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"Menaji" a no show!
muffhunter 7 Reviews 20571 reads
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I was up in Minn. this past week end and was stood up by "Menaji" in eros. I was e-mailed by another that this is not her first no show! Nice reviews, however I wonder what her ratio is of good to no appearances are?

If one is from out of town, do not take a chance on this one.

MH

HanginToTheLeft20081 reads

Hey Man, relax and take it in stride and call another lady up. In other words.....Big F`in deal.

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play2u20113 reads

Perhaps the man doesn’t want to get over it, perhaps the man is really disappointed after spending a good amount of time and energy planning and deciding which lady he would like to be with.  Perhaps he did some special things to prepare for this evening, Perhaps he sat around and waited for his special desire to show and as it slowly sinks in with no call no e-mail no nothing that he is screwed and he is dammed pissed!
And who wouldn’t be?  Who hasn’t been there?  At the very least there needs to be communication about these things and I hope there is an explanation given to muffhunter because that is just the right thing to do

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muffhunter16223 reads

When I make plans with her from Phoenix, fly up, confirm with her, drive to Minneapolis from Mankato to be there on time, when I call her twice and she hangs up on me! Ya, I guess it's easy to just get over it, not a "big F....kn deal" RIGHT.

Again, she did the same thing to another guy from Phoenix. Didn't call or give a explanation. I just wonder how many other guys time she wasted!

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mountaineer21596 reads

I think "play" has it just right. Especially when a Gent is on the road, a no-show / no-call is an incredibly frustrating experience. It is often a significant waste of time, money, and a precious "play date." Some Gents have situations where they only have so many opportunities to have this kind of fun. When a no-show deprives them of one of these rare chances, it is a real loss.

Cancellations happen. But not calling or e-mailing is unprofessional and inexcusable. If a Lady has to cancel at the last minute, she should have the consideration to call, and should probably offer to do something to make it right the next time.

I feel the same applies to the Gents, BTW. Guys who no-show are a real pain to the Ladies as well. Here again, when it's the Lady who is travelling, it is especially tough on her. Often, she is paying for a hotel room and air travel, and being away from home, has a much tougher time filling in at the last minute.

Gents have to cancel at times, too. But as with the Ladies, a call or e-mail is the professional thing to do, and the Gent should make it right by paying a cancellation fee. I hate having to pay "deposits" up-front, but when I hear how many no-shows the Ladies have to deal with, I really can't blame them for requiring it.

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trooper21045 reads

hey maybe it is a big deal to him, I know that I would be a bit
on the angry side if I went through all of the paces to set up
a appointment only to be stood up with no good reason, so let
the post do what this boards intended funtion is. to post
information and communicate,

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lavalite18321 reads

True. She's a bit on the cautious side and not a great communicator and you've got every right to be peeved. I would be too if I had to fly in and drive from Mankato. I think your advice to the out of town guest is probably right on. I must say, however, that although it took me a few tries and a "near" no show to see her, she was 100% worth the effort. Perhaps she's a better bet for the local crowd with a little time on their hands.

LL

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LisaMN21034 reads

Hi everyone,

I think "muffhunter" has a legit complaint. That is the purpose of the board. I don't think he is being petty.On the other hand, Menaji has plenty of great reviews, and I am sure guys will continue to want to see her. Everybody has bad days. I think people who read posts take all of the positive and negative into account when they decide who they want to see. "Muffhunter" did not attack Menaji, he is just pissed over being stood up _(makes sense), and needed to air it. This is not the first or last time a provider will stand a guy up, or a hobbyist will stand up a provider. The point has been made, let's all move on and enjoy the hot summer.Sometimes it is a bit "gray" as to what should be posted and what should not be. I think we all just need to use tact and common sense. I know first hand how hurtful the boards can be when they are used to hurt others.

Lisa

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Misty23431 reads

Sad truth is, it happens.  It's not right, but I think a lady gets embarrassed when she has to cancel at last minute and opts to just not deal with it.  On the upside, she probably wouldn't have been up to your standards that evening and inadvertently, this saved you the $$$.

