I've been a SD for a while now. I was a member of SeekingArrangements.com, which while it is full of flakes, fakes, and scammers (on both sides, men and women), I have had multiple long term successful SB's I found there, one I'm still seeing regularly and it's awesome, we have dinner, we hang out, we screw around multiple times, we sleep, and off she goes in the A.M. I've also had a few short term or one time meetups.
With that said, yes, you have to wade through a ton of BS and sometimes they come with drama. I would say my success rate is about 5%, for every 20 messages sent, I may end up actually meeting and moving forward with 1. But I can tell ya, there are in my opinion a lot of benefits as well over providers in general (no offense to providers, you're all awesome too!!!), no time limits, time to get to know each other, and generally less expense per meetup in my cases. There seems to be a point of diminishing return, though, in that the hotter they are, the more likely you will end up spending more per meetup than you would via a provider. So true questions are do you have the patience to find the right SB and how important is all the "extra" stuff. And maybe it goes without saying, but if you are on the better looking dude side, you'll definitely have better luck finding a SB for a great allowance amount. That's the trade off, imo, the woman get to choose instead of basically seeing anyone that asks, but in return for not having to being with a fat hairy smelly gorilla with money, they get less allowance than they might as a provider. There is a definite "sweet spot" per say. Correct me if I'm wrong, though, but for Providers that say they are open to being an SB, they will want WAAAAY more than those you'll find directly on SB sites. Providers are too used to the "X amount of money for X amount of time" aspect imo.Has anyone here tried the sugar daddy/baby thing? This is something that I've been thinking about lately, and would like to try.
My main question is, where to find the right woman? I've looked at most of the sites and they mainly seem to have fake ads.
I would like to hear from both sides on this. So providers, please feel free to pm or reply openly.
Thank you
So the bad, there are a lot of flakes out there. But, guess what? It's def a buyers market there, there's more chicks looking for a daddy so it's easy to discard them.
I'd just use the same discretion you use for hobbying. Depending on your situation, you don't need to give them too much information so they start hounding you at work or home if things don't work out.
The good (depending on outlook). My last sugar baby is now my sugarbabymama.
... to find the right woman is right here on TER. There's many well-reviewed providers who advertise that they're interested in a SB type of relationship. They might note that in their P411 profile or on their web site, for instance. Their review history and (if applicable) posting history can give you a good idea what to expect--much more so than looking at ads on SB sites.
Lots of talk about the SD/SB scene there.
I've been a SD for a while now. I was a member of SeekingArrangements.com, which while it is full of flakes, fakes, and scammers (on both sides, men and women), I have had multiple long term successful SB's I found there, one I'm still seeing regularly and it's awesome, we have dinner, we hang out, we screw around multiple times, we sleep, and off she goes in the A.M. I've also had a few short term or one time meetups.
With that said, yes, you have to wade through a ton of BS and sometimes they come with drama. I would say my success rate is about 5%, for every 20 messages sent, I may end up actually meeting and moving forward with 1. But I can tell ya, there are in my opinion a lot of benefits as well over providers in general (no offense to providers, you're all awesome too!!!), no time limits, time to get to know each other, and generally less expense per meetup in my cases. There seems to be a point of diminishing return, though, in that the hotter they are, the more likely you will end up spending more per meetup than you would via a provider. So true questions are do you have the patience to find the right SB and how important is all the "extra" stuff. And maybe it goes without saying, but if you are on the better looking dude side, you'll definitely have better luck finding a SB for a great allowance amount. That's the trade off, imo, the woman get to choose instead of basically seeing anyone that asks, but in return for not having to being with a fat hairy smelly gorilla with money, they get less allowance than they might as a provider. There is a definite "sweet spot" per say.
Correct me if I'm wrong, though, but for Providers that say they are open to being an SB, they will want WAAAAY more than those you'll find directly on SB sites. Providers are too used to the "X amount of money for X amount of time" aspect imo.
Very well said.
SA is GREAT if you are willing to put TIME into it.
Tons of hot girls, but you have to dig thru the chicks hiding 20lbs, flakes and more flakes as you said, etc.
And then there are of course fake rich guys and guys using pics 10 years old, etc .
The problem with SA is it can be a very slow tedious process. I've used it when I travel before and you have to literally send a message to 30 girls, get 20 replies, 10 numbers, and then pick the one you want, who hopefully doesnt flake.
And I'm very good looking, 32 year old I should mention. Worth it if you don't mind the extra time for much more quality then you get from providers...
Tony, could you tell us more? I'm wanting to know how it differs from provider situations, if they we exclusive,cheaper, less work somehow and wondering if it's a once a month pay or rent pay or what agreements usually are?Did it feel like your own girlfriend on call for you whenever you wanted, did she open up about her daily life to you, and about how much time was spent with her a month?Thanks
Send me a Pm and I can tell you about some of my experiences in the Sd/SB life.
Tried a SD site a few times and met one hot female. She was living with her boyfriend and lied about almost everything.
Quickly gave up. Some others I didn't meet wanted a fixed amount per month every month, very expensive. Better option would be to find a local girl and if you want to treat her like SB then many providers will green light it.
Good luck!
I think real exclusivity would be pretty expensive, since if she doesn't have a day job, you would be her sole source of income.
You might do better value wise with limited but guaranteed hours in a non-exclusive arrangement.
Check out the Erotic HIghway board under the general boards.