Whenever I book time with a provider, I want to ask her questions on whether she can accomodate certain things that turn me on.  I usually feel uncomfortable talking about these things to other people.  Is it ok to ask the provider?  Do any of you have this problem?

.--modified by Top at Tue, Apr 10, 2001, 20:09:36

Boy, Top, I totally disagree with you here.  Discretion is the better part of valor, and there needs to be a lot of discretion in this kind of conversation.  I totally understand Sid's dilemma, and would suggest that he reads a lot of reviews to find what he is looking for.  Sid, do your homework!   Asking point blank questions probably scares the heck out of these wonderful ladies, and could put their livelihood at risk.  I wonder what they think, and hopefully a few will respond so we ALL know.  Just my two cents....

Top i have seen on several sites in the past that the provider "will not respond to questions about specific sex acts" and many other variations of this same statement.I always assumed that this would be to make it a bit tougher on LE.I was under the impression that it would be best if inquiring about something special to try to use the least offensive slang that might pertain to that activity and sort of dance around the issue and see how they reply instead of coming right out and asking specifics about specific acts.I could be off here though or this may just pertain to new contacts.Maybe some of the ladies will weigh in on what they prefer.            Taxibob

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Sid,I have always heard that it is best not to be explicit or ask certain questions in email or on the phone.  Most providers will not answer, and many will consider this a "red flag".  You can try to be clever with questions like "do you accomodate fantasies?" etc.  As others said, read some reviews and ask around if possible (you could always post a question here or elsewhere such as "ISO on Ms. X"), otherwise your best option is to book the appointment and hope for the best (you can ask your questions in person).  If the answer is not to your liking, you could probably bow out after tipping the lady for her time and trouble while retaining the majority of the fee.Viagrant

I did not mean to ask explicit questions but to use tact to inquire about fulfilling any specific need. I was not clear on being careful with what is asked and when and I apologize to the board and the ladies for a post that all seem misleading and not well thought out. I've been having trouble with words lately and I again apologize especially to the ladies. Thank you for your comments and I have pulled the post.--modified by Top at Tue, Apr 10, 2001, 20:13:33--modified by Top at Tue, Apr 10, 2001, 20:17:31

I puchased a vip membership to this board and checked out the reviews..best $20 i have ever spent- it is recurring - $20/month but you can cancel after a month or two..I am going to let mine run for a while..great reviews of the girls and I am sure the membership will help you find what you are looking for.

Top, You need not apologize, I'm sure everybody understood what you were talking about.  I agree, one can explain with tact what their interests are.  I always communicate my needs, so that there are no misunderstandings between myself and the provider.

1)  Is it possible for a woman to have a 6 inch clitoris?2)  Why are you using the bathroom standing up?3)  Are women supposed to have adams apples?4)  If you have both hands on my shoulders, then what is that poking I feel on my ass?5)  What do you mean can I give you a reach around?  Sorry.  I had to bring some humor to the situation.... lol

EOM

It is true at least for me that I am careful about awnsering questions. However something to remimber is it's not "illegal" to say "no" for example, if somone where to e mail me and discretely ask if I kissed, for example: I do, so I would e mail them something vague back about not worrying because they are going to be happy with me. If I didn't kiss, I can just say I dont, as long as thats not followed by "but i do..." I am pretty safe. You may try this tactic, it may work with most girls.

excuse my message board ignorance once again, but what does eom mean, anybody?

End of Message.  I'm getting you a book of terms for your birthday.... LMAO-Vegas Moderator

There is always a way to ask a question without being lewd, explicit or offending someone...every girl has their limits on what they will or will not discuss and trust me sweetie, if they dont want to talk about it you will know it...but i cant stress enuf to you how important it is that your initial approach is handled 'gracefully'...the worse thing you can do is not bring it up and just think its gonna happen...believe me, i've had that happen and it was not a comfortable situation for either party...we all appreciate honesty and believe me...LOL we are not exactly prudes....but again...this is where a certain level of trust and friendship come into play...have fun and play safe! -kim xoxoxoxo