SB relationship is not beneficial for me. I prefer to "pay as I go" and see providers when I can get away.

For one, how is it that much different from being married?  Seriously.  You spend your money and spare time all on one girl and expect her to wait on you at all times?  I know that not every SB relationship is that way but many are and those are not appealing to me.

I like the hobby because that is what it is -- a hobby, so to speak, that you can partake in when you have the time, resources and desire to do so.  And the experience is not part of a contracted agreement but a one-time hour or so where the intent is for both people (or maybe three if you've arranged a spicy double ) to have a lot of fun.

Just my opinion.  And by no means am I trying to criticize those who partake in the SB lifestyle.  To each their own . . .

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it was very tough to sustain. Finding right person, trust, feeling taken advantage of, expectations
become part of multiple problems. And of course the sites where one seeks are as
dishonest as it gets. My experiences were w SA. Maybe 75%  fakes including the responses.
But did meet a few nice ladies for lunch.

At different phases of my life, I have enjoyed both types.  As stated above, I see very little difference between SD/SB and regular dating/relationship.  But standard dating sites are absolute jokes anymore.  The SD/SB websites, are definitely full of a bunch of addicts, scammers, and flakes.. But so is our entire society!  LOL.   Just calling it as I see it.

I suspect that with most of the client base, tastes and preferences evolve over time, and while I've never actually entered into a formal (or even semi-formal) SB/SD arrangement, when I think about it my current approach doesn't seem all that different really.  

My preference (for lots of reasons I won't bore you with) is to see a single provider on a regular basis.  Each meeting is a separately scheduled event, so there's not particular expectation of a lady holding her schedule open for me.  Perhaps it's age, but I tend to prefer the company of someone I know well enough to have a conversation with and someone I enjoy spending an hour or two with on a regular basis (I'm at an age where the main event is not quite as athletic as it once was).  So I suppose while as a practical matter, it's not all that different, the idea of a SB/SD arrangement doesn't appeal to me.

You are certainly right that you have to kiss a frog or two to get there since the fit needs to work for both provider and client (strictly for what it's worth, I'm in the process of working my way through that process now), but in the end, it works better for me....

I made one try with an SB.  She was interested in regular visits and not interesting in playing safe.  The first makes sense but not the second.  I prefer the company of escorts who understand the rules, and play safe.  In any case I love variety.  Women are such amazing creatures in all their glorious sizes, shapes, colors, hair styles, personalities, and styles. Why limit yourself?

Had a three months of SB experience with four different girls and all of them students at UT in downtown Tampa.   The Oxford Exchange near UT is really a great restaurant and also happens to be a place where girls from UT hang out to see and be seen by men who are out there by themselves without accompanying ladies.     I found it pretty easy to make contact with the girls as the ones I liked were very responsive and gradually build relationship.    It started with conversation over coffee or mimosa sitting at the bar and gradual exchange of phone numbers.

One girl needed help with room rent, the other three help with their tuition fee.    I had a great time seeing them regularly on a weekly basis.     After I moved to Lauderdale by the sea last year, I gave up on SBs.   It was fun though as the girls were really open minded and let me spend the whole  night in their company.     I also found it comfortable going out for dinners with the girls or go bar hopping at yuppie places in Hyde Park area.

Not really a preference but I would like both SBs and meeting escorts.    Escorts offer more choice especially in Miami area where there are so many legit agencies and really hot Latina and South American girls.

because the security is appealing to me (of being to plan ahead on a income amount). But also. erotic play is a dance that gets tighter, hotter, more impressive with practice, so I can offer more to someone I see often.