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Re: Again, bad advice Sorry, I disagree.
harborview 10 Reviews 405 reads
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This is the NEWBIE board.  I'll stand by the advise that Newbies are better served meeting on Neutral Ground for their first appointment EVER!   I actually see one Favorite Lady AT HER HOME!  No, that's not recommended either but after nearly 5 years we have devoluped a high trust.  Would YOU kendradc see ME at YOUR HOME on our first meeting.  I didn't think so.

To the OP, I really don't recommend having a provider to the home you share with a SO.  A hint of perfume, a stray hair, a whiff of pheromones of another woman...   Do you have a Death Wish?  Do you like the rush of Russian Roulette?  
I have never had a provider to my shared home...  but as a much younger & I must say dumber man, I was seeing a married lady, on some occasions at her shared home & once had to hide.  NOT as much fun as the movies.    

Ladies who host "incalls" have many advantages...  the room is in her name.  There's no paper trail.  Only if she gets the room expressly to see you, would you be expected to pay for the room.  (Reimburse her with cash, no paper trail.)  If she offers an "incall" she bears the cost.  

Newbies Should see well reviewed ladies & you should learn to throughly research which will include / require you to get VIP & read the full reviews.
HV

Posted By: kendradc2011
Many of us see our gentlemen at their homes, on a consistent basis. We are not thieves, drug users or anything else that you should be scared of...this attitude really burns my ass everytime I  hear it.

Do your research...many of the ladies would be happy to come to your home and see you. Just make sure it is someone that has a few good reviews and a presence on the boards and on Date-Check or P411.

Hi everyone, I am very new and would like to have my first experience soon.  I would like the girl to come to me (my house). Is this a good idea? I think I would be more comfortable at home.

the collective wisdom is to wait until you've seen a provider a couple of times and built some trust before you invite her to your home. Remember you're inviting a TOTAL stranger into your home.

Now some will say inviting a well reviewed provider to your home for your first visit has little risk, and to a certain degree they are correct. The bottom line is how much risk are you will to take.

Do you live with an SO? If the answer is yes, be very very careful about inviting a women into your home. A stray hair here or there, just the smallest scent of perfume detected by the SO and well you get my drift.

Finally never invite an unreviewed provider to your home and here's why. What if she has a driver and he parks for the entire time in front of your home. What if she doesn't have the common sense to arrive dressed in a micro mini, cfm pumps and a top that reveals way to much cleavage, oh and your neighbor just happens to outside in the their front yard when she arrives. What if she has sticky fingers and leaves with a few personal items of yours. Or now that she has your home address decides to return unannounced with her few of her male friends to rob you. I could go on and on, but you get the idea. Good luck

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This is a very bad idea for two reasons.  

1. Many escorts simply won't do it.  You just cut your percentage.
2. She is a stranger.  Weren't you told as a child about letting strangers into your house?

The others have given excellent reasons.
Simple story. A gent had a provider he had never seen before come to his home while his wife was away. Things went ok. She used the shower before she left. Oooops! She took the wife's only bottle of shampoo with her. Yes, it actually happened. Solution simple? Maybe, maybe not. (What if it had been something more valuable.) How is he going to explain a new bottle when wife returns assuming he decides to go out and buy more. I assure you she will notice. It's her shampoo not his or theirs.

It Ain't Worth It!

You are much better off going to see her, for many reason, most of which have already been mentioned.  You did not say if you have an SO, but that would be the biggest reason not to have her come to your house.  It has been said many times on this forum, that women have an uncanny sense of knowing if another woman has been in her house.

While you might be comfortable at home, I feel her comfort is of higher consideration and she will be more at ease in her own surroundings, even if it's her hotel room.

Swim

in the world can't protect you from crazy. Have HER get a hotel room so your name is not on any credit card bill of yours, and have fun.

Thank you all for your responses so far. I do have a SO and will take all your advice into account. Being new to this the things that really worry me is law enforcement of course, getting robbed, and diseases. Any advice on those areas of concern.

That was the part you left out, saying you do have a SO. Although I do know many men that have one also and they are not concerned. They wash the sheets, vacuum, dust and never have they ever had a problem. You have to do what makes you comfortable.

