OK, as stated below I will be in the Andover area through next Tuesday.   The refrigerator is full of beer and wine and I am ready to play!  

                  Regarding Outcalls
As a rule I have not gone out of my way to see people who travel into New England for business or pleasure.  Recently I have been contacted quite a bit and must set a new policy.  I will no longer consider seeing out of towners.  I find them to require too much coddling and I cannot be flexible in regard to time as often their schedule seems to change according to their personal or business plans.  I have no interest in walking the streets of Boston at 10pm just to see someone I will never see again!

The last straw came this evening when I opened mail from one clown coming in from Las Vegas who has been hounding me for months.  He was upset I never responded to him.  Well, I did, but he changed his e-mail address! (hello?)  I guess I am supposed to have a crystal ball.  Another one has been writing for months with no firm confirmation feels "I" have dropped the ball.  I suggest they call an agency with girls on call who can accommodate them at any time.  (why should I hold up an available slot for wishy washy plans when I could be enjoying time with a local friend?)

If you monitor this board from elsewhere and we have not previously met in NYC, PLEASE spare me the aggravation of requesting an appointment!

To those I have seen in the past-I will review each situation on an individual basis as you return to the New England area.

Sorry to sound so crabby but I sense these gents from out of town do not understand the concept that when their appointment time comes I will focus completely on them.  In the meantime I am busy with life and other "friends" and do not have the time for the games and back and forth indecisive e-mails.

I will be changing my web site to reflect this new policy within the next few days.

Thank you for your ear and patience. Hugs,  Kate   xoxo




-- Modified on 9/14/2002 6:27:34 PM

I made a contact regarding a trip to the Boston area in July.  Kate and I exchanged E-mails than I made phone contact.  She sounded great and I thought that I had everything in place for a multi-hour dinner date or an overnight.  Then, for what appeared to be no reason at all, she wrote me and said that she had decided not to see me.  She preferred her regulars.(?!?)  

I reponded that I was sorry I'd miss her this trip and would like to keep the prospects open for possible future contact.  I then told her that I guessed that with time running short I'd likely fly one of my ATF's up from Florida for this trip.  Kate really got real katty in her response to that, I thought.  Not nice at all.

I was actually glad to have my regular there with me for the whole weekend rather than to have booked Kate and seen this attitude in person.   Very telling Kate....I had to smile when I read this post.  

BTW, I will be in Boston in two weeks and have a full evening planned with a very nice local independant lady.  Not all is lost, most New Englandars are great folks.

Bottom line, you were CREEPY!

As always there are two sides to every story, but I have to say I am now VERY glad I had the hindsight to do what is right for me in regards to meeting with you.  I vaguely recall the situation (it was before I left for Europe) and I am certainly not going to challenge your opinion as I haven't a stitch of mail to refresh my memory. Although - if you are the gent I called on my dollar who talked my ear off for 45 minutes (on my dime) and then had some odd requests (are you the one with ties to TGN that knows every escort in America?) then I did the right thing.  You made me extremely uncomfortable and sorry that my refusal to see you p@ssed you off enough to post.  It is a ladies choice whether or not to see a man (and some girls will do anything for $-I will not!), and as soon as I hung up the phone I was upset that I didn't have the courage to confront you during the converation regarding not wanting to see you.

In fact, I believe you wrote me as an afterthought (after my canceling) hoping to "taunt" me about your friend from FL (who cares? LOL) so I was a wise@ss back.  (great memory for a few months ago! )  And to think I saw your missed calls and heard your voice mail, and I was kind enough to call you back and listen to you for close to an hour late one evening!

The type of "service" I provide is both reasonable and exceptional.  I invest in my relationships by providing a wonderful atmosphere (for incall) and for the few gents I will do outcall for I try to make the experience as special as possible (heck, I cannot haul ALL my stuff to an appointment!) This is why I have the repeat clientele.  I don't see men just for the $, I see them because I sense we'll get along great and have a wonderful time.  In that manner I am truly unique as any man can get a girl to $how up at his door.

Seems some men have an issue with being rejected by an escort (we all go through that, nothing unique to me).  That is a poor excuse for an educated gentlemen like yourself to make a "digging" post.

Good luck to you Sir.  I do wish your experience with the Boston independent you have chosen is everything you hoped it could be and more.

Just to clear something up about the "attitude."  Guys like you are what make ladies who approach this business with a human touch "jaded."  You force us to be businesslike because otherwise you would suck our resources dry!  It seems we are dammed if we do, or dammed if we don't.  How many times do we read a girl had an "off nite" or that "there was no chemistry?"  Would you rather I met you just for the $?  At least I am honest.

