When I browse the ads on P411 I generally look for ladies who have the boxes checked for Domination and BDSM.
After my last encounter however, I've concluded that a lot of ladies just check all the boxes and don't have a clue what they mean. She asked me in an email if I had any special requests or preferences and I told her I was into sensual domination and even gave her a link to my tumblr website with lots of pictures of face sitting/ass worship etc. So we got started and the first thing she said was "what do you want to do"? What a mood killer. I was expecting her to tell me what we were going to do. She did ask me to spank her however. Go figure!
I think I've run into something similar, but on the other end of your dilemma.
I wasn't sure what "sensual domination" meant to my client, and was asking a lot of questions about likes and dislikes. But the more I asked, the more turned off he seemed to be. It was only in hindsight that I realized he wanted me to make the decisions about how the session would go and "force" him to do what I want.
Clarity is helpful. You showed your provider what you wanted with the link to your tumblr.
Personally, as someone who offers BDSM, I would rather someone specify what they mean when they say they want sensual domination, or at the very least be vocal about wanting me to push their boundaries, otherwise I'll assume the client doesn't really know what they want and just get bored. :/
I offer sensual domination and hardcore domination but i dont advertise on the same ad for it. I have found it scares some customers off. They dont want to know i beat people into oblivion when asked! So i always ask questions when someone says that is what they want on my vanilla ad because my idea of humiliation and domination can go in many different directions. I do try to establish what they want before they see me though.
When I browse the ads on P411 I generally look for ladies who have the boxes checked for Domination and BDSM.
After my last encounter however, I've concluded that a lot of ladies just check all the boxes and don't have a clue what they mean. She asked me in an email if I had any special requests or preferences and I told her I was into sensual domination and even gave her a link to my tumblr website with lots of pictures of face sitting/ass worship etc.
So we got started and the first thing she said was "what do you want to do"? What a mood killer. I was expecting her to tell me what we were going to do.
She did ask me to spank her however.
Go figure!
I would of had you licking my ass real good! Many providers just want your $ & do not care about fulfilling your desires.
You did not book to spank her, so wtf! I read lots of reviews that state the provider gave the guy a massage when he booked sensual domination. You should get what you pay for!
"I would of had you licking my ass real good!"
Damn. Why aren't there more ladies like you in the world! And closer to me.
damn that's such a bummer, would a great date for some face sitting & a little tie and tease sheesh.
BDSM and submission. Nice to find sometimes. Other times you have to explicitly ask. Or they will volunteer. I have been surprised in the past that some girls are secret subs.
Wow! phi68psi you nailed it. I have heard of some Dommes who are very professional that are really subs. They play Domina for pay, and secretly get corn holed by their boyfriends. IDK about you, but to me that is a total submissive.
I know many women who are naturally dominant but will submit in under the right condition. I myself sometimes will submit to my Dominant girlfriend who is a sadist blood fetishist. I love offering her my blood on occasion, but I don't ever submit to men lol. Women are superior and sometimes worthy of my submission. Men generally aren't.
This is why I try to get a good understanding of what my date wants so when we get together there is no confusion or disappointment when he leaves me.
I am not for everyone, but I have flown 3,000 miles to accommodate 1 lucky fella. I never did mind catching the red eye flight. BDSM is in my blood. I have a passion to play.
I'm flattered by the offer and I might take you up on it some day but I'm getting ready to take a long trip myself. I'm sure that guy was a lucky fella. If it was a couple of years ago and I was still unattached I would have flown you here to rent a place on a nice secluded beach I know of for a week. And then you could have given me some extensive training in how to "lick your ass real good". I'm sure it would have been heavenly. Maybe some day we can spend some quality time together.
I agree with Leahjames, it's all about communication. Although I'm not sure how "I want to be dominated sensually" turns into "I want to spank you". lol
Sorry you had that experience.
If you provided a link that clearly shows what you're interested in and then the lady behaves in person as if she has no clue, I'd question if it was even her you communicated with via email. Also, please don't assume the worst of all ladies who have the BDSM or domination boxes checked on P411. Many of us are the real deal. Reviews can be helpful in determining if you and any provider you're considering in the future are a good fit. Good luck finding kinky fun!