We've ALL done this!  I've always tried to help out by giving alternatives when I can't see someone (too busy to see someone that calls last minute and/or not feeling up to par for those I've already made plans with).

As an example:  I was out of town most of the week and was booked solid the Friday I was to return.  I warned those booked that I might not feel up to seeing anyone ahead of time.  When I did realize I couldn't see anyone, I offered an hour free to  make up for any inconvenience.  This only works for those instate of course.

Ladies that get above average reviews tend to have more than plenty of apt's.  The sad thing is that you couldn't find an alternative.  That cheats other ladies out of meeting you.  Everyone loses in the end :(  

This also creates the dreaded double bookings.  (Guys that double book to have back-up plans then cancel on their second choice).  

If I'm traveling and get a bunch of last minute cancellations, I choose to travel elsewhere the next time and give that same input when asked by other providers.  This is why some ladies choose to ask for deposits when they tour some cities.

Not that any of this helps in your situation.  Good luck next time and sorry that MN left such a bad taste in your mouth.  
Hugs
Misty

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mountaineer21747 reads

Misty's approach is just the way things ought to be handled, IMHO. Sometimes Ladies book "iffy" appointments without being open about it. When they know there is a chance they may have to cancel (travel issues, "real life" intruding, possible visit from "Aunt Flow," etc.), it really helps to let the guys know ahead of time, as Misty did.

If I got a message like that, and it was someone I was planning to see locally, I'd say: "No problem." If it didn't work out, no biggie - I can see anyone here in MN almost any time. But if I was travelling, and had limited time, a hotel room to book, etc., I might say: "Maybe next time," and go for someone more certain.

The point is, when the Lady is up-front about it, the Gent can act accordingly. Much better not to book if a cancellation would be a real disappointment, and see the Lady  some other time. If a cancellation would be no big deal, the Gent can go ahead and book a date, and keep his fingers crossed.

And BTW, I think men (I wouldn't even think of calling them "Gents") who double-book are real low-life. Things can come up in our lives that force us to cancel, but double-booking is basically PLANNING in advance to cancel on one of the two Ladies, and thereby cause her frustration and loss of income. Same applies to Ladies who double-book, of course - professionalism in booking and honoring appointments cuts both way.

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Taskmaster21477 reads

Yeah but I don't know too many girls that will give away their time for free like that because most of them are here to make money not give us freebies, so I wouldn't expect it.

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mountaineer24527 reads

Sorry, I don't grasp how your post relates to what I said. I just agreed that as Misty did, it is nice if Ladies can let people know anytime they think they might have to cancel. I don't see where the "freebie" issue comes in???

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Misty20496 reads

That's something I do, I wouldn't expect this from someone else.

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mountaineer17129 reads

I'm a little dense sometimes. I'm guessing your "freebies" comment was meant to refer not to anything in my note, but to the compensatory free hours Misty offered when she had to cancel.

You're right - not many Ladies would do that, but it is the classy thing to do. By the same token, if a classy Gent had to cancel at the last minute, he would offer a significant fraction of the fee to the Lady for her trouble, and for the fact that she probably had to turn down other appointments to reserve the appointment he canceled.


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Gargoyle21223 reads

Cancellations will happen from time to time, but a no-show after confirming the appointment is something to be pissed off about, especially when traveling.  Use of an agency with a good track record may be an option while traveling.  If your first choice for what ever reason, cannot make the appointment, arrange ahead of time for a back-up.

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shaggy00719326 reads

A no show is a no show,  unprofessional and certainly not something that any individual would want,  both client and provider. I would not expect someone that is a local provider in the metro to maintain a pattern of no shows without explanation and do well in this city. A regular client base is so important in this business as well as a regular provider base, senseless acts of inconsiderate and wasted times like this is bound to happen but if a pattern were to possibly occur with the same provider, then common sense would be to seek another more reputable individual elsewhere and this board should give someone a heads up on the ladies worth meeting.

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