My wife and I have been married for 23.5 years. She is a wonderful woman, who I do love. We are great partners in life. But we stink at sex; its something we are really bad at. But here is where this hobby is helping. Started with AMPs years ago; and then to full blown escorts. The ladies on here have been a tremendous help to me.  

First, they helped me figure out what turns me on. Strange as it sounds, I did not really know. Once I determined what turned me on, I have been able to focus on that and figure out what makes my sexual engine go. I like FDK and some of you women are really good; I like to lick pussy and through practice, I think am not too bad. I truly enjoy making a woman orgasm orally. Some ladies tell me I am of their best. That is a high compliment.  

Second, the various woman gave me confidence in my dick. Trust me, men all wonder is it good enough. And yes, I have seen the truly monster dicks in the showers at the Y. Enough ladies have stated my dick is really nice that it made more confident. Either they are all lying or I have a nice one.  That made me really more confident.

Finally, going to see an escort is about having sex. It’s about hopefully a mutual enjoyable carnal experience. But the pretense of why you are there is gone. As such, it is about focusing on the actual act. Some of the ladies in the Carolinas have really made my day. This created a new found confidence in my own ability sexually. Yep, I figured out I lacked confidence in my love making ability. As much as I could and have blamed our lack of sexual chemistry at home on my wife (and she struggles openly with sexual desire due to side effects of anti-depressants), the reality is that my lack of confidence directly lead to passivity on my part. I wanted more sex but lack the confidence how to approach my wife in a way that was not demanding. Often, we would start down the path of having sex as a couple, and one or the other would torpedo it somehow.  We agreed two years ago we just stunk at sex. For a couple that is/was really good at being married, raising kids, running a house, etc. we really were horrible at this one part of our lives. And I was more than 50% of the blame here in retrospect.  

By gaining confidence in my love making, and understanding my own sexuality more deeply, I started the LJK movement on the home front. Let’s Just Fuck – simply approaching my wife to have sex with confidence. It’s been rather revolutionary to take charge (not domineering) and guide us into a more satisfying sexual relationship. In these new moments, I could focus on what we needed, and guide us into a more fulfilling place. My wife (who has no clue obviously) is a direct beneficiary of my new found confidence.  I would not say we are burning the bed down, but the last few months of sex is far greater than the last decade.

So ladies, a heartful thank you to making a more complete man out of me. In a weird way, choosing to step out of marriage made me a better husband. What a strange result (or is it??). There a good number of ladies who frequent here I could call out directly by name but some of you know who you are. Now, this does not mean I will not stop; in fact, my sexual appetite remains far greater than my wife’s. But I have increased eating at home if you will.