Is our involvement with the hobby something innate in some of us or do we do it strictly because we have to (a profession for the provider/a need for sex in a sexless relationship for the hobbyist)?

I first heard the word "whore" when I was 12 years old.  From the moment my dad explained to me what it meant, I knew that I wanted to have that experience.  I had my first visit with a provider at the age of 15, in Mexico:  a two dollar BJ.  

Have been going strong since then.  Others?

I think it's a confluence of innate traits and the demands of circumstance.  I have a love of new experience and adventure.  That often finds expression in travel but also in exploration of anything that makes me curious.  I also have a strong sex drive.  That is the innate part.  The circumstance part comes in the need for discretion and lack of attachment.  While I could attempt to satisfy my sex drive and indulge my love of adventure through casual relationships (MLTR's), the lack of discretion and attachment that can come with those is not compatible with my lifestyle.  The hobby satisfies that requirement.  Most recently, I visited Goldentime FKK in Vienna and found in it the sweet spot of the confluence that I have described.

the entire city is like stepping into a museum.

For myself, I'd have to agree on the innate traits combined with circumstances theory!  Once I finally (in college) disposed of the concept of someday being a virgin bride (yay!) I felt immediately "at home" in my very naturally sensual/erotic self.  As my relationships developed, fell apart, changed etc I eventually realized that even the "bride" part held little appeal when I could have so much fun AND not be tied down!  
I also don't think that it is only the "sexless (traditional) relationship" that makes one have the very natural desire for a life of variety!

So...here we are! Yay!

XO
Wendy

Wendy nailed it!

My dog does, plus he is fixed.  No fun for him.  I love variety, being stagnant is booooring.  Unless you are a German Shepherd

For me it's a combination of therapy and being willing to act on my purported intellectual convictions.

That the word WHORE actually means "beloved one"....that's was the very first meaning og the word.
Thank you all for calling me a whore!! I'm so BELOVED!! We all are!

Nothing is better in life then
variety! Having a different
partner once in awhile turn
me on it's hot!!

you have no idea how much, your the best

You know I went many years being my best friend and wishing just once i could really go wild with a woman.  Well I'm a little bit chubby and sorta ugly so into my fifties it was mostly watch and be envious of others relationships.  There were times when just a little interaction between some "couple friends" and I would think it would be nice to have someone do that to me. Then there were times when a friends lady would go apeshit for no reason and I would think "What the FUCK was that".  Well anyway a dancer told me about the escort scene in the cities.  I had no idea.  My first date was with her and I was scared shitttttttless.  I discovered that she was very helpful to a newbie and I had a great time.  Since then I have developed good frienships with about 5 ladies that go way beyond the physical.  Ya I know we all want to think the ladies are our friends.  One LADY told me she really cared about me.  Ya I know a Catch 22 deal.  I told her I believed her because she was too smart and too good at her job.  She would have known that she didn't have to do the extras that she was to keep me sniffing around her wonderful butt.  So the physical part is important. (DAH)  But a little interaction with someone is important.

I entered the hobby because after 20+ years together my wife was affected with a mental illness that left her unable to love and left our marriage virtually without sex.  I spent some 5-6 years dealing with her biannual sex desire and constantly having my advances denied before giving up and joining the hobby.  I had felt that the hobby was better, not really cheating because I was paying for a service my wife did not want to fill not having an emotional affair.

After a few years of enjoying just the sexual aspect, it became difficult not to enjoy the emotional side of the hobby for me.  The really good providers offered the affection that also had been lacking in my life, yes there are some really talented GFEs in town.  I know it's temporary and limited to the time purchased but it can feel real, briefly giving me something that I haven't felt for years.  So now the hobby is an affair, supplying both the sexual and emotional needs lacking in my life.  This has allowed me my needs while not abandoning my wife.

This is why I say born, learned and forced.  We are born with the need to seek our sexual partners and sometimes, through circumstances, pushed to enter the hobby.

I had a girlfriend, Tina, whose mom was a provider. Tina was crazy about sex, and at the ripe old age of 13 I could pretty much go all day. I witnessed many wild parties... then one day I was downstairs and Tina was gone (no idea where) 2 of the ladies came down and ravaged me. I still get excited about it. Afterward they bragged loudly to the others and when I went upstairs I was greeted with Whoops and Hollers. It changed me forever... although I've had long stretches where I was monogamous, I still lust for the excitement and the thrill of meeting someone and having a sexual encounter with them moments later. There's nothing else like it!

In my younger days I would have never seen an escort.  But after my marriage fell apart, I decided I had no interest in being celibate until if and when I found another SO.  Took a while for me to get the hang of things but I have been having a wonderful time for some years now.

For me absolutely born this way. Born so effing HORNY that my mind is in constant fantasy mode. And I still haven't learned how to turn it off. Okay, really not trying so hard either.  

Wendy took the words out of my mouth almost verbatim.  

When I was a "virgin bride" I thought that the white fence was for me but as I grew up and expanded my ideals, I found a good place where I can have lots of interesting relationships and I still get to hog the bed at night without someone complaining why I always steal all the covers

I'll say that this lifestyle NEVER crossed my mind until a couple of years out of massage school and people would ask me if I rubbed "fronts AND backs" in a joking manner.  That got me to thinking, "I'm single, a great masseuse and I've got a bit of the x-factor so why not...".

I'm sure that everyone has their own story but mine is pretty simple...

Posted By: WineYouWendy

For myself, I'd have to agree on the innate traits combined with circumstances theory!  Once I finally (in college) disposed of the concept of someday being a virgin bride (yay!) I felt immediately "at home" in my very naturally sensual/erotic self.  As my relationships developed, fell apart, changed etc I eventually realized that even the "bride" part held little appeal when I could have so much fun AND not be tied down!  
I also don't think that it is only the "sexless (traditional) relationship" that makes one have the very natural desire for a life of variety!

So...here we are! Yay!

XO
Wendy

What was his name?

I enjoy sex, and fun uninhibited women. "The Hobby" allows me to do that, and meet women I would never meet under normal everyday circumstances. And I don't find it morally wrong as long as both parties are consensual adults. Oh, and yeah - BOOBIES!!! Love those...