So I saw an ad for a lady on TER. I e-mailed her re a possible date and we eventually settled on a date and time
The concerning part is that not once did she ask for a reference, screening info, TER handle or anything to confirm that I was real. Our date was for later tonight.
I actually felt concerned re her lack of reference checking and decided to cancel the date.
I know a lot of guys complain about the screening but in this instance I felt uncertain.
Maybe a message to the ladies but also a question to the guys - is this normal? I have seen quite a few ladies in the US and this was a first
Many times I will be contacted by a fellow and I am able to get enough information from the initial email that I don't have to ask for any information. If you have had the same email and/or phone number for any significant length of time there is already enough info out there about you. I can't give away industry secrets but if you are not a first time hobbyist there are many ways to screen you.
It's the guys who are trying to hide information that get the most thorough screening. I wouldn't worry if she is an established provider and doesn't need you to jump though hoops. Unless you just created a new email and got a new burner number she was able to get what she needed.
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We will always ask for references at least one to verify, but never use to do so back in Denver. Out here we have found it necessary to do so though.
If you are interested we are available this evening if you are up for a couple? Lol
Till we tease and please you
Jordyn and Junior
I know that some people won't like me for actually saying what many of them think, but in my opinion, if someone is that careless with her safety, I don't want to know what else she is careless with...
I understand that we can do a light screening by the person's email, phone number and even whitelists, but I always ask for screening information not only for safety but also because the client's willingness(or not) to cooperate with the process tells a lot about their personality.
We can all agree to disagree here, but my that's my 2 cents
Wishing you a safe and pleasant visit
Delightfully Yours,
Sofia
What more do you require? I am usually able to see their home address, wife's name, facebook page, linkn page, every lady who has ever searched him, and sometimes his car title. I then contact the ladies he has reviewed and the ladies who searched him that he didn't review. All of this from an established email.
I know where he lives and works and how he has treated ladies in the past.
What am I missing that could help me be safer? Obviously if I cannot find what i require from the initial contact I ask for more but what more should I be asking for?
I don't require any more information than the information that you already got, but if I had found all of that by myself using his email or phone number, I would still ask for his real name because I think it's impolite to say the least to contact a provider and expect her to be intimate with you without even properly introducing yourself. We usually have website, ads, twitter and reviews so they can have a pretty good idea of who they are going to meet. Some clients have a strong online presence and are pretty easy to screen online, but others are not.
I am more comfortable with a client that is upfront and willingly give me the basic screening information and references (if he has any) than the ones that ask for a date and I have to play detective. I think that majority of the time the initial contact sets the tone for the encounter. I respect people's choices, so if a client is not comfortable giving me his information, I won't get mad at all. I just don't think we are a good fit.
Again, we are all different people and that's my 2 cents...
Maybe things that concern me are not priorities for other people. I just said what I would think if I was on the other side. Let's say, if I would contact a provider (male or female) that didn't know me requesting a date (yes, some of us like to indulge as well) and was not asked for screening information.
xoxo