You are so brimming with sexual energy, I would dare anyone to feel otherwise.

But, all kinds of movements have their purists, and BDSM especially.

To each their own, it's a big ocean out there, after all.

Personally, it is impossible for me to separate BDSM and sexual play. As a sub, I will do nearly anything to please my Top should the chemistry be right, and I've yet to meet a man (or woman) that turned down pleasure when I beg for it. Not to sound greedy, but why should I get all the pain and none of the pleasure?! But in seriousness, I have been judged for it by some communities and scenes, but I still am proud of my rampant sexuality! We are treasures in a world of hush-hush kinks, ice queen wives/girlfriends/partners and condemnation for living loud and proud.

I can see how it makes sense for Dommes being in the untouchable Goddess role, but as a sub, we are just little play things for our Masters

Thanks for the post, Bebedoll!

But as you discuss that hasn't always been the scene.  And in some areas of play that is still the "norm".

But after getting back into the game after a fairly long hiatus I have found that many of the gals that I have seen for GFE sessions have now become BDSM sessions that ALWAYS has FS as part of the scene.

I just had a double last week that exemplifies exactly what you are discussing.  This session had two gals (one very very submissive with her gal pal more into the Domme scene).  The two hour playtime was the first hour BOTH gals played as bondage sluts for me.  And the "corporal" that I used was a shitload of fun (at least for me it was ).  And with their uncontrollable laughter I am guessing they were enjoying it too?  Tickling is such an evil "torture"..don't you think?

The second hour we "switched" and the Domme gal had her way with me while the submissive gal just laid on the GFE part of a session.  I think I can safely say that "everyone" got something they liked during the two hours.  I know that I would repeat this type of session in a heartbeat.

And many other gals that I am currently playing with are "experiencing" BDSM in a way that they are more curious about than as a lifestyle player.  Some just are a one and done as the BDSM is too intense for them...but I always stay within a gal's limits as she expresses them.  While other ladies seem to want to explore their own limits...and I'm more than happy to oblige

I generally stay away from the commercial dungeons here in ChiTown.  Been there and it's not the scene I prefer to play in.  I find there is nothing like seeing a gals eyes widen when they realize that they are in such a restrictive hogtie that they are truly "exposed".  Start adding on clothespins, rubber bands, wartenburg wheels, crops, floggers and such and the game is really on.  A few gals have now experienced a TENS unit and ironically many really enjoy that sensation.

I'm always looking for NEW ladies to "experiment" with and on.  And it doesn't seem there is a shortage of those gals in Chicago

Great reviews. When are you cumming to St Louis?

I am happy 2 read your post!

Your older, than me and I agree the stereo/type that comes with old school BDSM play is not the norm & who does not want some sexual pleasure from our kinky fun?


lol great post!

But, I could not imagine my BDSM play without a heavy sexual element. Sometimes just oral but my wife and I each always make sure the other has an "O" or two. Why would anyone want to beat without the treat?

Good post.

You are going to get pillored by the "domination is not prostitution" crowd who seem to get hysterical if I even ask if nude facesitting is available, at least in Chicago.

Having played with bebedoll a number of times, I'd have to say she's the exception and not the norm. Most involved in the, shall we say "professional" BDSM scene, don't allow sex of any kind in their sessions.  I've met only a few professionals -- no names, please -- that incorporate sex into their BDSM play. It does seem to be the "line" that many professional Dommes (and switches and subs for that matter) do not feel comfortable crossing -- either for fear of legal action or the feeling that not incorporating sex into their play differentiates them from being labeled "an escort." I've met Dommes who look down on escorts simply because escorts/providers were in the "sex for money" business and not providing a BDSM service. And, of course, professional dungeons cannot legally offer any sexual services.

It is the "elephant in the room" that gets conveniently ignored by many in the BDSM world.

Having played with bebedoll a number of times, I'd have to say she's the exception and not the norm. Most involved in the, shall we say "professional" BDSM scene, don't allow sex of any kind in their sessions.  I've met only a few professionals -- no names, please -- that incorporate sex into their BDSM play. It does seem to be the "line" that many professional Dommes (and switches and subs for that matter) do not feel comfortable crossing -- either for fear of legal action or the feeling that not incorporating sex into their play differentiates them from being labeled "an escort." I've met Dommes who look down on escorts simply because escorts/providers were in the "sex for money" business and not providing a BDSM service. And, of course, professional dungeons cannot legally offer any sexual services.

It is the "elephant in the room" that gets conveniently ignored by many in the BDSM world.

Thank YOU!! Great Post~Count Me in as a New Age Dom

Throw in some PSE ta boot. My website got mentioned in the LAWeekly a few months ago in a contraversal article about pornstars vs escorts and who is safer. My website was mentioned, like how dare I have 1 website advertizing "adult film star, escort, domina, webcam fetishist". Why do I have to separate who I am, on what would be  4 different sites? Screw that, I was told I should keep my dommi/fetish stuff separate 10 yrs ago but as you see it didn't influence me. But, it certainly has crossed my mind several times. After that article, even tho I knew it was all about conteaversay for the writer but it bugged me so, I took all those descriptions off my opening page. Ok, I'm stopping I could carry on about this forever probably lol. Great Posting!! Hear, Hear!!!

As someone who has the privilege of seeing you (unfortunately years ago) I was THRILLED at the combinations we were able to create.  Switch, fetish, sex.. mmmm

I hope we can cross paths again soon

Many's the time I've been looking for a BDSM with sex provider, and found someone who looks right, but I've not gone ahead once I see the disclaimer:

"NO SEX"

Sometimes I wonder if they're putting that up just to protect themselves, but I usually just see that and move on.

Love love love heavy bdsm ala www.sexandsubmission.com

Any San Francisco providers that find this fun????

I am there wed - fri and would love to find this girl!