....seems to be an "adult" version (double entendre intended) of that.  What a shame!  I hope you will get though this and come out of it on the other side in better shape.  What a hater!  

I'm very sorry to hear how much trouble you're going through. If there was a way for you to tell us who it is, her business would be over with.

Many times when a provider gets stalked by someone on the crazy train, a client gets blamed. I've heard of clients going gaga (a weirdo love-jealousy thing I guess) but nothing as mean as what you're describing.

I know it looks like you only have one choice right now but the fact is that isn't true.

Once someone learns a piece of information about you they're going to do with it what they will unless they know there are repercussions for their behavior.

When I was outed it was without warning.
When a close friend in the same market was outed a week later to her parents and friends in the same fashion she was warned- she complied with the warning and it was done anyway.
When letters were mailed to my home year before last, I kept doing what I do.
When letters were mailed to my parents home, I kept doing what I do.
When a woman called me and left a voicemail with my social security number last summer...I kept doing what I do...I just traced the "blocked" number, let her know that her information, postal letters, voicemail would be forwarded to my lawyer, put alerts in to the credit bureaus and kept doing what I do.  
Lo, when confronted with the prospect of catching a charge suddenly everything all was quiet on the homefront again.
Stalkers love to make you feel marginal and like you're trapped in the darkness.  Sometimes you are...until they cross the line and do something illegal and then you actually have recourse.

Retiring, going UTR, announcing every move that you're going to make is the worst possible thing you can do when you're dealing with a person who threatens to cross over into your real life.
Anyone who has EVER been outed and I mean really, hardcore, dossiers-mailed-to-neighborhoods, reviews-sent-to-family-&-friends outed will tell you do not play it out online.  I did it and God I wish I had a time machine.  Its only going to drive you crazy when no one can offer you the resolution that you need. Its real to you but its just a pity, five minutes of board entertainment or hobby gossip to them.  Handle your business behind the scenes and you'll be much less panicked and frustrated for it.  

Again, online jealousies, arguments etc. typically play out and run their course once someone realizes that they're wrong or the parties simply tire of the futility of drama- but there is no such luck with the insane.  They don't quit and they don't tire.
If you acquiesce to her demands today...there will be more demands tomorrow.  
Playing this out on the boards will only satisfy her temporarily.  Eventually she'll get bored and resume toying with you again and it will be much, much worse than making bitch comments and threats.

Real women just say what they have to say, no matter how it will be received, whether its right or wrong. Cowards mail anonymous letters and make threats.
Please just go to the authorities, using the postal mail to threaten is a felony.  You keep discussing it so obviously she's not convinced that you're willing to do so.  Once she gets a sense that you aren't afraid to involve the law I'm fairly certain she'll cut it out.

I really hate to return to this subject, but this is something about this business that I positively detest. I really hope that you do what has to be done so that you can get some peace over this.  If you need anything you can PM me again...but one of the ladies on the PO board really does have resources that can help you.

…an unfortunate reality of this industry that people should be aware of.

Hilary - You may only be seeking support here, but you have also received sound advice. For some of us the best option is to persevere; for others it is best to quietly handle business until we have at least relocated. Whatever works for your personal situation, try to do it for you and not because someone else demands you do so.

The good thing is that you seem to have a lot of support here, so even if you do decide to work without ads, reviews and a website, you will be just fine. And if you do not want people in your business, cover stories work wonders.

Be safe.

This "lady" already has everything she needs to use against you.  If she wants to send mass mailings, she will do it whether you are visible or not.  

Whatever you decide to do, I am behind you all the way!

my view of karma is probably not uncommon.   Those who embrace hatred and harming others is a sure way to bring those horrendous aspects of inhumanity into one's life.   She has already done infinitely more harm to herself.  Hil, you are wise to be doing just what you are doing.   To the one doing these things: you do not need to live your life like this, you are capable of changing and you will absolutely love those changes.

This person needs help and/or jail. Sorry this happened to you. I hope to come to see you soon.

I would also invest and get a profile on her. Not for reverse extortion, but if you pay to have it done, its cheaper than your lawyer doing it if you ever need to serve her. I also feel it would be good to have a profile on her should you ever need to report damage to property, etc.

I would also park next to lights and cameras when possible, and consider a Conceal and Carry permit if you feel like you would be able to defend yourself, otherwise, some good bear mace if you dont want to go that far.



Be safe, and hope someday I will either be in your area or you in cloud to have lunch sometime!

Throw theat bitch under the bus

....so we can go and get her.  (And please, drama people, don't take this as a threat).   But it is...kinda.  This girl needs to leave OUR girl alone.  Just tell us who she is....I can bet her business will be so slow she will be flippin burgers at White Castle by the end of May.
Sat well, darlin'.