I'm a "somewhat newbie" - getting back into the game after a long break, and would appreciate advice from more experienced heads. The issue/problem is that I live in a small metro market - it's a delightful place amidst the vines, but the opportunities for mongering are highly limited. Postings on the available sites are few and far between and most all of what you see is beneath discussion. So, anyway, there's an attrictive gal who has posted on local media.
She's not in TER or P411. She has been reviewed favorably on a site other than TER by a fairly experienced monger.She was a former porn gal - the tat on the leg in her photo and in the vids is identical. So my question is whether I should give this gal a whirl. My fear, as you may have been able to tell, is that in this tiny market she sticks out like the proverbial sore thumb - no safety here in numbers, as in Las Vegas, etc. Do members think I would be foolish to make the contact? Could I do a "getting to know you" first meeting, limiting it strictly to, say, massage? Suggestions? Thanks!
make your decision. Without more info than what you posted, it is a tough call.
Sometimes the solution is to make a short trip to a larger city to partake in P4P.
...myself, as I live in a small rural city in Oregon and the pool of available partners is slim (usually an occasional traveling provider with any kind of review background that seems legit). I've resigned myself to occasional trips (4 hours one way by car) to "play in the pool" of the nearest Big City with some selections.
While I've had fun, I'm limited to 3-4 trips a year, so my play opportunities are fun but limited. Ah well, such is life...
I am not sure what your exact concern is but...
1. Ask the "experienced monger" for info on her discretion. I have been with porn stars most of whom lived in respectable middle class homes one of which literally had a white picket fence. For all you know she might be a personal trainer IRL and no one would think twice if you say you are revising your exercise regimen. Lots of women have tats these days. Not sure what your concern is exactly. If you are concerned about where she lives, call and ask her "I don't want to know your specific address but can you tell me in general where you are located?"
2. Next time you are in the big city, ask your lady friend if she knows anyone who provides in your area. You might have a few under the radar playmates nearby looking for discrete clients. Who knows one of them might be wanting a few reviews so she can be on TER. Frankly I get quite a few of my most fun connections from ladies who say, "You should call Sally. I think you would have fun together."
3. Unless they specify it in their ad, few providers around here are interested in "getting to know you" meetings. Maybe its different where you are.
4. In a small area you are wise to be cautious about "Postings on the available sites." This is where lady to lady referrals are helpful. If you are safe, clean & well behaved, many ladies will be happy to share especially if you are suggesting a double. I just met a lovely lady and we discussed possible match ups as naturally as if we were discussing favorite bands. Yummy!
TJ
30-40 miles away from where you live. That way no locals will see you with her.