Florida

I don't know why I keep expecting more from Florida
Bahamia 2051 reads
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Grew up here, went to college and escorted a bit. Then recession hit and I moved away. Had left Florida for a good 8 years with only occasional visits.  

Now, the family moved back and I'm visiting more. Even thought about trying to relocate back. But it ends up being the same story: I come here, first day or 2 goes by, maybe 1 client pre scheduled. Next thing I know another day goes by no clients. Then another and another and then a week or 2.  

It's not that I'm not getting calls, it's just many out here are about games. Tampa is especially bad with flakes and cancels, but Orlando is no better. I have to blacklist guys here every single visit. Oftentimes multiple guys. People in Tampa seem to almost like screwing with escorts time. It's like fishing and boating to them. I tell them I plan to blacklist them and show the link to the website, that doesn't seem to make them want to follow the rules of my cancel policy.  

I don't know why it's like this here. Not only with escorting, but even at stores and nightclubs, the men here are so uptight and rude. I feel like too there a lot of intolerance and disrespect toward black women here. Maybe some of the Latina or white women can say it's okay for them, but for me it's hell here. I know Florida is ghetto, but I'm well traveled, don't have kids, am not a hoochie mama...yet they still treat me like trash here (not to imply those characteristics make a woman trash)

At this point, I'd be a fool to move here. I've come here all times of the year and sometimes it's okay, but most times I have just enough money to get out of here and it feels like I'm a refuge when I do. I hate it that my family moved here because it obligates me to come here during certain times throughout the year...but I end up being depressed and miserable the whole time because these guys here don't act right. Almost considering telling them I'm not coming here anymore

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Bahamia190 reads

Well...I prefer to post anonymously because I'm very private. I like to discuss things in a general manner.  

That said, I have great reviews. All are respectable. It just seems Florida in particular is consistently one of the hardest markets to really work with

I haven't viewed your profile or marketing, so please take this for what it is-general advice, which your post sounded like you may be open to hearing ideas.

As a provider who has lived in a few different cities and worked in various markets, I found some places just weren't for me, while others were and are consistently excellent markets for me.  

There are always timewasters and such when you go to a new market and even when you return to a familiar one, as I recently have here in South Florida. They are just a cost of doing business that over time, combined with solid screening, you see it coming a mile away and know not to book it.

That said, hang in there, if you really want to stay. (Just don't burn the bridge while you're still standing on it!) It's a great community here. Maybe take a break or tour. New faces, new places can be refreshing and give you perspective.

Also, be honest with yourself (not saying you are not) about any small changes you might could bring to your image you project, as in this post. I'm putting this more kindly than most will, but I often find if I let myself reevaluate things over time, I find fault in my approach or how I handled a particular situation. Like noticing patterns of behavior and the red flag that was overlooked, etc.

I truly mean no offense and wish you the best. I could feel the angst in your post and I hope you find where you are happiest. (Though in my experience, it's mostly trade offs no matter where you choose to locate.)  :)

" I tell them I plan to blacklist them and show the link to the website"

 
What "website" are you showing them?

Maybe a third time for the cheap seats in the back! That was well said for sure.  

We all have our lists, but I have never found Tampa to be worse than any other city in terms of time wasting. There are many gentlemen throughout our great state-and who visit it regularly-that are excellent about prebooking, keeping the date, and making the date special-a mutual effort often equals mutual happiness.

I moved to Sarasota from NJ / NYC three years ago, and this town is a desert for quality escort activity.  If I had seen you offering her, I would have jumped at the opportunity.
Send a link to you schedule so I can keep an eye (and more) out for you.

The US is a big country and there are 49 other states for you to move.

Bahamia157 reads

Thanks for replies namely the 2 providers who shared their experiences.  

I've been coming over here consistently and am very familiar with the area. I've advertised Orlando, Tampa, sarasota, Melbourne, fort Lauderdale, Daytona ( the one place I haven't met anyone).

I had driven to sarasota from Kissimmee over the weekend. I got there, call and text and knock on door. No response. 20 minutes later, he calls back to say fell asleep. Fortunately I was only down the street and needed to make a phone call before doing anything... so we met and he didn't end up on NBL. But even then he was a bit more grungier than what I'm used to.

But it just goes to show...it's always some heart pulsating incident of cancellations or near cancels and my blood pressure and stress level seems always high here, just like the rest of the people.  