Law enforcement isn't going to come and bust one individual, thats too costly for them. Getting robbed is a rare encounter also. Emailing her reviewers will give you an idea who she is and why they see her. You have to do your groundwork. Condoms, thats how you protect yourself, this isn't your SO so protection is a must.

Posted By: mugsy152
Thank you all for your responses so far. I do have a SO and will take all your advice into account. Being new to this the things that really worry me is law enforcement of course, getting robbed, and diseases. Any advice on those areas of concern.

Many of us see our gentlemen at their homes, on a consistent basis. We are not thieves, drug users or anything else that you should be scared of...this attitude really burns my ass everytime I  hear it.

Do your research...many of the ladies would be happy to come to your home and see you. Just make sure it is someone that has a few good reviews and a presence on the boards and on Date-Check or P411.

...that as you say "are not thieves, drug users or anything else that you should be scared of..." I still would not recommend anyone having the provider come to their home for a first visit. A person can do all that you mention regarding research but you never know. When their is an SO in the equation that makes it even less of a good idea.

After some time and trust developed then I would not be so quick to advise against it. I know some I would not hesitate to have in my home but not for the first ever meeting.

its burns my behind too...its like when i was stripping, *JUST* stripping, i would hate it when people would say that ALL strippers were stupid, drug addict money hungry whores.......it would make me so angry because many of my stripper friends actually were quite intelligent, smart non drug users who had never turned a trick in their lives and simply JUST strip...thats like lumping all of us together in to one huge bad category.

...were (are) stupid, drug addict money hungry whores. I have known some of the quite intelligent, smart non drug users who had never turned a trick in their lives and simply JUST strip. I have known many of the others too.

I wasn't attempting to bash anyone I simply wanted to advise a newbie on a first encounter. My advise to a newbie is very different than what I would say when considering veterans and considering that time has passed and there has been an opportunity to know one another and build some trust. I see a provider at Her house. I still wouldn't recommend it to a newbie.

Maybe I'm guilty of not qualifying my response to him by stating that you can't say all providers are untrustworthy but I'll stand by what I said.

BTW: the story I told about the provider that took the shampoo. It happened. It was not just to make a point.
I was not the guy it happened to but I was his, oh shit what do I do now, phone call.

This is the NEWBIE board.  I'll stand by the advise that Newbies are better served meeting on Neutral Ground for their first appointment EVER!   I actually see one Favorite Lady AT HER HOME!  No, that's not recommended either but after nearly 5 years we have devoluped a high trust.  Would YOU kendradc see ME at YOUR HOME on our first meeting.  I didn't think so.

To the OP, I really don't recommend having a provider to the home you share with a SO.  A hint of perfume, a stray hair, a whiff of pheromones of another woman...   Do you have a Death Wish?  Do you like the rush of Russian Roulette?  
I have never had a provider to my shared home...  but as a much younger & I must say dumber man, I was seeing a married lady, on some occasions at her shared home & once had to hide.  NOT as much fun as the movies.    

Ladies who host "incalls" have many advantages...  the room is in her name.  There's no paper trail.  Only if she gets the room expressly to see you, would you be expected to pay for the room.  (Reimburse her with cash, no paper trail.)  If she offers an "incall" she bears the cost.  

Newbies Should see well reviewed ladies & you should learn to throughly research which will include / require you to get VIP & read the full reviews.
HV

Posted By: kendradc2011
Many of us see our gentlemen at their homes, on a consistent basis. We are not thieves, drug users or anything else that you should be scared of...this attitude really burns my ass everytime I  hear it.

Do your research...many of the ladies would be happy to come to your home and see you. Just make sure it is someone that has a few good reviews and a presence on the boards and on Date-Check or P411.

I have seen several men on a first time at my home. I do my research, my screening is very thorough and I know who is coming through my door. It is only the few who get the privilege of doing so though.

Yes harbor_view I would see you at my home if you passed my screening.

Thanks for the advice.  I definitely won't be seeing a provider in my home, you made some excellent points.

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Any providers in your area who specialize in outcalls, and are well reviewed?  Some do only outcalls, and some only incalls, so your selection is limited.  Since I live alone and that is a key issue, I prefer them visiting me, even my female massage therapist (licensed, no hanky panky) does outcalls to my house, so much more relaxing that way.

After meeting a number of women at their place or hotels I had a second visit with a top girl
in my home, and she stayed half the night, it was great!!

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