
your beautiful. Don't listen to those who cannot say anything nice.
Hugs,
Ciara
Vanessa-
I was just going thru the board and started to read this read and I had to comment. I have hobbied for 29 yrs and have been with women of all types older younger spinners full figured. Each time I went with someone it was my choice and I made the most of it. Apparently this jerk that reviewed you is short on brains and common courtesy. He could have just said I am sorry you are not my type and then leave in a gentlemanly fashion. I saw your pics at your website and I think you are extremely beautiful and what I call curvy,voluptous, and yummy looking. Just wanted to add my .02. Have a Happy Day
Happy 39
Vanessa,
For my own 2 cents, I didn't have a problem with your weight back when I saw you last spring. It was your negative body language and bad attitude -
check my review. I particularly disliked the vigorous head shaking as if in the throws of extasy, which was used as a foil to prevent kissing. You're a master.