I work with the 3 strikes and "I" am out method.  You were #1, Mr. Las Vegas was #2.  For some humor check this situation out!  This fellow writes me because he sees my post that I will be in Las Vegas at a trade show the end of May.  Well, he was heading to Boston the same time, but back to Las Vegas before I left the city of sin.  So, he wants to see me in Las Vegas.  We had a great chat, in fact he even owns a kiosk in the plush hotel I was staying in!  So, anyway he returns to Vegas, calls me a day late, and wants me (a lady all alone) to drive to Henderson (rent a car in 108 degrees and drive to Henderson!) and meet him at his home that night.  This didn't work (I pictured the buzzards circling overhead the next day because the car broke down or worse than that me chained up in some trailer in the desert!) out for the obvious reason.  Then he plans to come back to Boston, we chat before I leave the country, I write back on my return to a Hotmail account, and one day before we are to meet he writes to me all upset that I never kept in touch from a Yahoo account (same addy, just now Yahoo)!  Do I need this?

Now, #3, he is a sweetie and it's all my fault.  I was away and just didn't respond in time.  He said his business plans will not allow him to see me (which may be a kind let down) but if things change I will take this cutie to dinner on me!

Some people claim to be unlucky in love, I think I am just unlucky with Outcalls.  Bottom line, plenty of gents right here in New England and NYC who need lotsa loving.

On a positive note, I met a great guy from NY last week at a north of Boston hotel outcall and he was wonderful!  In fact I stayed 1 1/2 hours over on my time.  We will be seeing each other again during my upcoming trip to NYC.

So, see, I am not all self centered and mean.  You guys drive me nuts sometimes.  Especially those with big egos.  

Kate

p.s.  I want you to know the main reason I decided not to see you was that you mentioned all the reviews you had written over and over and over.  That made me VERY uncomfortable because I felt as though I was not only under a microscope, but instead of treating me like a lady you were going to put me through the "punch list pace" and see how many boxes you could check off when you reviewed me.  It was very intimidating as I give 110% of myself at EVERY appointment, no need to hold a a carrot in front of me!  I could not imagine a long overnight appointment under those circumstances regardless of the compensation provided!  (no ill feelings-remember, I long forgot about this, but you posted and on behalf of all providers being able to pick and choose, I am not going to sit back and "just take it!")















-- Modified on 9/15/2002 5:18:30 AM

Then perhaps it was a drug company-one with an office in Providence?

Hmm, I have only spoken to about 6 people about outcalls in the past year as I seldom consider doing them.  Now you know why!

I remember the conversation as if it were yesterday, and it was probably back in June when you were planning your trip.  I came out of the mall, and your number was all over my cell and there was a voice mail from you (after you wrote).  I sat in the parking lot listening to you blab about all your contacts in the board world, particularly TGN. (this was all during the time TBD had problems).

Kate



-- Modified on 9/15/2002 5:15:27 AM

Now I recall the conversation even more!  You are from LA (or someplace in CA), but go to FL and that is where you met your compensated girlfriend.  I recall telling you of my stay at the Beverly Hills Four Seasons a few months back when I was in LA for a wedding.

I do admit when I am wrong.  I know one thing I did that was right........

Not a bad memory for all the new people I talk to over the course of a few months!

I see someone else probably got the creeps too!
from one of your reviews:

"I e-mailed for initial contact and then we spoke on the phone. Toni was very nice to talk to and seemed inviting and fun so I booked an extended appointment for my upcoming business trip to Dallas. I e-mailed her the details for her convenience including my cell #, the hotel address and pnone #, date time etc. We made phone contact one more time before my trip and all seemed good...Unfrotunately she was a no show. As agreed I phoned her mid day just to confirm that I had made it to the hotel and we were still on. There was no direct answer so I left a message including the phone # and the room #. I called about an hour before to try again since I hadn't heard back. Again I got the "leave a message" answer. Begining to wonder, I called at 10 min. prior to our date time and got a "this person isn't accepting any messages at this time" recording. I got this alternately with the "leave a message" recording for the next hour and a half, so I figure that she was somewhere playing with the phone so as not to hear from me. I often arrange extended dates for business trips..a true escort user. I've had providers have problems arrise and have to cancel, but never have I had one not even bother to say she had changed her mind. I advise STAY AWAY FROM TONI unless your time isn't important"

Yet another review confirming your link to Providence:

"During a visit to Providence couldn't arrange anything there, so went on up to Boston."

And yet another review (I guess Monica gets to pick who she sees but I don't?):

"Monica is very confident in who she is and has been around enough to know who the clients are that are most likely to have fun with her. I think that she'd really rather not see a client if she thinks that he won't have a great time, she cares. She had looked at my reviews on TER (I gave her my handle for security purposes on the phone earlier) and she wondered if she was the kind of girl that I liked based on who I'd seen. I told her basically that anything female is just fine with me as long as they are clean and fun."


~K  

(yep, positive it's you!  we even discussed our weight issues because you wanted a larger and older lady (40+)..from yet another one of your reviews "Being a larger older white guy"  now you're going to make me check my cell bill for long distance calls to confirm my memory.  You also have a cell phone with 305 area code, but I called you at home in LA because I hit the recall button on my phone)














-- Modified on 9/15/2002 6:13:29 AM

-- Modified on 9/17/2002 6:31:56 AM

Here is the requested public apology. Sorry Kate, I've been a baaaaaaad boy.


