I have been in the hobby for 7 years now. Over that time the hands of time have reduced my ability to do the deed, so to speak. Just can't get it up and that is ok with me at this stage of my life.
Advice I need from a provider is this. I really enjoy pleasing my partner. How do you tell a new provider that I have ED and for her to enjoy an intercourse experience while on our date, she should bring a toy. When I suggest a toy be brought in the back of my mind I am thinking, did I cross that line of too much detail. I see a provider in Phoenix that knows the score. She has a great variety of dildo's which I "fuck" her with during our sessions. It is great fun.If you tell her ahead of time that you enjoy seeing a woman who brings along an assortment of toys. Should be something available from any professional you would see through TER.
Or you could always pack one of your own (new in the package, new batteries) of a middlin' size and let her make up her mind about using it.
And I'm sure that, being on this board, you've read all the threads about ED and have had your situation reviewed by competent medical professionals, right?
... if you're concerned about the provider not getting that "intercourse experience" is to see providers who don't offer FS but offer everything else.
Or do the dildo thing. 🙂
Have toys. Just ask 
There is no end to the ways in which people can please each other. Anyone who has been an escort for more than a few months will have encountered the need for extra creativity. Relax and enjoy!
p411 you can put that on your profile.. suggesting something similar...
for first time dates i dont like to get those questions.. although, most of the time i bring mine.
We are always told that discussion of a sexual nature can cause a new provider to bail from the appointment.
The suggestion about putting it in his P411 listing is great. Also the suggestion of bringing a new toy also.
Thankfully, most of my sessions are at fully stocked incall locations. One of my favorites in Phoenix has a wonderful fucking machine. As does a favorite in Atlanta.
Have fun.
Asking her to enter a discussion of a sexual nature before being screened is a no-no. After screening, a statement of your desire to have toys is usually not a deal breaker. Comments ladies?
Hi OP, I have clients who have ED, either on a regular or episodic basis. Sometimes the "little head" gets shy and that's just the way it goes! A thoughtful, inventive provider finds ways to work around it.
I'm delighted when clients want to bring sexy toys to add to my collection. Ask your future provider if she minds if you brought a gift she can add to her private collection.
Then go shopping, find something fun and not too crazy, and don't forget the batteries. (You might want to also pick up sex toy sanitizer in case she doesn't have any on her--it's not a great idea to use a sex toy straight from the box!)
Passion is all about the touching, kissing, rubbing against each other--so many things that don't involve intercourse. So enjoy the journey and don't worry about which body parts are getting the job done!
Good luck, sugar!