I think you should've set rules and expectations from the beginning. If he is a gentleman, he would've been understanding. Sounds like a miscommunication, then again if it were me I'd probably asked why you were crying and stopped. so he also night be lacking common sense?
Make hobbiests wash their hands before a session! Pussys are delicate and it's important to shower and wash hands before fiv and other intimate contact. Sorry you experienced this!
You made it pretty clear as to the services that you were willing to provide given your situation. It also sounds like you might want to take some time off and see a doctor. Just my opinion. Sorry that he crossed the line.
Posted By: Lena789
I have had an unfortunate session with a client that performed fiv, daty, while I was crying and screaming "ouch"
Recently, I have been having recurring yeast infections that are quite painful and uncomfortable so I decides for the time being to stop full services, but continue with others that don't affect it. I made this very clear to my client of what I don't provide and he said it was fine. Well, as soon we were going to town he kind of forces his hands inside me... I didn't say "stop", but I was crying.
I just don't know if this is my fault, his fault, or both of our faults. I should have said stop and made him walk out the door, however I don't want to necessarily blacklist him because I did not say stop. I know sometimes when you are in the heat of the moment you can forget He will probably ask for another session next week. I doubt I will take him, but what should I say? How can I prevent this from happening?
I hate when anyone tries to put fingers inside of me, I'm sure to tell guys that I have a finger phobia. Smokers are the worst! I would just be sure to stress that you don't enjoy it.
I am sorry that this happened to you. It must have been an awful experience. In the future, speak up, stand up for yourself, and say "no". You can still be polite and courteous while being your own advocate and being clear. Good luck to you. *hugs*
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Sorry you had a "bad experience".
First, stop providing while suffering from in your words ...........recurring yeast infections, that may be passed on, and on, on to others.
Second be very clear about what services you do or do not provide............it was as clear as mud in your post, so just playing the devils
advocate may be you were equally clear with the john.
Three, anyone who wants to see a provider being previously advised that she was suffering from said infections has to be questionable to
start with,
Really, please.....
Suzee
I concur! Bad decisions all in all.
You just lost stock honey bear! Recurrent yeast infections ? A provider? That worries me...
I'm with onerealhotmomma on this. Providing with a yeast infection, and your advertising this? Can't be good for business. On the other hand, if you made clear your boundaries this client should be ashamed of him or herself for continuing in the face of crying. The is a thing called human decency.
Yes, I have gone to the doctor three times and keep coming up with the same diagnosis.
Thank you for the advice, and I can see where you would be right. It might be better just to take a break. However, with services I provide now it would be impossible to transmit a yeast infection.
Never provide while having a medical issue in that department EVER. It's contagious to your partner. I would have never posted this at all. WOW. I'll keep a note of it, though.
Please, to all here: DO NOT PLAY if you have an infectious/ disease / condition / malady ! Do yourself and your partner a HUGE favor, ABSTAIN! WOW!
Thanks for the advice, but the probability of a man getting yeast infections from a partner is very, very low. The only way a partner could have a small percentage of contracting it is if there was no protection involved or if the infection was in the mouth. However, again, I do not offer even full service. I am aware of the health information and I care about the safety of others . I would not ever jeopardize someone elses health or safety and keep myself well informed.
fiv, but when I do I sniff the fingers after.
So I don't do FIV, because if I was a woman, I wouldn't want someone's fingers up me--I mean, who knows where the hell they have been? I wouldn't put someone's fingers in my mouth, why would I put it in her vagina? The most I will do is rub the outside near hear clitoris, but never inside. If she specifically asked me to do so, I'd say yes, but quickly go wash my hands first.
What bothers me about this story is that you were crying and screaming in obvious pain and he DIDN'T STOP. Not. Cool.
Guys, if you're doing something with ANY woman, be her a provider, your wife, GF or even a one-night stand, you stop what you are doing and ask if she's OK. That he *kept going* is reason enough to blacklist him.
I know this may sound harsh, but this has all the earmarks of forced sex against a person's will and reminds me of creepy stories I have read about predators not stopping even when their victim is in tears, and that's indefensible. Just my .02, but Lena, you need to kick him to the curb and explain why you're doing it so he will know better than to do it next time.
That's not cool, I get heat of the moment but mm you guys had a clear understanding and you did not part to communicate. Your fault how? He is entirely to blame. I recently stopped allowing fingers inside me because some men don't know that a pussy is a sensitive flower and you never know where their hands have been period. 
I'm sorry this experience happened to you I really do. Respect is very important especially when you made sure you communicated what services you can offer. He disrespected you and you should definitely adderess it. I mean I understand not wanting to blacklist but that's you. Personally his ass would have been exposed for being so carried away my body and requests are ignored. No body should ever feel entitled. So I do hope at least you address him and let him know flat out that was rude. And again. NOT YOUR FAULT MY LOVE.
While I agree that he is to blame for crossing the boundaries set forth, respect is a two way street. She is showing her clients disrespect by working with an on going medical condition. I think it is even more important to note the disrespect she is showing for herself to work while having these issues. I understand the need to work and provide for yourself but sometimes you have to remove yourself from the game for a few quarters. No offense intended.
Posted By: Mochaabarbie
Re: Wow
That's not cool, I get heat of the moment but mm you guys had a clear understanding and you did not part to communicate. Your fault how? He is entirely to blame. I recently stopped allowing fingers inside me because some men don't know that a pussy is a sensitive flower and you never know where their hands have been period.
I'm sorry this experience happened to you I really do. Respect is very important especially when you made sure you communicated what services you can offer. He disrespected you and you should definitely adderess it. I mean I understand not wanting to blacklist but that's you. Personally his ass would have been exposed for being so carried away my body and requests are ignored. No body should ever feel entitled. So I do hope at least you address him and let him know flat out that was rude. And again. NOT YOUR FAULT MY LOVE.
I guess but either way In this situation he is completely to blame. Yeah in your opinion she should not be working period but her body so she decided to do what she has to do. The respect was letting the guy know ahead of time. The respect is giving him the option to not see her because of that, it would have been disrespectful to not tell him until the session. They had an agreement prior and he broke that. Period. That's the situation she told us and which we should judge. It's her body so besides opinion nobody has any place to tell her how to respect her body. You know how if she couldn't afford to not work so not your place to try and understand that perspective. She gave us the situation and that's all that matters. No need to shift blame that ok if she didn't work to begin with it would have been avoided no it would have been avoided by the guy not doing that to her period. Period. Period.
