Would appreciate some feedback and advice...
I recently saw a lady I had spent time researching and communicated (email) with regarding my desires for our encounter. Her site had two flavors of encounter, and I paid the fee for what I was looking for...
I had an enjoyable time, but left unfulfilled because we never got to the prostate massage I need these days...
I was hoping to hear from her about it, but crickets. I feel a little foolish and I'm suspicious she took advantage of the situation. So do I let it go and move on? Write a review? Or address the matter with her?
It would help if you could give us more details.
What I THINK happened, based in your post, is that you discussed your expectation of a prostate massage before the date, and based on what she said you believed you'd get one. Is that right?
If so... it's possible it was an honest oversight, that she simply forgot you wanted a prostate massage. Did you say anything during the session to remind her about it? Since it was very important to you, that would have been a good idea.
Why do you expect to hear from HER about it? She might not realize how disappointed you are. You could politely mention your disappointment to her and see what she says.
Your post is also not clear about whether prostate massage is explicitly included in the level of service you chose.
I'll say this about prostate massage... I enjoy it but I don't expect it. However, I know several providers who are great at it and from what I can tell they enjoy doing it. Sometimes they'll initiate it and sometimes they don't, but if they don't and I ask for it during the session they always do it. I always make sure I'm really clean "down there", not only for prostate massage but othe activities. I have no idea if there was a hygiene issue here, but if so that could have been a reason the provider didn't give you a prostate massage.
Sorry if I wasn't clear in my post. Yes, the prostate massage was discussed and she advertised that service. She even said that was one of her specialties. I did bring it up, but it was late in the session as I lost track of the time.
I don't think hygiene was an issue because I did mention that I had prepped to meet with her. I think you're right and for whatever reason decided she wasn't interested. I'll chalk this one up to lessons learned and move on. Disappointing, because otherwise had a great time...
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... when you brought up the prostate massage, and what was her reaction/response?
About 20 minutes and I asked if we could extend another 30, but she had a prior commitment.
Ok, that's enough time for a prostate massage. But what was her response/reaction to your reminder about the prostate massage with 20 minutes left? If she just blew it off, good riddance to her!
She didn't perform as agreed upon prior to the date so you are on solid ground to be clear about it your review...it just might wake her up to fulfill her promises and at least forewarn other gents who are considering requesting a date and also expecting prostate massage !
I agree a lot of what happened isn't clear from your post.
But the thing about prostate massage, is it's not like sucking on a guy's nipple or nibbling an earlobe... you don't just try it and see if he seems into it. I am LOATH to touch anyone back there who has not made it clear they would appreciate it. Some guys make it pretty obvious with body language, but the best tack is ALWAYS to say something. If you think you might feel shy about it, it's best to ask ahead of time over email or whatever. If you ask, and she says she offers prostate massage, and then never gets around to it, you really have to speak up. Sometimes the things we discuss beforehand just slip our minds in the moment. It could be a totally innocent oversight.
Providers are only human and she could have very well forgotten. We all know they are in the biz of providing the ultimate enjoyment - and we have to be very upfront what kind of experience we would like to have. Nothing like candidness!
I offer this service, and I think if a provider states she provides this service on her site & you inquire via email prior to booking, yes she should have supplied your request during the session. I think you should write a review. I read that, so many are not getting the services that are advertised, or that they pay for. Your paying for her time, but your time is also valuable too.
Spend it wisely. If a potential client emails me asking if I provide a service & I do I would feel obligated to provide that service during the booked session because that is obviously one of the reasons for booking with me. Many providers will fake it until they make it by posting services they do not really offer for marketing to make more money. If no one ever calls them out on their bs, then they will continue.
I just read on another board a man who felt taken advantage of by a provider who clearly offers Greek & she charged an additional fee, but did not preform. No integrity. She should have attempted, or gave the additional fee back because she was not willing, or able. Do your research & if the lady is lying write the review, so other guys do not waste their time too.
Money is not everything, but time is, we can never get our time back. Sorry for the errors I have not had a cup of coffee this a.m. lol Smile 4 me! Make it a great day!