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Hedonist51 1 Reviews 2445 reads
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Now that there are so many hybrid GFE/BDSM providers, I'm wondering what affects a client's decision to see a BDSM only provider? Equipment, wardrobe, specific fetish, personality?

For me, it probably comes down to equipment or atmosphere- a dungeon-like incall ambience vs. a hotel room; and specific fetish requests that can be discussed when arranging to session.

When I hope to mix in more intimate body worship & some reciprocation play, I look for a provider who combines both.

For hybrid providers, do you have a preference- keeping your services separate?

BadBraelyn485 reads

BDSM encompasses so many aspects that only providers that really have a true ideal about it know how to properly separate it. The "BDSM" itch has gotten popular over the past 2 years or so. Now it has gone full throttle, most providers offer everything thinking it will help them, but in actuality they have some furry cuffs, rope and a Burt plug for their BDSM/kink session.  

I am a true submissive who also offers GFE. I used to just advertise as purely BDSM but I figured there are more clients into GFE with that hint of BDSM/kink added to the session. So on my website I combine the two, however I have access to a real dungeon and I have real equipment( the kind that leaves marks).

Braelyn

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LenaDuvall360 reads

What you're saying in regards to authenticity makes sense to me Braelyn. Though, what others have pointed out about access also resonates with me. To answer Hedonist's question, a time or two I have considered also offering my submissive services sans a GFE element, but a fusion is what I find to be most pleasing and true to the desires that arise for me during a kinky encounter.

And while I would love to have ongoing access to all the gear that can be found in a fully equipped dungeon, it's just not feasible for me. Neither in the city where I live and especially not during the several times out of the year that I'm touring other cities.    

So I'll admit that I'm totally that person that packs approximately a dozen plus light to moderate intensity implements. And this is somewhat informed by practical logistical concerns. But I've also found that I've developed a low-key fixation for DIY, not-explicitly-made-for-BDSM objects that are used with the utmost perversity. Breast and nipple play is a favorite of mine. Someday, I'd love to own a breast and pussy torture chair valued at 300-400. At the same time, experiencing the pain that was inflicted to my nipples by someone strategically putting to use a homemade  contraption made with bamboo skewers hurt just as good. ;)  

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AngieSummers342 reads

I have separate websites for each of my "personas", but I advertise them together.  I am a true submissive and "people pleaser".  My pleasure truly comes from providing pleasure to others, whether that entails serving as their submissive, being totally GFE or an all out PSE.  

I travel with many toys, but lately have scaled back a bit on weight (limited to 2 checked bags under 50 pounds) and on some of the really hardcore BDSM toys as I find that only a rare few that book such sessions with me know how to properly use them.  I bring a variety of paddles, floggers, plugs, vibrators, etc.  Plenty to have lots of fun.

At home I have an incall that is mostly decked out for sensual pleasures, but have a massage table, spanking bench and boxes of toys and equipment that can be taken out as needed.  I do have access to a few full dungeons if required.

Related Link: http://www.slaveangie.com

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MaxienneRobey430 reads

For me, I prefer to keep my services blended when appropriate. I think of myself as a fetish provider first who does not shun the intimacy and sensuality of kink.

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QueenBia379 reads

I have noticed that the majority prefer a combo of interests that are not your typical Domina.  I prefer to keep all doors open.  When I used to advertise as a strictly BDSM provider you loose a lot of clients that are interested in more sensual activities.  I hate to limit myself, or my new friends.  

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zoeybelladonna406 reads

I'm a blended BDSM & GFE provider and I genuinely enjoy sessions with both rather than just strictly BDSM. I find it to be more satisfying to approach from a holistic sense, a lot more room for creativity and *real* cerebral intimacy and power exchange. Unfortunately, its very difficult to find legit dungeon spaces okay with GFE as well, and for most providers (including myself) starting one is just not a possibility due to time, money, and risk. I certainly wish there were more, especially when touring. I always end up having to bring a huge suitcase dedicated only to gear, and damn is leather heavy!

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ranilane702410 reads

I offer KGFE (The KINKY Girlfriend Experience), strict BDSM and sensual BDSM.  While I have separate sites for BDSM & escorting, I make it clear that one only gets what they request.  I don't attempt to dominate gents who book an escort appt, and I don't give the girlfriend experience to subs who book me for strict BDSM.  The sessions I enjoy most are the sensual BDSM ones, because I get to merge my most popular skill sets in wonderfully exciting ways.  It's the best of both worlds.

Related Link: http://VegasEbonyBDSM.com

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QueenBia372 reads

I offer almost everything, but feel TER fellas are mainly vanilla players & will shy away from a BDSM provider.  I do not have a dungeon, but I am fully equipped.  Most dungeons do not support the fetishes I do offer they're considered taboo.  In the real World most Mistresses live a normal life & do have boyfriends, husbands, etc., so the traditional, or old school Domina is almost a thing of the past.  If you look up the definitions of BDSM vocabulary a Domme is still considered a sex worker regardless if it is on the menu, or not.

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