in an e-mail or on the phone, I will not see you.

If you ask me for BBFS during our appointment, I will have to let any women who contact me for a reference know that you requested this and most, if not all, of them will not see a gentleman who has requested it.  Some women also blacklist men who ask for BBFS.  

Do not request BBFS at any time, IMHO.  

Hills said it's been offered to him, so I guess if she offers it and would like to do it with you, she will let you know.