I date a few gals who never worked as professional escorts that I met either through MPs, or they were a friend of an escort who introduced me to them in a threesome, and we clicked so started up our own affair.

 
Many of our interactions are similar to the SD/SB interactions I read about on TEH Board, so I keep up on that board to glean whatever I useful info I can.

I prefer a SD/SB relationship.

If you have chemistry & compatibility this is an awesome opportunity to enjoy each other's company without always watching the clock.  

Some guys have found better results on some of the "older men, younger women" sites.  The majority of guys can not afford or wish to spend huge dollars on SB relationships.  Some of us seek more real relationships more than a highly paid escort or SB but not exclusive etc.  This takes work to find but for some it can be far more worthwhile.  

I refuse to pay more than $200/hr for a companion and not desperate.  Enjoy Canada etc where I've found more my type of more sensual companions vs just the usual stuff - especially with Eastern European women and often at strip clubs or legal incalls.   In the U.S. of course the high costs are often related to the higher legal risks vs countries like Canada, Germany, U.K., etc that realize having legal options reduces harm/risk to everyone and LE can go after under age, forced by pimps and real crimes vs the pretend victims in the U.S.  

SB has so far avoided the legal issues since there is more of a relationship - which was part of the reason the 9th Circuit just decided to uphold the CA prostitution law since prostitution is more transactional vs relationship related.

I encourage you to try it.  I have been on the site for about a year and am having the best sex of my life in my 70’s.  Several ladies have gotten me off twice, and it has been interesting to meet everyone.  You have to be prepared for cancellations and other crazyness, but when it works it’s wonderful.  You can just get a 30 day membership, and that’s long enough to see if you like it.

You really have to work at it to get BCD on SA.  It's not like booking with an escort for a certain time, certain price, with a high expectation that the session will actually take place.

90% of conversations go nowhere.  But on the otherhand you can have 10 conversations going on at the same time.  So I would say that after a week or two you should have your first BCD event.   Like anything else, you can grease the skids with dollars.   But if you have unlimited funds, maybe escorts are the better deal -- they have more refined and consistent skills and are really easy to schedule in comparison.

I'm just starting out on SA; it hasn't been a month yet. I'm 65 and come from the escort world. I'd stay with escorts if there were enough to satisfy me in my area. There are just so few quality escorts where I live, like in, only one.

So far SA has been great. I've discussed it on the Erotic Highway section. My first M&G went behind closed doors, 19 yo spinner that looked so good that I thought about asking for more pictures. The pictures were her. Semi pro. She's texted me asking when are we going to meet again.  

I've a date for Wednesday night with an older, she says, mid 30's professional woman. She hasn't talked money but has talked which hotel in our area would work and do I have any clothing requests. Maybe another semi pro. I don't mind the semi pro's; in fact I like it. More up front.  

I've another date for Friday with a 22 y.o. Her description says she is sex positive with people she is comfortable with.  

To use the fish analogy, the escort world seems like going to the fish store, SA seems like fishing. In fishing there's a lot of work before you achieve success.  You have to work at the process and enjoy it. You don't know exactly what you are going to get, if anything. I will spare you more.  

So far many messages, many conversations going at varying levels. Many just slow to a stop, some me, some her. I haven't had a M&G stand me up yet, but I know that's coming and I'm going to hate it.  

So far, it has been great for em. It appears like I will have more opportunities than time, by a lot.

All the BS, involved in arranging a date is to time consuming. I have a business to run and much prefer a professional escort  where arranging a session is so much straight forward.  

When I read the EH board it’s a bunch of cheapskates bragging about negotiating a young SB down to almost nothing for a date.  

But you know what, to each his own.

I loved being a sugar baby. Best of both worlds and you get to know each other a bit more than just the hobby type dates. I'm 35( too old?) lol but have been thinking of a sugar baby type scenario bc it fits my personality well.. I always had luck on SA but I did also use Miss Travel a few times (not even sure if it's still around)  

Not sure where I would even meet a sugar daddy now lol.  I've had one guy offer but he gave me weird vibes so I declined. Happy hunting.  

Maddy

SA is TOTALLY different than TER, and it drove me nuts at first. However, I have learned the rules in this totally different game. I'm not chasing SBs for the lower prices (okay, to some extent I am), but mainly because of the dearth of quality providers where I live. In contrast to that scarcity, there are HUNDREDS of SBs. Why that is the case is a long discussion, and I think worthy of some serious study, up to and including a PhD thesis or two, but it is true.

The other thing is that I genuinely enjoy having longer dates, repeat dates, conversation, lingering over a meal, and SA seems a better fit. The sex is generally good, but not escort level. However, it has a real GFE feeling that I like and the "no clock" part is wonderful, because it makes it all seem much more like a real date.

Don't ever think of SBs as escorts. It's not their job, they don't get reviews, they have no "reputation" to protect, they are not rated, they aren't on pee four or other similar sites. They won't see you privately just because you show up with money. The biggest difference is perhaps just that; the SB is evaluating you just as much as you are her, and she may very well go "Meh" or even "Yuck",and both have happened to me. (For the record, I'm fit and not bad looking....for 63. But I'm often talking to women 40 years younger, so I take no offense at getting that reaction on occasion...)

SA will make you have a new understanding of the services provided (for both providers and clients) by TER and pee four, etc. In the Sugar Bowl YOU do that work, and sometimes it is a lot of work!

SA is harder to learn than the world of professional escorts, and in some ways, speaking as guy, I think I'll never get it entirely. Escorts are pros, and thus one can often (not always, LOL) expect rational behavior. SBs aren't pros, they are women from all walks of life looking to make a little money on the side and have some fun, so (no offense ladies!) the operant part of that statement is that they are women, and thus a total mystery. I've come to love this element of unpredictability, because I love women and their mysterious ways. But not every guy who tries SA comes to that point of view.

Try it and see...

It is being reported that SA is canceling memberships without refunds if there is any correspondence suggesting a pay for meeting arrangement.  They also sent a notice to most members.  Also, reported is some women reporting guys that suggest paying for a meeting offer.  This seems to come from the 9th Circuit ruling that sexwork is more transactional vs. relationship, which makes it illegal – so pay to meet seems risk of prostitution.  

See Legal forum for my reports on the 9th Circuit loss challenging the prostitution law on constitutional grounds - the opposite of the win in Canada since decrim reduces harm.

I’ve been on the site for a few years. It can be time consuming, but you learn what to look for and what to avoid just like reading escort ads. The time spent isn’t limited and you can avoid the ones with a sense of entitlement. When you get to talking money, you move on to texting. The potential sugar babies don’t want to get in trouble either. If they don’t want to text, for some reason, you use words other than p4p. For example, I would message her “I’m looking for a friend with benefits. How much of an allowance per meeting are you looking for?” It’s worked so far for me.