I have a couple regulars here, one who doesn't see me for encounters like that but takes me to Bahama breeze Everytime I'm here and may give me $50/100. But now he's gotten to where he doesn't even give me that, and seems to have this desire to convert me to get into applying to different jobs and basically keeps making me feel like I should get into some regular line of work....but he's not fronting any money for me to relocate here lol.

It's that kind of stuff that annoys me about living here. The clients have this very condescending attitude towards us. I don't know where it comes from or who taught them that. I've traveled most all states in the country including the entire west and it's always a noticeable difference in the treatment here.

Bahamia maybe you should think about giving up and retiring from the escort business. with the new TER you can look back on previous post, and the majority of your post are talking about how bad it's been for you in certain cites.

Bahamia114 reads

That's your opinion though. You need to understand you don't have sufficient power or right to dictate what move I should make regarding my business.

If you're going to make a suggestion for me to leave my only source of income, then you need to give me a years worth of pay in addition to all living expenses. Otherwise you're telling me to stop doing something with no alternative to anything else. You didn't even offer an alternative. So your suggestions aren't worth a damn.

GaGambler149 reads

We could pass the hat, come up with about a hundred bucks and still have change coming back to us after paying you a year's earnings. lmao

 
I have an alternative for you. Go do a "got rope" message search on the National Discussion Board" I am sure I still have some rope left over that Deb didn't use. lol

 
Or I suppose we could suggest that you simply get "better" at your job? Nah, that would be much too hard, whining is easier.

If I was interpreting your post correctly (reading between the lines) you're not  making money anyway. if all you have to offer is sex then who am I to disagree. Good luck.

Bahamia215 reads

You sound like a goddamn clown.

I never said I wasn't making any money. Read again. And again. And then cite in MLA format where I said I'm not making any money, and then I'll respond with bank statements to prove otherwise.  

I may be a woman, but I can fight like a man. On or off line. I'll put these 12 inch stilettos right up your ass, but you might ejaculate in the process....because I know you like your strap ons the same size.

GaGambler150 reads

I have an idea, maybe  you and your "sister in arms" Katrina could go on tour together?

 
I might further suggest you start your tour in a country very far from here, maybe they like fucking angry, bitter hookers on an air mattress in other places, but you are living proof we don't care much for it here.

 
I will confess you are quite amusing, you might be angry, you might be bitter, you might be BSC, but you are certainly entertaining in a pathetic kind of way. Keep digging that hole deeper, maybe you can dig yourself all the way to China which would be a great place to start your tour with Katrina. lol

Bahamia132 reads

Lol that was so long ago. I still have that bed as a guest. I have an all new bedroom suite now. Jokes on YOU! Lol.

Thank you TER for making our research so much easier. All your posts from any board are listed and might help if you read them. Every lady has times when changing things around is good and communication is so important. You may think your running incognito but perhaps others might know who you are.

 
Attitude can kill you and believe me, others feel when something just isn't right. My little voice drives me crazy when I'm in the process of screening someone. Don't think men aren't using their head because they are.

 
Florida is dead slow in the summer. Always has been and always will. What makes or breaks the bank is having good regulars.  

 
Oh god, the air-mattress  ----- LOL, need I say more

 
Kisses Haley

Most of FL sucks, And what's good can be hit or miss. Tampa, as you've noted, is pretty much always a miss. There are just way to many guys that are absolutely disgusting in the manner they find "appropriate" to communicate, tons of late cancels w/ no cancel fee, NCNS until the end of days. Short the couple regulars I have whenever I visit there, I don't visit it, an when I do it's specifically for prearranged people. Not even worth the effort.

Orlando can be hit or miss. Out of three visits, I've cleared up on two and struck out on one; there's no steady work in the city.

Fort lauderdale and everything beside Miami to the south is a waste of time. To many reason to list why.

Palm Beach is an amazing spot. I've gone there a half dozen times in the last year and done really well every time, so it's kind of the exception to the state (at least for me).

JAX beaches can also be really good (JAX proper is hit or miss but sustainable for people I know working there regularly)

A lot of it, from my observations, has to do with 1)girls doing bbfs for like $150-250 all over the state (same with Dallas) that have zero screening protocol 2)a lot of girls on the state are absolute shit when it come to dependability and standards. Those guys develop (and I understand why) this attitude that because girls are shady, they can be too, which doesn't really mesh well if you're not a turd...

Best way I've found to combat the crap is don't advertise a phone number (weeds out all the impulsive time wasters) and start advertising at least a month in advance. You'll pick up a lot of the guys from here. Deposit are always an option too.

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