And now for the rest of the story.................
(You may need to get some popcorn and a drink first)....

Long long ago in a city far far away there was a guy who had been in the hobby for under a year.  

I had seen a few ladies and had had myself a very good time all almost every time.  I met a fine young lady while on a trip to Florida and we got along famously.  After a few months of e-mailing.  She introduced me to a relatively new site: TGN.  I started to go there and found them to be fairly user friendly and encountered my first discussion boards.  I had a blast.  But all of the activity was southern-states based.  I became a frequent poster of jokes and the other frequent posters and I would rib each other in different regional section boards.  This lead to my becoming sort of a promoter for postings from other places since those boards were wanting.  I began to openly encourage the escorts I'd see while traveling to post on TGN.

I found Kate while looking for an escort for a trip to Providence.  She was very nice and as part of the arrangements process we made phone contact.  We chatted in what I perceived as a very friendly way; making what I thought was a nice connection.  The sort of quickly comfortable connection that I had found with others in this hobby.  I started discussing TGN with Kate and must have really slipped into a sales pitch.  I left the conversation feeling just fine about our upcoming date.  Now, apparently this was a phone call from Kate to me. I honestly can't remember, and according to Kate (above) I used up a lot of her $ on that call.  

When next I read an e-mail from Kate she said that, in essence, she was declining our date and was rather happy with the local clientele that she had built and not looking to expand at that time.  I was a bit surprised and unhappy at not having a date with her, but didn't think that she was as upset with me as I have read in this thread.  I wrote her back that I'd fly my Florida friend up for my trip to Providence/Boston.  Since this friend was also very into TGN and since I thought (naively) that everyone in the hobby was just one big happy family and thinking that Kate was just not interested in escorting me, I thought maybe the three of us might get together for an afternoon drink and discuss the hobby and TGN a bit.  Fun stuff.  Get togethers like this seemed to happen among the TGN folks in Florida and Tennessee.  I didn't actually suggest the meeting but rather put out the information  for a potential invitation from Kate since we were in her area.

Well, Kate didn't take my e-mail that way at all and wrote me what I felt was a rather biting reply with some comments about my friend.  In retrospect, I guess it appeared to Kate that I was rubbing her nose in my situation (my bringing my own escort with me) and her reply, I think, was written as such.  I think in Kate's view there was no reason for me to have made any comment about this at all other than to try to hurt her.

In reality the friend couldn't make the trip so I went without while in Boston.  Some months later the s*** hit the fan in Florida (TBD incident) and TGN abruptly folded and ladies I knew there vanished without a trace.

Well, when I read Kate's formal policy post regarding traveling gents (above) I remembered the situation and looked up her site and saw that it was by the lady I'm describing here.  I took the opportunity to take a poke at her, her issue of out-of-town gents, and the way I felt she had responded to me.  Kate has privately e-mailed me since this and I was given her view of our exchange back then.

I have never flamed anyone on the boards before and this really isn't like me at all. I didn't think that I'd said it so strongly until I reread my post after getting that rather scathing reply for Kate.  Kate's recent private conversation with me has been in character for the sensitive and bright yet definitive thinker that she seemed back a few months ago.  She made an olive branch suggestion and I countered.  Her response is the last post by her.  I thought it worded harshly, however.

So here I apologize ... standing naked in front of the whole of TER!  

Kate?




As for her comments on my review of Toni: That had absolutely nothing to do with her finding me creepy (the review is there for all to read) she was a no show without even a courtesy call with a made up story.  As for her comments on my review of Monica (the review is there for all to read) Monica is a sensitive woman and those comments are to advise gents that she may be somewhat self deprecating.  And to advise Monica that she is what she is and that what she is is great.  Monica doesn't pick and choose, Monica offers gents a chance to reconsider...I don't think that she needs to do that.

Let's take it out back from now on Studmuffin.

This is all stupidity on behalf of both of us.  The only reason I bothered to challenge your post is that I don't even see what the issue is.  When  girl says no, she means no!!!!!!!!!
What is the big deal?  No provider should do anything she is not comfortable with.  There are 100's of other women in Boston to choose from.  It's not as if you were called and canceled on last minute.

I just don't get the initial comment when we never even met!  I know you apologized and I accept, but on behalf of other ladies please guys, when they say no don't take it personal.  It could be "that time of the month", it could be a bad week for them and they are not working (other things going on), they could be generally uncomfortable, they may not like overnights or going into the city, they may have school work, their Mom & Dad are in town...it goes on and on.  Many of us live a full life beyond escorting and often times our refusal to see someone hinders on many factors.  Do we need to explain it all to you, and do you care? (of course not!)

I wish now I never made this intial post because it hasn't helped.  The outcall requests just keep coming.

Hugs to all as I quietly go away except for posting my schedule!
(thanks for putting up with this, I'm truly sorry)

Kate