60 and Over

Appointments
SCBaileyT See my TER Reviews 2133 reads
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Do any of you book appointments without speaking to a lady on the phone first?  If you belong to P411, for example, and know that she can check your "okays"?  

I am sensing that men don't wish to give out phone number and may prefer just to go through minimal correspondence via e-mail or p411 messenger.  

I need to hear a voice, though. I'm just wondering how common this is and if it's something that an "old school" gal like me is faced with in the era of texting and tweeting, etc?

JakeFromStateFarm140 reads

I presume that's also true for most guys.  Time-wasters are a big problem, according to many women, and I assume chatting on the phone only makes this problem worse.  I you need to do it, that's your call.  But it sounds like a prescription for attracting needy time-wasters who have no intention of actually seeing you.  
One way to minimize the problem would be to first take them through the screening process.  That should at least weed out the worst of them.

souls_harbor142 reads

I've only had about 10% of ladies request an actual phone call.  Otherwise the entire scheduling is handled by electronic means -- usually first a p411 request, then maybe emails, and finally text messages en route.

Since this is the over 60 forum, I can say that I don't like phone conversations because my hearing isn't what it used to be.  I wear hearing-aids and they aren't that helpful during phone conversations.   So phone calls are often difficult for me, especially if the person on the other end speaks quietly, quickly, or indistinctly.  

And in route it is just less error prone for me to get a text of an address, room number, and directions than by voice which I then have to remember.

usually, the first time I hear her voice is when I'm at her gate and I have to call her for the gate code.

I've had a couple girls ask for phone calls before the first encounter. I thought they were pleasant, no problem. I didn't know whether that was a time to ask for specific services or whether that would put her off. I guess I should have asked later.

...to meeting. It was after the usual screening of checking references etc. had been done.  

I was fine with it.

a partial screening by a phone call. If a lady wants to hear my voice to get an idea of whether I'd be a good hobbyist, so be it. I have nothing to hide.

After I received the information for screening; in occasions I make a quick phone call if I have additional questions. Couple gentleman I encounter don't have the ability to manage internet & others.  

I guess it depends of the person and how they present themselves.  

V~

After I've verified the gent and there is a date set for our meeting. I've found the men I'm meeting with appreciate it.

Steph XO

I've dated many women since my hobby career began in 2002.  I've never spoken to them on the phone before meeting.  I would find that uncomfortable.  I feel I can express myself more succinctly and effectively with the written word.  OK typed word.  No misunderstandings about what was agreed. You can always go back and read it again.

I really love the well worded e-mails and fun exchanges, myself. I've always spoken on phone, too, but have had a few e-mail exchanges with people who knew how to introduce themselves and booked well in advance, before they came to California, for example. It was part of the initial fun for both of us. Not necessarily sexual in tone all the time, but sometimes there were fun flirtations in e-mail exchange.

Please see my todays post in General-EOM

Sorry they did not print my comments in "general discussion" probably because I named the provider who refused to talk  to me about the incall strip hotel we would go to this AFTER I was screened.  

I agree with the wonderful CharleneLove's comment  in "general discussion",  'I do however find it nice to share a simple phone call to share a laugh/flirt before our smiles and bodies connect.  
It's another layer to the sexy journey.'

I actually often speak with providers by phone before booking. More personal, I can assess them from their voice. If they can't communicate , I know in advance and avoid hassles. Of course, I an old-timer and I realize this may nit be for others. Worked for me though.

When I first started years ago & had nothing, but time (yes) I had to talk on the phone with potential clients.  Now, I am not able to because my time is very limited as a (SAHM).  I prefer emails, plus not everyone deserves to have your # it is a privilege.

Most ladies I've seen have only made their appointments by text/email.  Sometimes there is a voice contact at the gate.  It is rare that the ladies I see use phone (voice) as their initial contact (but it has happened).  Also with voice, it can be difficult, especially with a new (to me) lady for our first appointment.  If she hasn't received and email/text from me and checked my references, there is no way she would know in a random voice call that I am not Uncle Leo.  In my early hobby days, during some phone (voice) contacts, I would have difficulty talking to a lady whom I did not know, and who did not know me, that by asking the wrong questions to find out of she was the lady I wanted to see, for her own protection, she often hung up on nye I've gotten better at this through there years, but nowadays, I ALWAYS try to get all the reference material in the initial text/email (hobby site membership, references, whitelists, "Safe" ratings, reviews).  This gives her the chance to check out how safe I am first.  While I provide enough material for clearance, I still don't give out my ID, or work references, and the phone I use for the "hobby" is a burner phone bought for cash, renewed with cash, and ONLY used for the "hobby" and ONLY turned on while setting up an appointment or while in transit to an appointment, so I don't mind the ladies having that phone number as it can't be traced back to me.

I can appreciate the way some choose to conduct meeting. To each their own. Im more secure in how I feel and also feel more connected with that phone call.

 Yes, burner phones are the way to go and securing pre screening via P411 and TER white list info, review history, too, make screening a breeze, for the most part.  

. Im finding that there actually still are many who, despite having P411 references and/or TER white list, do like the phone contact and its working fine now and providing both of us with a personal connection. I cant do "GFE' or longer engagements without setting that stage via phone calls. Seeing me is part social, not just a bedroom experience, which holds true for many clients, as well. But to each their own!

I would much rather hear her voice and have a little chat.  That does not happen too much any more

I'm a bit old school myself having been playing since long before the internet was invented. It just seems in those cases we are both pretty confident that the person we are meeting is OK and probably compatible.  I am wondering Bailey, do you still have a "get to know you chat" on your sofa when your guy arrives?  I really miss that - it makes for a much more pleasant visit.

Too bad you are on the other side of the continent.  I like the way you think.

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