I am new at the hobby - never used a provider before and have e-mailed several providers listed but have yet to receive a reply - most indicate they will not work with you unless you have references - can't get references without using a provider. How do i get around this with a good provider in the Raleigh area with an incall location. Thanks in advance for your help.
Some providers will accept employment verification - you'll have to ask'em.
It would be helpful if you mentioned the type of provider you seek. Some men seem to think that listing specific characteristics will result in hurt feelings. It actually prevents us from wasting time on those who are not interested. You leaving an email address within your post for those who are not members and cannot send or receive PM's (private messages) would be helpful as well.
I will say that I do offer a long & short term consultation for new hobbyist which is an incall only option....